Never understood the concept of a monogamous relationship.

linkofinsanity19 · 2019-02-28T18:04:47+00:00

For RP guys who choose to get into monogamous LTRs, it's simply a matter of preference. When you prefer to not have to occupy your time with aquiring new plates (because they break) and you properly vet a woman, it can be preferable for some to have one girl to deal with. Yeah, she'll also require time juat as would aquiring new plates, but some men prefer to bond and have sex with a woman they have deemed worthy of more than just plate status. There are pros and cons to noth sides. Like I said at the beginning, it is all preference.

Philhelm · 2019-02-28T18:10:01+00:00

The point of monogamy is for family and dynasty building. If the goal is to just have sex with women, monogamy does not make sense. The problem with monogamy today is not that it's worthless or senseless, but that it has been undermined by the usual suspects (divorce court, feminism, cultural decay, etc.). In the context of monagamy, the reason you don't want infidelity is because you want to ensure that your children are of your lineage.

MrGreySD · 2019-02-28T17:22:20+00:00

Meaningful deep romantic connections lead to happy hormones in your brain, which will lead to a more fulfilling life. In the west, monogamy is dying but rates of depression is skyrocketing. It’s not a coincidence. Humans thrive in healthy partnerships. It’s not all about scarcity and sex

MrGreySD · 2019-02-28T17:17:21+00:00

Indeed your post is accurate in the western world. But one thing to keep in mind is that there are other cultures where monogamy is still a tempting concept. Imagine meeting a genuine 9/10 who is also feminine, intelligent and loyal.

After years of mulling this subject over, my personal conclusion is that medium-length, monogamous, meaningful connections with girls that meet the above criteria are the way to go. This creates a lot of happiness and allows me to focus on other more important areas of life (building my businesses, gaining knowledge, power, etc). You've just got to be ready to move on when the time comes.

I have plenty of friends continuously dating and sleeping around. None of them are happy.

WoodleyWarrior85 · 2019-03-01T02:51:07+00:00

You're right on the money.

The only point of a monogamous relationship is to conceive children. Commitment is needed for child rearing, since pregnant women require financial, emotional, and physical support. Besides, kids really need a functional mom and dad to grow up properly.

If you don't want kids in the immediate future, there's no need for a committed LTR.

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Realistically, guys are confused. They see their parents/older people/women emphasize monogamy and dating rituals (valentine's day, dinner dates, etc.) and assume they should behave the same way in their relationships. This results in people in their early 20's "playing husband and wife" with overly serious dates and monogamous commitments. It's ridiculous. It's healthier and more natural to just have fun until you desire kids.

Guys are commenting about the emotional/health benefits of romantic LTR's. Call me jaded, but I've never understood what this "special connection" entails. I've had plenty of monogamous relationships, and they were fun for a time, but I usually ended up wanting my freedom and normal schedule/routine back. OP is also correct that women hold the cards in these relationships due to their abundance of options.

For me, personally, relationships are about fun and enjoying the infatuation stage. I'll take commitment more seriously once I actually want to have a family (around age 40).

Imperator_Red · 2019-03-02T07:10:21+00:00

Dude pair bonding is natural. Lifelong monogamy in a legally binding contract might not be natural, but the urge to couple definitely is, even for high value males that can be having sex with multiple women. Your brain releases various chemicals after sex that cause people to bond, in both males and females.

wobbleelbbow · 2019-03-03T15:19:06+00:00

Youngsters teaching older terps.. hmm

McVaghunter · 2019-02-28T17:00:10+00:00

I completely agree with you. Monogamy is an unrealistic unnatural concept invented to help low/average SMV men get laid as Dan Bilzerian explained in his interview with Joe Rogan. Their excuse is that spinning plates requires a lot of hard work and time when in reality sniping plates is hard only when your SMV is average at best but If you're hot as fuck then getting multiple new plates every week becomes a piece of cake.

The problem is most posters in this sub are not interested in becoming the very best version of themselves because for them it requires years of lifting when all they actually want is just to get laid (probably for the first time) and once they do they try to get the government involved by getting married in hopes that it will stop their special girl from ever leaving them.

But for people like you in me, sex is indeed the best thing on earth, and too much pussy is never enough pussy. So Fuck marriage and fuck LTRs; plates are the ONLY way to go.

SwoleyMoleyFrijoley · 2019-03-01T13:37:17+00:00

I prefer my women like my coffee. Without another guy's dick in it.

RPSilverfox · 2019-03-01T11:07:18+00:00

A lot of it will have to do with age and where you are in your life. I’m 52 and have an LTR much younger than me and prefer this at my age. When I was in my 20s I spun more plates than the Golden Coral and was married for part of my 30s. So now I still hit the gym and work out like I’m 21, go mountain biking and basically live like I’m single while keeping a hot LTR around for sex and hanging out but definitely keep my options open otherwise.

TruthSeekingPerson · 2019-03-01T19:36:31+00:00

The reason for a LTR is trust and safety and insurance. The modern world which enables hypergamy undermines all three.

Even in a traditional world the man takes on an incredible burden when he gets married. Hitching himself to an expensive asset that is depreciating day-by-day. Of course, the woman is also tied to the man. But now we all have freedom from being bound in relationships so long as we don't cohabitate, marry or have kids.

The bottom line: Modern marriage is for rich people and suckers.

Lieisnotreal · 2019-03-02T02:19:17+00:00

This is very shallow and immature.

farendsofcontrast · 2019-03-02T18:11:32+00:00

I can understand how you as a 21 year old perceives this. But I want you to know that Marriage/Monogamous relationship/Pair bonding whatever you want to call it is not completely about sex or sexual exclusivity alone. There’s more to it.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-03-03T08:59:01+00:00

For me, this is a big reason for spinning plates. To build confidence in your ability to acquire options. Then if a committed relationship happens, you have confidence in the back of your head that you could drop her if need be, and be able to find new partners. Yes, we need abundance mentality. It also helps us maintain power - 'The person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.'

martypete · 2019-03-05T02:54:37+00:00

felt the same way when I was 21. talk to us in 10 years. until then, enjoy it.

Title	Never understood the concept of a monogamous relationship.
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Date	February 28, 2019 3:18 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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