Online dating for Cougar/MILF types?

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October 16, 2019

Spare me the “talk to women IRL” line, I cold approach plenty, I work on the road in the MILF capital of America (Miami)

I have more success online than in person, I close 2x more online, my text game is A1.

I have 2 plates my age (29) and 1 more mature (39)

I mainly use tinder/hinge online with decent success on both but find it hard to get matches for older women since their settings prevent them from seeing guys in my age range.

There’s a ton of Cougar sites out there but they all seem kinda scammy, has anybody had success with any of them and could point me in the right direction?

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Title Online dating for Cougar/MILF types?
Author somejerseydude
Upvotes 69
Comments 52
Date 16 October 2019 02:46 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Jesusfeminist163 points164 points  (19 children) | Copy

Trader joes/ whole foods saturdays at 11

[–]ggggggggee65 points66 points  (15 children) | Copy

Whole foods is milf city no lie.

[–]clickherebaby29 points30 points  (12 children) | Copy

Damn I know where I'm going Saturday

[–]ggggggggee45 points46 points  (10 children) | Copy

Go on the weekdays when they are running errands and are without their family 🤫

[–]clickherebaby21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mad man

[–]PandaLitter8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy

What is your method of approach?

[–]TFWnoLTR38 points39 points  (6 children) | Copy

Stop, look them up and down, "shouldn't you be in school?"

Has worked twice for me. Seems like older women are receptive to any form of positive attention with sexual implications. They don't get hit on as much as they used to.

[–]PandaLitter-2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

Isn't it kind of obvious that they aren't supposed to be in school or is it tongue in cheek? And do you have other lines to break the ice

[–]WhoSweg20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think if you need to ask this, you need to work on your soft skills my friend. It's not about a script or a conditional of "if woman replies haha what? Then Say 'I like this' "

[–]PandaLitter-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm not really talking to milfs in a sexual way in my day to day so yeah my soft skills as you say with them aren't going to be so hot

Is there anything wrong with asking them what they say to them to break the ice?

[–]WhoSweg4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I mean, I feel like you’re setting yourself up for failure if you’re saying lines that aren’t “you”. They won’t come across as natural.

My main point was what he said was obviously a joke and in no way was him truly asking if a 45 year old woman is supposed to be at school.

[–]DiscipulusLuporum4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the joke

[–]TFWnoLTR2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just approach and talk to them like you'd talk to any other woman. They're not unique creatures just because they're older. The only thing that is different I'd say is that you can be much more direct yet have similar outcomes as with younger women, but as always that can vary on a case by case basis.

That one line is really the only one I ever thought about beforehand and used multiple times. It's bad practice to rely on prescripted lines on approaches. It puts you in the wrong frame of mind, in my opinion.

[–]clickherebaby2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck that's crazy lololol

[–]KarmicPrism6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get there at 10pm, early bird gets the worm.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even lots of the cashiers are milfs

[–]AldoTheeApache2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

farmer's markets too.

[–]febreze_air_freshner3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

am or pm?

[–]MisterMarbles19881 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I prefer Sundays at 3pm

[–]Monitorul26 points27 points  (3 children) | Copy

Create separate Tinder profile with a fake Facebook that has the same bio and pics but an age you think they are looking for. Personally I find that just setting the search age settings is enough.

[–]Jabbermouth32 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy

Google Voice will give you a free phone number as well if you don’t want to make a fake Facebook.

[–]KarmicPrism5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is pro ;)

[–]gorillafarmer3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thx dude

[–]RedSkeller18 points19 points  (7 children) | Copy

Maybe it's my demographic (midwest), but I've had good luck with older women on Bumble.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (6 children) | Copy

Bumble is the shit it’s like an inbound marketing funnel vs outbound cold calls. Takes like 5 minutes of swiping per day and you get a lead pipeline then can choose from a selection of girls who are already interested and just sent “hey”. Saves a lot of time and is lower effort

[–]mountainbiker17811 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

A downside I found with bumble is that it attracts more masculine (strong independent) women.

[–]TheeSakred2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Love the sales terminology. Accurate as fuck.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yup because it is sales but you’re the product

[–]superjetale2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I second this. And they are usually DTF. Much less games than Tinder. Source: I use both

[–]DTJ1313 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

The is hilarious. You’re correct, most women who message me always say “hey” first.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think because it’s not natural for them to initiate so they just use hey as a “okay you are free to message me and lead the convo” type of thing.

[–]isitmorphingtime15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

Change your age on the profile, milfs and cougars often dont know they want it till they see it

Just make a point of saying your actual age somewhere

I literally said straight up I was looking for experiences with older women, matched and banging in a matter of days

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

Change your age on the profile, milfs and cougars women often dont know they want it till they see it


[–]isitmorphingtime2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]PhaedrusHunt12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bumble is better if you have high SMV.

However it's bad for LTR material. Women have to message first, so any woman you meet there will be somewhat dominant and aggressive by definition.

Great for hooking up though.

[–]mountainbiker1782 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

any woman you meet there will be somewhat dominant and aggressive by definition.

I've also found this to be true.

[–]failed_singingcareer10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fellow Miamian and MILF enthusiast here (lol). Dog parks. Workout places gym, park, etc (good place to game, show off physique). Higher-end bars. and yes, whole foods, trader joes, hell, even Publix.

[–]frognads3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just click on one of those 'local milfs in your area' ads, they seem legit

[–]somejerseydude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


Apparently there’s local MILF’s in my area trying to fuck RIGHT NOW!

[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't understand why, but I also have more luck with apps. And several women have told me I look better in person than in pics. Don't make no sense.

[–]Hydrakeen0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Did you try Fetlife? Had a hot 42 year old friend of mine say that's how she gets banged.

[–]BPasFuck1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

Fetlife is full of pigs and weirdos. What attractive women there are, are buried in messages from dudes hurling cock at them.

[–]Hydrakeen0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Ok so you dont know how to use it that's fine.

[–]BPasFuck1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

feel free to post a fetlife 101 if it's such a gold mine

[–]Hydrakeen0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Sorry I'm not hip to it. Know plenty of success stories. Dont know the reddit accounts they use. I'm no help

[–]BPasFuck1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

That's cool bro. I actually met my 10/10 qt hb on there. You wouldn't know her though. She's canadian.

[–]Hydrakeen0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I have a close friend I was speaking to about it. Had 5 solid partners from fetlife. You spend the time and get to know them online, establish boundaries then meet in person. You get acquainted and move forward from there.

Just like anything the failure rate is going to be high. It's never that easy to find a good match. She built up those 5 over years and did not include the horror stories only that she felt safe and happy with those individuals. Might be more difficult for a male I dont know. That's my most recent chat with a friend about it, in the past there were others but the details escape me.

Sounds like more effort than I am willing to put in to find my unicorn so I get it.

[–]BPasFuck0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So you basically white knighted on her behalf, over something you're actually not that familiar with?

I'm shocked!

Friendly ribbing aside, (That's what this is, friendly), it's some basic bedrock foundational shit @trp to understand that the rules of the game are actually different for men and women, and that we're not really even playing the same sport.

It's two different games, that just so happen to be played at the same time next door to each other, and the fields intersect in one or two places.

Consequently, advice based on the experiences of the opposite sex is mostly useless.

[–]Hydrakeen0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe. I'd assume there are as many trashy fucking dudes as women out there.

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]MyTownIsChiTown0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy worked for me (29/m). Filtered for women 35-50. Met a super fit 47 y/o woman who I've been seeing the past week. She has C boob implants and loves to have sex. Match let's you send messages to any woman. Just message 100 woman and one is bound to be curious.

[–]MyRedGlasses0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What's your go to openers? How did you state your intentions without becoming too direct? I find that evidently it's about leading them on, and getting them to actually meet, and escalate from in person.

Although the process seems too time consuming, so I'm assuming I'm missing something no?

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