How to Stop Feeling Angry All The TIme

emailpassword12 · 2018-08-07T03:40:48+00:00

"I then went down the redpill rabbit hole. Some things I do believe true like looks determine many things. for example I would be resentful that women would get certain jobs. to me they seemed attractive thus leading employers to hire them based on looks ie sex sells."

As a woman, I'm going to offer a counter point on this. My appearance has actively hindered me in my career. I'm blonde, slim curvy with big boobs. The amount of times I have been over looked because people assume I'm a "bimbo", only to have out performed the men I'm up against is countless. I've had to work twice as hard to prove myself.

I once had a man (in a professional setting no less) tell me "You know, you might be clever, and surprising funny, but no one is every going to take you seriously, because you have a cute, young looking face and really big tits".

So yeah. Lots to be angry about. Being a man is not one of them.

Please get therapy and heal yourself.

Stormcloudy · 2018-08-07T03:25:37+00:00

Why are you against therapy? It's okay to have a physical sickness that affects your happiness and wellbeing, but not okay to have a mental sickness that does so? And by sickness, I don't mean you're Bipolar, or Schizophrenic. I just mean, maybe you have the equivalent of an infection that can be treated with mental antibiotics (constructive discourse and venting your hurt).

At the very least, you need to talk to somebody, and generally trained professionals are the safest to talk to, unless you've got some serious ride or die friends that will hear you out and help you in good faith.

There is a lot to be angry about in this world, but you will always come first in your own world. Period. You can't help anybody if you can't help yourself. If you've got a draw to fighting fire, then you should do it if that would lead you more toward the ideal you. If it's just something to channel your aggression, I rather doubt it's going to help you feel less angry.

The best thing you can do, is talk it out with somebody in some way. And remember that there's no point in being angry over things you can't control. And there's no point in being angry over things you can control. If you can't fix it, you have to live with it. If you can contribute to fixing it, contribute and be proud of your contribution.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2018-08-07T05:32:01+00:00

You need some sort of therapy. You are not angry about baby boomers and women selling sex. It's the other way around: being angry all the time makes you give these things you put as examples too much importance. You need to work on your frustrations. Probably not having a social life is a big root of it.

See, once you are NOT angry and you are happy with yourself, you just get to the point where you DO NOT GIVE A FUCK about others and you see yourself in control of your outcomes.

Baby boomers giving you shitty advice? Ignore, continue career, you know jobs are out there, it's simply a different market.

Boomers could support a household with one income? Who the fuck cares! They had to stick with a single woman from their early twenties, pretend they were living the life and waste their precious years breaking their back for a bunch of other people. We instead? We travel, we experience the things they wished they could when they were young, we meet people from all over the world, etc etc etc. With such an enriching life, who wants the damn stupid white picket fence?!?

Women use sex to get what they want? Well, wouldn't you if you had the chance? Won't you try to make do best with the cards you are given? Can't you use sex yourself to get stuff? Yes you can, maybe not at college, maybe not now, but trust me, you can.

Is the world unjust? Yes. Is there a conspiracy from political groups trying to make other people miserable just because? Nah. It's just a bunch of people not agreeing how the world should work. It's a bunch of people pushing their idea of utopia onto others. And here's what: there's no utopia and you don't even have to take part in the discussion because in the end, people will not reach you because of your ideology. People will reach you because 1) you have skills and resources they need and 2) you are not a dick when it comes to providing those resources and skills. Therefore, the only thing you have to do is to hone yourself, keep yourself skilled, sharp, in shape, largely neutral about all the bullshit going around, and you will start feeling less angry. Do not worry about others, worry about yourself. You will be in a better position.

catipillar · 2018-08-07T03:58:51+00:00

It's easy to be angry. It's very easy to be angry at a lot of things. Doesn't the red pill teach you that you need to focus on yourself above all things, though?

Most rp idealology is just incredibly oversimplified manipulation tactics, but if you get anything out of it, get the idea of a better self.

There are limitless things in the world that you can't control. You can't control the disgusting indecency of society or the festering animosity brewing between right, left, man, woman...the bloated discrepancies between the haves and the have-nots...there is literally nothing you can do. All of your anger, no matter how big it is, will always be impotent in the face of the tidal wave of lunacy that is permanently ebbing and flowing over human civilization.

So head for higher ground. Exit the echo chamber. Get out.

You have a very, very short time here. The clock is ticking.

Do you want to spend this time angry at how fucking stupid everyone is, or do you want to escape?

In the Matrix, Neo takes the red pill so that he can join the resistance. You've taken the red pill so that you can...what? Get angry? Get angry at what...? TRP addresses one tiny aspect of a hopelessly convoluted system with cliffs and drop offs and dead ends everywhere. Women aren't the enemy. Men aren't the enemy. The patriarchy isn't the enemy. Your red pill hasn't even revealed anything to you because red pillers are just staring down the barrel of one tiny little gun on a battlefield of millions.

Just leave it all behind. It's not doing anything for you.

Find your own peace. Who the fuck cares if society does this shit for that girl, or if this girl does that mean thing to that boy? Fuck em.

Treat yourself to your life and living it the best way you can. It's hard because letting go of all if that rage is truly a herculanean task...but I'll leave you with a Morrisey quote: "it's so easy to laugh, it's so easy to hate...it takes strength to be gentle and kind."

BE stronger then anger.

cyranothe2nd · 2018-08-07T07:53:37+00:00

I think a lot of anger, especially male anger, is a way to cover up deep hurt. I think men are socialized to cover up vulnerability with rage. It's really hard to be emotionally vulnerable and to let yourself access the pain underneath the rage because many men are afraid of what they might do if they allow themselves to really feel that

I think therapy is a really great place to open up an explore those issues. I know you said that you were afraid of trusting somebody enough to talk to them about this stuff, but remember that a therapist is just doing a job and being professional and asserting boundaries is part of their job. They're not going to laugh at you or make fun of you. They are there to listen to you and to help you work through these issues.

There are also some places online where you can find resources that might help you. I would look into cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), as there are lots of work books and worksheets online. CBT focuses on noticing patterns of thinking and then actively working to change them. It's a really good modality for people who have falling into mental traps like the red pill.

Finally, working at McDonald's is nothing to be ashamed of. It takes skill to work in the service industry and you are learning skills at that job.

akwardandy · 2018-08-07T07:07:26+00:00

I’m a woman with Aspergers and being a woman hasn’t made life easier for me, it’s made it harder because people never expect a woman to be awful at social situations and such. Get some professional help OP, it definitely helps so much. I also recommend talking with other people who have Aspergers. It makes you feel like you’re not alone and like you can be more of yourself instead of always having to hide around neurotypical people. Depression and anxiety are unfortunately very common for people with autism who have to “mask” themselves to get by in social situations. It helps a lot to have a positive group of people you can be yourself with. Try to avoid other socially awkward people who advise you to isolate yourself and blame all of their problems on other people, trust me, it doesn’t help and it never will.

Elumamai · 2018-08-07T15:36:57+00:00

Go into martial arts... and I don't mean a McDojo. Find somewhere that works on the body and the mind of their students. And, yes, you probably do need therapy. You may be against it, but if you haven't tried it, personally, I'd suggest it. Also, go to the student mental health services at your college... most have them, and they will likely be better equipped to find you help. That said, if you're not liking college, dependent upon how you feel about your major, you may also try a trade, like carpentry... which would be an activity to expel energy through. And you'd get paid for the apprenticeship, and it takes less time/money to get trained.

And like another poster said, there's no shame in working at Mickey D's... a job's a job, and those burgers can be bomb. Plus, you got the first shot at potential toys. T-T I miss the toys... don't miss cleaning the lobby and bathrooms, though.

Somethoughts44 · 2018-08-28T23:14:25+00:00

I think you should de contruct your false beliefs and you'll stop being so angry.

As a telling example, as a woman I also believed beautiful people have it easier in life and not all women are beautiful. So if that helps it's not really about sex. But that is an over-generalization, I felt insecure because of my fears and projected those fears onto the world at large. Sure there is some differences in how a person may be treated but not major. My more beautiful female friends may get some male attention I don't, but they also get less male attention from my most charismatic or friendly female friends. Men want to feel wanted just like women do and that is what makes people be treated differently: how they perceive and treat others and themselves. Looks is just one part of that. No one person is the same. Everything is too variable to fit into these little diagrams of cause and effect.

midmarch · 2018-09-06T21:18:07+00:00

Exercise? Helps me with everything. Anxiety, rage. Especially running.

Title	How to Stop Feeling Angry All The TIme
Author	akwardandy
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	August 7, 2018 2:05 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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