Last night I met a girl at a club who seemed really interested. We left together and I got Mexican food. When I was dropping her off she asked for my social media and then invited me to a different club the next night. Tonight when I showed up she was basically ignoring me the entire night.

WIA20XX · 2019-09-22T13:08:25+00:00

She’s a promoter.

She did her job, got you to the club. What's there to be confused about?

HoRaTiO12345 · 2019-09-22T13:55:25+00:00

Two lessons:

1) you should have fucked her the first night. Women's feelings change from day to day, hell from minute to minute, so you gotta strike when the iron is hot. Your window of opportunity is usually small.

2) the moment she starts ignoring you, you ignore her and leave. You acted like a puppy running after her. I would have left her ass to dry over there, she could go fuck herself. Have some self-respect.

FereallyRed · 2019-09-22T11:51:28+00:00

You displayed "relationship material" signals to a cock carousel rider.

machimus · 2019-09-22T13:48:37+00:00

She’s a promoter. She knows the main promoter guy and after we left she had to get her purse from his car.

Oof.

Wabbajak · 2019-09-22T11:03:25+00:00

Chances are, she just uses you as a member of her validation harem. If she didn't see you as an orbiter in this situation, you'd know. Next her.

HaroldTFinch · 2019-09-22T11:21:32+00:00

...And used you for dinner and promotion the following night.

The other guy whispered shit about you and what he was going to do to her after you had dinner. Did you pay? Likely. You need to take the tingles back after that. Which seems easy to do because everyone else you mentioned seems to have had her already.

Jugurthajones87 · 2019-09-22T13:22:35+00:00

She wasn’t using you for validation because she plainly wasn’t interested in whatever validation you had to give. She was testing you and you failed. When she started ignoring, you should have left her and gone over and chatted up other girls, having fun with other people. She would’ve observed it and come over to get you, shown more interest, etc. Because she wanted to know if you’d have status of your own or be dependent on hers. By orbiting her, you failed the test.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-09-22T11:18:57+00:00

Did you pay for her food? Did you get any nookie from her?

If you didn’t get anything from her she just wants your time, attention, and money with no sex in return

SniXSniPe · 2019-09-22T18:04:26+00:00

Tonight she wasn’t making any eye contact, I would have to initiate conversation with her every time we spoke. She would walk around to different parts of the club when I would approach her and basically she was acting way different. As we were walking outside I tried to speak to her and she sped up walking really fast out the door and to her friends. I caught up and still tried communicating with her, but she still didnt look at me but then would go on to have a full conversation with another dude.

When we were inside walking somewhere a guy grabbed her by her hair and pulled her in to whisper something then she pulled away but held his hand as they parted.

She knew a bunch of guys there.

A drunk guy locked arms with her outside and when I grabbed her waist and tried pulling her away the guy said “oh my bad is that’s your girlfriend?” And I said “yea” and she loudly said “not my boyfriend not my boyfriend not my boyfriend” as she walked away a group of her friends.

Why are you calling her your girlfriend if you barely just met? Wtf dude, she may have been interested in you at the beginning, but you reek of:

a) desperation

b) overbearing-ness

c) neediness

That's a turn off for anyone. Yeah, maybe she was being nice to get you to come back, but then if she was she would have never gotten dinner with you.

You need to chill out, my dude. If a woman is literally avoiding you as much as possible, she's clearly thinking you're a creep.

thrwy75479 · 2019-09-22T20:20:26+00:00

Yesterday in the other club when we met she was laughing hard at things I said, talking a lot to me and just generally being really nice. Her and her friends were calling me cute and after the club we all walked around downtown and she was walking really close to me and asking about my life. She generally seemed interested.

She’s a promoter.

I blocked her on everything but I’m still confused.

You got played.

Zanford · 2019-09-22T20:51:01+00:00

Promoter acted like a promoter even though you brought her Mexican food? I'm shocked, shocked I say.

You saying 'yes I'm her boyfriend' in from of her other meal tickets made you a risk to her keeping the other layabouts in orbit, so she had to distance herself.

Her purse was in the car of the 'main promoter guy'? She's snorted coke off his cock, bro. Fucking forget about her.

MisterRoid · 2019-09-23T12:26:09+00:00

Damn, that's some cringeworthy shit. Especially #4 when you say she - a girl you have been on a single date with and not even fucked - is your girlfriend in an effort to desperately mateguard.

[deleted] · 2019-09-22T11:14:16+00:00

Using you as validation/ orbiter

throaway69404 · 2019-09-22T14:57:01+00:00

She was interested in you, you fucked up. You kept running after her, when she was moving away from you which showed desperation. Should have moved on to other girls and she would have come running after you.

SolidLiquidGasPlasma · 2019-09-22T16:30:14+00:00

It’s called “ chase”

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-09-22T17:01:34+00:00

Gotta love club scenes. The drunkards are like zombies. they stumble around with lazy eyes. The eyes are key, look into their eyes. Drunk girls have a certain look in their eyes. The drunk guys scream and yell like douche bags, i keep dancing. I fear the result if some douche bags call me out. They would get a cane across the face.

Jesusfeminist · 2019-09-22T19:27:51+00:00

LMAO I used to do this when I promoted parties in college

Lolatlifeimsadandmad · 2019-09-22T20:35:30+00:00

Clubs are great for STDs and sluts. I don’t imagine people look for quality relationships in these places.

hmsthinkingmeat · 2019-09-22T21:26:50+00:00

I remember a long time ago me and my friend went out for a few beers around his home town (Halifax, UK).

At the end of the night we went for some food and there were 2 girls (well women - quite a bit older than us and they had kids and were divorced).

One of them was all over me, she literally wouldn't leave me alone so I ended up giving her my number.

She called we went to meet, and she did nothing but try and put me down, so I basically tried to get out of there. Didn't want anything to do with her, but the more I tried to get away the tighter she gripped, a bit like a boa constrictor.

I ended up in this crazy situation where she was following me back to mine in her car and I was trying to lose her but coudn't shake her off.

All the time I was in bed with her I'm thinking how the fuck do I make sure she doesn't come back.

So I guess basically, they fall all over you to suck you in, ignore and criticise to shit test you, once they're acting crazy you know you don't want anything to do with them, but if they'll spread their legs then you can't help yourself.

Even though while you're doing the deed you're worrying about the consequences.

So basically - ditch her, she's trouble.

It really isn't worth the drama.

MattyAnon · 2019-09-22T23:05:38+00:00

She’s a promoter

You met her, she got your details, and you went to another bar she was likely promoting.

This whole "seemed really interested" thing..... I'm guessing she was playing you.

From the actions of other guys you're not the only one.

Jabbermouth · 2019-09-23T20:29:32+00:00

Really hope you didn’t pay for her food. Haha that would be some major simp behavior.

HaroldTFinch · 2019-09-22T11:20:54+00:00

...And used you for dinner and promotion the following night.

The other guy whispered shit about you and what he was going to do to her after you had dinner. Did you pay? Likely. You need to take the tingles back after that. Which seems easy to do because everyone else you mentioned seems to have had her already.

Last night I met a girl at a club who seemed really interested. We left together and I got Mexican food. When I was dropping her off she asked for my social media and then invited me to a different club the next night. Tonight when I showed up she was basically ignoring me the entire night.

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