How to handle disrespect from male friend

FereallyRed · 2019-03-12T18:02:44+00:00

3 guys, one pussy, drunk in a hotel room.

thrwy75479 · 2019-03-12T18:16:59+00:00

Even if it was said as a joke, I think he definitely sent her a signal that he's open to sleeping with her.

She had no choice but to say no because everyone was in the room.

If cheating happens, who you blame depends on what you value. If you value your friendship with the guy over the girl, then it's the girl's fault. In contrast, if you value the girl over the friendship with the guy, then it's the guy's fault.

Finally, if you value yourself over both of them, then let them be together, and keep doing you.

elgodo7 · 2019-03-12T18:12:54+00:00

he is not a loyal friend, the trust is over.

DiscordantMonk · 2019-03-12T17:59:03+00:00

Blatant disrespect and boundary crossing

bruiser18 · 2019-03-12T19:16:21+00:00

He will fuck you over in order to sex your FWB.

Do not trust this prick.

markinsinz7 · 2019-03-12T22:55:04+00:00

Hahahaha lol what kind of idiot brings a potential LTR around his friends at a hotel all drunk. She acted loyal but maybe it's just that you were there in the room, or Dan is not her type or she didn't feel like doing anything crazy. So don't be saying she passed any tests.

Next, your situation was ripe for a 3some since you were sleepin and you'd be surprised how many girls would have gone for it. Alcohol and drugs can make you really loose it in the moment. Don't in general bring a plate LTRs around the boys for partying unless you truly truly don't care if they sleep with her. Even meet n greet should be kept to a bare minimum, none if possible. Why deal with any unnecessary drama or competition.

If her friends are also joining the party that's okay but even then ltr materials are not the party types.

Lastly while others are saying Dan is a dickhead who'll backstab you in seconds (which is true) you should indeed kick him to the curb......someday. You see it can be quite tricky depending on your context - to simply go and find new friends. Moreover joining a new group will be a case of rinse n repeat since you won't have fixed your behaviours.

My suggestion is become a confident mother fucking guy that can slay pussy to the point you are never worried about any idiot friend making a move. In addition learn to achieve leverage in social circles(access to parties, drugs, other girls, etc) to the point that let's say 1day Dan gets a gf and he has her over for a party, you should have enough game and balls to sneak her into a room of that party & fuck her. Not only that all the peeps in the group back you up even tho u were the asshole.

I'm not saying you should do that but become capable of it. Your friends don't respect you, so learnt to make em - get jacked, learn to fuck em up or get some other form of status or else they'll keep shitting on you.

In fact I can sense to some extent - when that happened, u were awake and Dan said some shit like that and you didn't do anything or say nothing - 100% girl lost respect for you.

Yes maybe you played it cool maybe and dint escalate the situation but you didn't control the frame either.

Keep going, you got a plate so theres something going for you.

VisiblePlan · 2019-03-12T18:07:15+00:00

He just wants some pussy. I don't blame guys who have no game for trying that shit. If anything it makes you look better, epsecially if you don't react to it. Give him a high five!

HurricaneHugues · 2019-03-13T01:32:37+00:00

"Went to a party and afterwards we all were sharing a Hotel room."

I don't even know if I want to actually say to you what I want to say to you. Explain to me exactly how it makes sense to bring your potential gf to sleep in a room with you full of dudes. Go ahead. Break down the logic behind it. You're either a legit cuckold, a faggot, or a fucking moron. Right now, I genuinely want to slap you for even having read this fuck shit.

"I was half awake catching the odd parts of the conversation when something really stood out. Dan suggested that FWB sleep with him and John sleep with me."

As expected. You bring wolves next to your chicken, they get hungry. What part of the game is that exactly? Man. Why? I don't get your fucking reasoning where you think it's perfectly fine to bring a chick you're fucking to a fucking sausage fest in a hotel room? Couldn't u just get your own room? Fuck man, how do u even look at yourself in the mirror and think you're a man?

You don't have any friends. And that girl is also garbage if she didn't tell you anything about it. A decent girl would first of all be weary about stacking up in a hotel room with 3 weirdos. Then she would tell you straight up that you are keeping bad company. Why? Because she would be invested enough in you to care that you do not surround yourself with fakes and serpents.

If none of them told you anything the next day, they're ALL trash and you should drop them. No excuses no salvaging no talking. They're TRASH, all of them. Stop being so fucking stupid in life kid. Don't bring women you're fucking around your friends like a dumbass. I'm telling you man. You're better off riding this life solo.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-03-12T21:41:20+00:00

Slowly phase him out. Always become 'busy' when he wants to catch up.

This guy is untrustworthy to be called a true friend.

Vikingcel · 2019-03-13T00:56:18+00:00

She's just your fwb, not your gf or wife

StopGaming1234 · 2019-03-12T18:46:35+00:00

That stings. Now you are forced to cut ties.

VSelf47 · 2019-03-12T20:49:51+00:00

As someone who once pulled something like this, stupid shit, my friend talked to me and I felt like shit for a long time. My friend and I are very close and this has never been an issue.

Talk to him and gauge his reaction. If he does it again well, he is a piece of shit.

rDiothe · 2019-03-15T14:14:52+00:00

IMO

If you were asleep, and nobody told you about it the next morning ... either confront him or phase him out.

You: did something stupid in the eyes of TRP, maybe it’s a lesson learned

But do NOT listen to any of the pussy responses in here saying it’s open game on your “FWB”.

If any “friend” hits on any sort of girl you’re with and it isn’t understood by the group that she’s “for the boys”

Then they arent your friend. TRP needs to start calling out the retards

“It’s HuMaN naTure” - the biggest pussy excuse for trying to get out of the male burden of performance

Hit on your friends girls if you want, but you lay in the bed that you make

If you’re looking for “friends” it doesn’t seem like the guy in your story fits the bill

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-03-12T20:58:22+00:00

Good for him for shit testing her. He did you a favor.

She's not your LTR, you're not exclusive, he knows you're not exclusive, what's the actual problem? She can fuck who she wants.

Stop mate guarding.

ba11parkfrank · 2019-03-12T19:16:21+00:00

Beat his ass

Rkingpin · 2019-03-12T22:10:50+00:00

Fuck "disrespect" this is a dick swinging contest and there's only one pussy up for grabs.

Fuck you think your friend was gonna do? Sing church songs with her? Especially after a night of partying which gets most guys horny anyway.

If I tell my boy I have a fwb I ain't gonna lie she's open game for the squad

You're not exclusive so get over it, he's doing you a favour testing if she's loyal or not

signsoflife620 · 2019-03-12T22:49:48+00:00

I've lost a friendship like this before. It actually really hurt... I wasn't even mad at the girl honestly. Just him.

I'd suggest distancing yourself from him. I know it sucks man, but trust me there are way better friends out there that wouldn't do that.

Also there are different types of friends, you can hang out with him but watch your back, and never consider him a close friend

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-03-12T20:47:47+00:00

He’s obviously the dominant male if he’s making this call infront of you. You guys should have wrestled. The winner gets the girl.

Title	How to handle disrespect from male friend
Author	jk8971
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Date	March 12, 2019 5:55 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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"Went to a party and afterwards we all were sharing a Hotel room."

"I was half awake catching the odd parts of the conversation when something really stood out. Dan suggested that FWB sleep with him and John sleep with me."