So not quite one year ago I broke up with a girl I had been dating for two months. I had known her for years beforehand, and had hooked up a few times, but this time around she was ready to get off the CC and wanted to "give it a real try".

Well maybe two weeks after we are officially together, she asks me in bed about moving in (in that transparent "oh my crazy friend was asking" way) This was about 6 months before I found TRP, so I was fully Mr. Beta Blue Pill in many areas in my life. But not when it came to my money. I told her she could move in when she could pay for herself and a pittance of a rent. It should be noted she doesn't even make enough money to feed herself and was living with her parents at the time. I held frame whenever she brought it up until we broke up. If you're a beta who's not going to be providing the bux, things are going to end quickly.

She started dating some guy who had been her friend's beta orbiter shortly thereafter. I don't know if she cheated on me, ultimately it doesn't make a difference, but she certainly had a game plan after we broke up, go down to the next one on her list.

Months go by, I find TRP, learn a lot, start improving myself, yadda yadda yadda. I find out that they not only were dating, but she moved in with him about 2 months after we had broken up. I laughed out loud and said "Wow... Beta Bux" and kept on being awesome.

That brings me to this morning, almost exactly one year since things ended between me and this girl. The good news came in, they're engaged!! All I can think about is how if I had said "move in whenever you like, we'll work the finances out later", I probably wouldn't have stuck around TRP long enough to learn so much, and I would be the newly engaged sucker. Bullet successfully dodged.

I think this brings up an interesting point about holding frame though. In most cases we talk about it because its necessary to attract and retain women. In this case it was the opposite, because despite all of my beta qualities, my refusal to capitulate on this signaled I wasn't going to be the easy beta bux she wanted. As a result I was spared months, years, maybe decades of supporting this chick. Today is a day I'm very thankful for getting some sense knocked into me here. I'm a much improved man with much improved women in my life and life is good.