"Dying alone" isn't a big deal. Realizing this is the key to abundance even if you aren't getting laid.

Auvergnat · 2019-05-19T06:46:32+00:00

You can rationalise all you want, you will always feel shit when you're being rejected. This is how a functional human brain works. It's like feeling pain if you touch fire. It's a built-in, non-optional feature of the human existence, designed eons ago to ensure your ancestor avoids getting himself in a situation where he could end an outcast, which would have signed the death sentence for himself and the genes he was carrying.

It's absolutely normal for you to desire to get laid (especially at your age). It's absolutely normal for you to desire to have a social circle and to be respected in it. Trying to philosophise these urges away is like you trying to find rational and philosophical reasons to stop hurting when you put your hand on a hot stove. It's still going to hurt and you're going to feel like shit for not being able to find a way out of it.

Accept your human condition and work with the cards you've been dealt and the (real) rules of the game of life. Become high value. Get laid. Get money. Or spend your life hurting and vainly rationalising how to stop hurting.

Cods_gift_to_reddit · 2019-05-19T11:07:02+00:00

.....and until you realize this, you will never pull women, let alone live a successful life.

This is demonstrably false since myself and people that I have known personally have got laid regularly, and been successful in professional lives without the realisation that 'it's ok to die alone'.

GetMeLaidAlot · 2019-05-19T11:55:22+00:00

"We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of a very average star. But we can understand the Universe. That makes us something very special." - Stephen Hawking

When you put the existence of the whole planet and everything on it into perspective, there's really nothing to worry about; it's all so silly.

colinnb · 2019-05-19T06:30:00+00:00

This scared the shit out me

Bazino · 2019-05-19T15:45:59+00:00

Okay, I'm gonna tell you a short story from my time in the civil service of my country. Instead of going to the military I opted to join civil services for 1 year, because the military wouldn't want to guarantee my a training as medic but the civil services gave me that guarantee.

So I spent a year as a medic on an ambulance, but do not actually compare that to US ambulances, cause US ambulances are strictly emergency stuff, while ambulances in my country are split into emergency amulances (which do exclusively emergency medical stuff like accidents, etc) and standard ambulances which CAN be called to emergency situations, but usually just do transportation of sick/hurt people (90% of the work) between their homes/retirement homes/hospitals and doctors/hospital. So 90% of the time you would collect someone at their home, have to carry them down to the ambulance and bring them to some doctor/hospital (or the other way around). No doctors necessary and mostly no medical knowledge necessary either, but the gov likes to do this with people who have some basic medical training - which we aquired in a 1 month compressed course (symptoms, rescue and bandaging techiques, etc.pp).

One day we collected a guy from a retirement home. Usually the people you drive from those are very old and mostly sick or handicapped in some way. Most people do not want to end up in a retirement home. However this guy was different. He was very young in comparison, I think 62, and didn't really seem to have any issues. So curious me with the need to do smalltalk not to die of boredom asked him why he's in a retirement home being so young. Turns out, he had always planned to go into one at age 60 and it was the best decision of his life.

I needed to know more and he told me that it was an easy decision cause basically today's retirement homes are like hotels. You get an apartment and if you are not sick or handicapped nobody bothers you. You can come and go as you please and if you want to you have full room service and if you want to do stuff yourself or eat outside, you can do that as well. He was grinning all the time telling me that, so I got the feeling there's something more and kept pressing.

Turns out his main advantage was that he was by far the youngest guy inside AND he was in fact in very good health. The few men that are in there with him all have issues and or are in there with their wives. Basically he was a male 10 in that microcosmos. And that's how he scored. And now some of you will think that's gross, but we all get old and gross and you still want to bang. He told me he could bang anytime he wants now and most of the women in there are starved. He basically confirmed the existence of the Golden Girls phenomenon.

Conclusion: Your microcosmos plays a big part in your chances to bang. If you can get into the right microcosmos in your young years, you might also look like a 10, even if you aren't objectively. (i.e. Basically if you are a male version of a girl playing D&D, you have endless options due to microcosmos.)

StarchRunner · 2019-05-19T16:07:43+00:00

We all die alone.

If you see someone that's always has a boyfriend or girlfriend with no gap in between relationships, they likely have this fear to be alone and are imprisoned by that fear. It's constant. My aunt was like this and it paralyzed her. A week after boyfriend of 12 years died, she found another dude and I'm sure she found him before her BF died. She did this type of thing multiple times so it wasn't a one time thing.

50shadesofsigma · 2019-05-19T06:44:42+00:00

This is very important. Visualization, helps you bring out your best self in the pull and everywhere else in life where inner frame matters.

DiSysmic · 2019-05-19T17:41:53+00:00

We know we'll die someday. And that everything we did won't matter ultimately.

But we don't actively think about it, until we actually face a life-and-death situation or have a friend who bites the dust.

We live with a set of standard day life in our minds. We expect ourselves to eat a few meals, to hit the gym, to talk to people, and to work. Hell even to procrastinate. Death is an outlier. It's too abnormal to happen, and when it does, it only happens once. Expectations of normality thus cannot be built solely on this thought.

It is unrealistic to base the fear of rejection on the knowledge that you will die someday.

_thechinaman_ · 2019-05-20T02:31:49+00:00

Japanese Kamikaze Pilots died with their ancestors in the winds beneath their wings. Samurais lived in the face of impending doom or perhaps honorable suicide. Duty and glory and self sacrifice were on the line.

stoicbotanist · 2019-05-23T03:50:06+00:00

We all die alone.

Even if your wife and 3 dozen kids are by your bedside, you're moving on to whatever awaits you alone

guyau · 2019-05-19T11:29:27+00:00

Except the effort stoicism demands is inhuman and the stoic sage was an ideal, not a reality. Sure, if you want to live alone crossed legged in eternal disassociation with your body like a Hindu monk to escape the reality of the pain of never having lived beyond yourself in another person, go for it. Anyone who's worked in a bar has seen first hand that pain in the eyes of those lonely fucks who drink themselves to death alone at the bar every night to take the sting off

MarcosDomingues · 2019-05-19T15:07:11+00:00

Train your neck boyos, you don't want to get hit by a car and be paralyzed for the rest of your life.

If you're able to do neck curls with a 45 plate for 50 unassisted reps, which shouldn't take too long, you're good to go

TheConditionedMale · 2019-05-19T16:01:26+00:00

I'm usually pretty laid back and pretty good at not giving a fuck in general. This post makes me think of my mom who always over reacts to the smallest thing and freaks out. Whereas I don't view it as a big deal since I can drive 5 mins down the road and buy something to fix the problem for under $20, or it's something that can easily be fixed in a few mins.

Sometimes I do fail to be laid back and get nervous and end up fucking up on everything that I do. Also when it comes to girls I still get a shit load of anxiety doing cold approach/thinking about it (then again I'm still relatively new to doing it).

Despite trying to view things as not mattering and that we will all die alone some day anyway (just like how we are born alone) If something happened to me I would still fear for my life. If I saw a cute girl and wanted to talk to her I would still feel anxiety... Even though in the end it doesn't matter.

punkrockfishboy · 2019-05-19T22:45:39+00:00

Easy way to get your dick in a woman: Hire an escort. They cost $300-$500 an hour minimum. But, after you got laid with them enough, you will want more than just sex from a woman. Good. You want to be at this point. (Unless you're super simpy beta, then you need to redpill yourself more). To me, it's who is interesting to me, rather than "how can I get laid with this 9/10 chick?, when jacking off makes it all the more easy to fantasize and move on with something that rejected you, (assuming you actually talked to that girl).

Lieisnotreal · 2019-05-20T11:54:57+00:00

Ending someone else's life worse than being a vegetable ? Lmao you funny man

RedPilledGodEmperor · 2019-05-24T17:49:33+00:00

I honestly don't get the fear of 'dying alone' and think it's pretty pathetic.

[deleted] · 2019-08-16T11:27:05+00:00

I'm with you 100% and the reason I can go ages without pussy and not really give a fuck if I'm not getting any is because of this mentality.

you gotta not give a fuck if you died tomorrow. you gotta be 100% ok with the prospect of it all being over.

ultimately it comes down to having a level of detachment from life and understanding that NONE of this shit actually matters. I still feel emotions but I'm healthily detatched from them. I can choose the ones I wanna pay attention to.

it doesn't mean to not do anything. it just means not to stress because there's nothing worth stressing about.

I see it like this: nothing matters but since I'm here I may aswell do something.

meditation was the key for me to getting to this point cos literally made me completely content just being alive in the present moment.

Theguygotgame777 · 2019-05-19T16:42:05+00:00

"There's no shame in dying for nothing. That's what most people die for."

Bojack Horseman

magx01 · 2019-05-20T21:17:04+00:00

I was born alone. Being born is fucking TERRIFYING. Dying alone is easy.

Distractingyou · 2019-05-19T06:39:34+00:00

If i were to die to cancer my last days would be spent in becoming a terrorist hacker and writing a manifesto on why we need anarchy and why the forces of the old world need to go my purpose is kinda to make this world a better place and personally its a pain to see my government (i live in central america) pay it's debt to shitty world banks instead of it's people so my eventual ideal would be the destruction of my own government

Title	"Dying alone" isn't a big deal. Realizing this is the key to abundance even if you aren't getting laid.
Author	PM_ME_UR_1ITIS_SNAP
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Date	May 19, 2019 4:32 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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