We’ve been married for 6 weeks but together for almost 4 years. He dated his ex for 7 years, which was about 10 years ago, and broke up because she, understandably, wanted to get married and he knew he didn’t want to marry her. They have NEVER been friends since the break up.

She is still friends with his friend’s wife and she is always trying to hang out with his group of friends. Out of respect for my husband and me, they never invite her when we all hang out.

She also recently reconnected with my SIL, which feels like a huge boundary is being crossed, but whatever. I saw the Ex at a baby shower for his friend (it was women only) and she made snide remarks about the fact we were eloping. I told my husband (then fiancé) and he decided to block her on Facebook. His Ex went and told my SIL about being blocked and SIL called my husband to yell at him over it.

Now she made sure to be invited to my husband’s friend’s surprise party by offering to host it at her house. Keep in mind that we celebrate this friend’s birthday ever year and she has never been invited (my husband has known him since 3rd grade). Of course my husband told his friends that we would not go if it’s at her house so they changed the location, and now for the first time in 4 years she is invited.

I feel really uneasy about her after everything she has done. I get the vibe that she is pretty conniving and manipulative. I don’t know how to act and how to treat the whole thing. Am I just supposed to pretend her actions don’t bother me? After 4 years of knowing and loving husbands friends, I have never had to hang out with her. I don’t mind if it’s just this one time but I feel like she is desperately trying to become a permanent fixture in his friend group and that bothers me. I need advice!! Thanks in advance RPW.