I like this girl but...

roomspace · 2019-10-05T10:43:51+00:00

Be yourself. Show interest and don’t come from any sort of needy frame but don’t be disingenuous about it... just be honest about everything.

If she chooses this other guy then she’s not the one for you man. Contrary to popular red-pill belief, It’s possible for a girl to like you for who you are.

Yesm3can · 2019-10-05T12:09:33+00:00

Don't bait and switch her.

Trying to be close to someone by showing fake personality and hoping that they will love you enough that by the time you feel comfortable to show your real personality they will not run away is kinda...fucked up. It is like those cat-fishing pictures in dating sites.

mischiffmaker · 2019-10-05T12:13:11+00:00

Try to get rid of the idea that girls think any differently than guys do, when they're looking for someone to date.

Girls are human beings. They eat, fart, piss, shit, burp, walk on two legs for the most part, and have the same human DNA as boys, apart from the XX/XY thing. They are, at your ages, just as nervous about approaching boys as boys are of approaching them.

Putting on a fake persona isn't just depressing, it's just...exhausting.

Having to think all the time about what this fake person might do or say means you're not paying attention to the real person sitting next to you. And people can always tell when you're not paying attention.

People like your authentic self much better than a fake self, and we're evolved social beings, so it's really easy for us to tell when when another one of us is being fake. You can, too, but you might have to practice a while.

You can do it. Be yourself, be enthusiastic about the things you're enthusiastic about, and people respond to that.

Good luck to you!

TehJimmyy · 2019-10-05T10:51:15+00:00

Show her who you truly are , express your needs and touch her if you like her and ask her out afterwards. If she has the same needs and likes you then awesome otherwise you avoided a meaningless relationship.

If you pretend you wont convey your desire for her properly nor will you show her what you offer on the table. Basically like Nice guys. Good luck and dont fear rejection.

Emms1023 · 2019-10-05T13:30:58+00:00

Honestly, I’ve liked guys that I can laugh with. Doesn’t mean they have to be making the jokes, but just that we have a similar sense of humor and don’t take life too seriously. I would be turned off by someone trying to “compete” for me, as I feel like that treats me as some type of prize instead of a human being. Just talk to me and get to know me. It’s a two way street, you’re not trying to win me over you’re also trying to see if there’s a possibility that you’d like to date me for my personality, not just because you thought I was physically attractive.

boardgaming234 · 2019-10-05T16:52:51+00:00

Let get one thing straight. You are offering her a relationship. Not the other way around. You are offering her something potentially amazing, got it? If she doesn’t like you for whatever reason, then why get upset over it? She rejected an amazing person? Then so be it. If she didn’t like you for who you are, then shit you two weren’t meant for each other.

And oh, just to let you know, she probably knows that you and the other guy aren’t being sincere with themselves.

lidiakwon · 2019-10-07T10:26:42+00:00

It seems like you still have this belief that you have to be a jerk to make a girl like you? Why do you assume that your way is wrong, and the other guy's way is somehow better? You can be who you are, but you want to feel comfortable and confident about who you are first to attract a girl. What specifically does it mean being yourself to you?

mgtowco · 2019-10-08T02:01:16+00:00

Love yourself. In the past I was very quiet yet I had a few women interested in. It gets tiring trying to please someone.

bigflame123 · 2019-10-08T21:42:24+00:00

This is a very good answer

Jazzisa · 2019-10-18T21:35:50+00:00

Well, you know, teasing someone doesn't mean you're an asshole. If you think all women like assholes. I'm dating a guy who teases me all the time, and I tease him too. But he also compliments me, and his actions are very caring and sweet. But if it's just light teasing, there's nothing wrong with that kind of humor, as long as it's not really mean.

Also, when dating, I kind of follow this advice: be yourself, but be the best version of yourself. You don't have to pretend to be someone you're not, but when you start dating, you also shouldn't like, fart in front of her (I'm using a stupid example, but still), or tell her all of your insecurities, or be super possessive or jealous. That stuff is for when you're actually in a relationship. Show her YOUR best side, but still be you. If you're not into that sort of jokes, that would be faking, for example. But feel free to 'flaunt' your good qualities.

Title	I like this girl but...
Author	bigflame123
Upvotes	14
Comments	57
Date	October 5, 2019 9:02 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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