Cried in front of ltr, did I loose frame?

RedPillD · 2019-05-22T01:02:11+00:00

Not saying it's the end of the relationship, but she'll never look at you the same way again.

Never cry in front of women.

juliank47 · 2019-05-22T01:28:13+00:00

Sounds like you lost your shit way before you started crying.

jmacke84 · 2019-05-22T01:04:25+00:00

Short answer, yes, you lost frame.

No matter how many times she say it’s ok, or that she understands, she’s lost some amount of respect for you in that moment.

The longer term impact on your relationship will depend on a number of variables I don’t have the energy or desire to list atm. Sounds like shit is tough for you right now so if you’re LTR is “nagging” you at a time like this it may be time to consider your options.

The only female you should feel comfy crying in front of is your mother. Best of luck

tyronethejabrone · 2019-05-22T01:15:49+00:00

Girls, all girls, want you to be their rock.

They want their guy to have it all figured out. And even if he doesn’t, they want him to not be worried. Because he is comfortable and he is confident.

This may sound extreme but it isn’t. Girls want this. And you showed weakness when life caught up to you. Es no bueno. She will worry, she will question what she sees in you, because you showed you aren’t her unshakeable rock that will get her through anything.

RRBeachFG2 · 2019-05-22T04:45:31+00:00

I cried after I lost my dad and had some feeling internalized for a couple months and let it out and sought comfort from my ex. Big mistake, I could actually see her losing attraction right before my weeping eyes.Sorry bro, they dont give a fuck.

showerdudes9 · 2019-05-22T09:49:51+00:00

I cried once in front of my 6 year long ltr, that was when my mother died and shortly after a childhood friend died too, was too much for me. She comforted me etc but there was something in the air after that, I could tell she looked at me differently.

She also passed away eventually though (2 years after), that time I cried by myself. I know it sounds like macho mumbo-jumbo, but the "suffer in silence" thing is very, very real, for men. Suffer in silence/by yourself.

Glowv2 · 2019-05-22T09:22:30+00:00

Look, people on here become so cynic and to an extent, it s alright. But it doesnt change the fact that , if the relationship can't handle tears , then you got bigger problems my dude. She only get the power you let her have. And no im not saying you should cry in her shoulder every night, get your shitty life together. But, it is not the end of the world here.

kfd_capital · 2019-05-22T13:35:55+00:00

Sounds like you got bigger problems than this chick.

zeekt12 · 2019-05-22T02:28:34+00:00

Its a wrap bro. Next

[deleted] · 2019-05-22T01:45:14+00:00

Well I have been in your position. She was okay with it as well but only time will tell us if their views towards us has changed.

StopGaming1234 · 2019-05-22T12:45:25+00:00

It's dumb, but crying infront of a girl, no matter the reason, be it plate or LTR is your death. She will never look the same at you again. This is the sad reality.

I remember when I saw my dad cry for the first time when my parents were about to divorce. It changed my whole view of the world. This rock hard cold men who took care of me my whole life and knew every answer is suddenly in a position I've never seen him in. I was literally speechless and my brain didn't know how to react.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-05-22T16:52:59+00:00

I’ve never been vulnerable with a woman and not regretted it. But in a way... life is just one big fact finding mission. Your about to find out how she really feels about you and this relationship. And if this causes her to start loosing interest... then so be it. It’s good in a way because your “finding facts.” You’ve learned that she’s not your partner and you’ve learned something about women.

MattyAnon · 2019-05-22T15:50:22+00:00

Is this something I should worry about loosing frame? I did clean myself up and started to laugh saying it came from no where and this is so embarrassing. She was ok with it.

She lost a bit of attraction for you.

Don't do it again.

CaptDeadlift · 2019-05-23T00:36:34+00:00

Used to date this HB7.5/8 2 years ago and I busted twice into tears in front of her (once when she said a shit joke about my dead companion and second time when I felt burnt out) and needless to say she still checks up on me and says she's ready to give our relationship another go whenever I'll feel ready( I dumped her , still fucked after incident).

My assumption is that only bad women will lose attraction if they see you vulnerable (as long as you are a high smv guy this shit should not flinch your shit).

Nowadays I tend to avoid such situations by crying myself out in solidarity but if I were to cry in front of one by sheer stress and she would later leave me then good riddance if you ask me.

We're still humans and sometimes emotions overwhelm us.

rendezvous199 · 2019-05-22T01:45:48+00:00

My brother, read the book 'The Way of The Superior Man' by David Deida

dontbeanasshole777 · 2019-05-22T07:12:57+00:00

Think of it as a test for your LTR.

civilizedfrog · 2019-05-22T04:03:39+00:00

Yes, you faggot. There is nothing wrong in crying. Just don't cry in front of woman. Is it seriously that hard? Speak about your troubles with your bros. It is even ok if you cry in front of them.

passepar2t · 2019-05-22T12:33:58+00:00

What's done is done. There's no point in feeling bad about feeling bad. If it seriously undermined your relationship then there's nothing you can do about it now. You have to look forward.

I'd say don't bring it up again and try to do a better job with holding it in and not putting up with her nagging. Also, maybe try not to get too carried away with slacking and smoking weed, as that is worse for your SMV in the medium to long term than crying from stress that one time.

watchguy45 · 2019-05-22T01:20:33+00:00

Your best bet is to dump her .

Focus on yourself and unfuck yourself. No LTR distractions.

Understand you’re never allowed to cry in front of a woman again. Even if family dies. It’s very sad, but it is what it is.

Be happy this happened. You will grow stronger from it.

Title	Cried in front of ltr, did I loose frame?
Author	ishyman
Upvotes	25
Comments	48
Date	May 22, 2019 12:56 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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