Exploring Gender Differences As It Relates To The Concept of Sexual Deviancy.

We've had several recent discussions here as it relates to high n count women, and I realize these topics have a tendency to get out of hand, but I wanted to explore this concept a bit more as it relates to the concept of sexual deviancy, and the differences thereof between men and women.

Male sexual deviancy is a widely understood concept within popular culture. Feminists have produced the concept of "rape culture". We have sex offender registries. We have statutory rape laws. We have concepts like a drunk woman cannot consent to sex, and it is therefore rape (even if the man is drunk too).

People have a visceral and immediate emotional reaction to the concept of rape. It is sometimes even viewed as so ghastly a crime that it's viewed as worst than murder in some circles. In prison, often rapists are singled out by other inmates. Think about that for a moment. Even convicted felons will risk an added sentence in order to physically attack and sometimes murder convicted rapists.

Such a visceral and emotional reaction to the concept of rape cannot be a social construction. It must be hard wired into us. From an evolutionary perspective, it would make sense why. Women have very few chances, biologically speaking, to have children over the course of her lifetime. Someone who violates her right to select her own mate, and then negates her required provisioning for the child it creates strikes a serious blow to her ability to perpetuate her own gene line. While she could, in theory, have another child, her pregnancy from a rapist takes a biological toll on her body (as all pregnancies do). It also robs her of nearly a year of fertile life, which are remarkably few in number.

So, as we can see, there are very good moral and ethical reasons, which is rooted in our evolved biology, why rape would be seen as a horrific crime. Now as uncomfortable as said subject matter might be, let's consider if our attitudes about rape changes if we negate the biological underpinnings for why we feel about rape the way we do. Suppose a rapist wears a condom or a rape victim is on birth control. Under such a circumstance, the rape victim faces far fewer consequences of the crime. If you were an alien anthropologist from another planet, you might predict that under such circumstances, a rape that occurs with far fewer biological costs to the victim would be prosecuted far more leniently, and perhaps not prosecuted at all. And yet, that's not the case. To us evolved humans, it sounds absurd to even think such a thing.

So what we have here is an interesting dichotomy, where we can see the biological underpinnings for why we consider male sexual deviancy a crime, and we have strong emotional reactions to that concept of that crime, and those emotional reactions do not change even if those biological costs are negated. This illustrates something very important about our evolved biology. If we were to conceptualize it as computer program, you can think of it as background processes that are always on, always influencing us, without us knowing that it's even on.

So now let's explore the concept of female sexual deviancy. Just as rape is seen as a horrific violation because it robs a woman of her limited ability to carry on her genes into the next generation, men face the same risks when it comes to paternity uncertainty. If a man wastes his limited lifespan provisioning for a child that he believes carries his own genes (but in reality, does not), then the man has been violated (at a biological level) much the same way that a woman is violated (at a biological level) when she is raped.

This was such a biological problem, that the shape of the human penis evolved to remove another man's semen and replace it with his own. That is how deep rooted this goes. It took tens of thousands of years of evolution to produce a solution to a problem that men faced. That should tell you that men valuing chaste women cannot be a social construct.

Which brings us to an interesting place. We should note that male sexual deviancy is forbidden because it is encoded into law. However, this is not the case for women. In the United States, the average prison sentence for a convicted rapist is 12 years. But it's not even a crime for women to have a high N count, for women to cheat on her husband or boyfriend, and it's not even a crime to commit paternity fraud. And this is no small matter, either. According to the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, the rates for paternity fraud is as high as 30%.

For this reason, I believe that if we're going to have a sex offender registry to let the public know about the men around them that are sexual deviants, then we also should have a similar public registry for women with high N counts. If a man has personal knowledge that a woman has had multiple sexual partners, he should be able to post her image and legal name in a public registry that any man can view online so he can know who to avoid when seeking a LTR with a woman.