Is she dtf?

319Skew · 2019-06-01T12:42:16+00:00

Same thing happened to me. Just next. Its not worth it.

Your frame = I'm a sexual creature that requires intimacy.

Her frame -= if I throw the possibilities of sex then I can get him to stay.

You've made your play. Some guys would say to give her one more chance. I'd say you've given her enough. There are plenty of women that are so into you. Exercise abundance, say there's no compatibility and fuck other women.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-06-01T14:27:16+00:00

"Said I only have sex with girls I genuinely like and have chemistry with and don't like pump n dump ONS (which is true)"

Hmmm okay...

"She then tries to set up a picnic date a week in advance, denied her request because it's too much commitment for my liking."

Uhhh... But u told her you're not Chad and prefer to get to know a girl first. Which is it motherfucker?

lvl100life · 2019-06-01T12:02:30+00:00

-she only has male friends/roomates who give her a ton of attention

Are you the first choice? That's all that matters.

-not shy about slutty behaviour but didn't put out (I'm communicating bf frame?)

If you're not fucking her, you're her girlfriend. Since you've denied the picnic, suggest somewhere. 5-10 minutes from your place, take her out, see how it goes, invite her back to yours. If she doesn't fuck, next.

Fulp_Piction · 2019-06-01T16:45:59+00:00

Overthinking it. Next, get more options.

BackOnGameJP · 2019-06-01T11:53:07+00:00

Dude she's asking you for a picnic. Reply minimally to her to set another date, then have fun with her. You're too focused on the outcome (sex) and that's may what is hindering you. Otherwise if you're not getting what you want from her in the next n dates [1 <= n <= 2] next her.

FereallyRed · 2019-06-01T14:36:45+00:00

You're feeding her validation hamster food for free.

Words are cheap. It's almost like you should pay attention to what women do, not what they say.

WIA20XX · 2019-06-01T18:17:59+00:00

Her behavior says that you are boyfriend material. She wants to do couple shit with you.

She's not down to fuck, she's down to make love and share her body and be close to you.

You want sex for sport. She doesn't. She might give it to you, but she wants emotions not orgasms.

This is despite your best efforts to be the bad boy sex provider.

As for the "beta" response, you played right into her frame. I don't think she planned for this reaction mind you, but a part of you is amenable to providing some emotional comfort, and she knows it unconsciously. (My take, someone else would read the initiation and picnic offer differently)

I think you could bang this chick, but given her behavior, she is going to bond with you, and you don't want to bond with her.

A natural or a sociopath would bang this chick. The natural would deal with the drama, the sociopath would feel nothing.

LilLoserFreny · 2019-06-02T18:14:47+00:00

She’s wasting your time. Hard next.

communistcontrolact · 2019-06-01T17:15:36+00:00

Kiss her you pussy

Title	Is she dtf?
Author	lvl100life
Upvotes	9
Comments	32
Date	June 1, 2019 11:45 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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"Said I only have sex with girls I genuinely like and have chemistry with and don't like pump n dump ONS (which is true)"

"She then tries to set up a picnic date a week in advance, denied her request because it's too much commitment for my liking."