A shit test is the crap a woman throws at you in pickup - challenges, insults, qualifying questions, and such. On first approach, she'll fling turds at a guy to see if it sticks. Frame attacks.

But what about all the times the guy drops a turd of his own, with little or no provocation? He loses frame. And because a woman's SMV radar is always set on high-alert, she judges him negatively.

Consider expanding the definition of shit testing to include ANYTHING between you and a woman that can compromise your frame.

Beauty challenges your frame, especially the first time you meet. It can be hard to keep your shit together. Overreact and it's game over.

Losing frame can be as simple as being uneasy about looking her straight in the eye. The slightest lack of confidence can break the spell she was weaving in her mind.

As soon as you act like she's more special than you, you're relegated to provisional status, at best... She doesn't want to BE the prize; she wants to WIN the prize, and then show you off to her friends.

Confession time: I meet a lot of people in my work, and I still find it easy to lose frame around an exceptionally beautiful woman. It doesn't matter if the interaction is business-only, social dynamics and seduction still apply.

Women are hyper-aware of social status, and the moment I treat her like the fucking prize in the room, she senses my loss of status. I fall from a respected professional to an invisible servant drone.

Rarely happens anymore, but it bugs the shit out of me when it does.