Woman ask me if am gay. Gay man approach me every were but not one single female.

muricanwerewolf1 · 2019-12-20T06:06:31+00:00

The reason this is happening is you present as totally asexual, and people want to know if you're hiding something. This happens a lot to men who are straight yet sexually inexperienced like yourself, these ladies are expecting you to act like all the other men they know would in that situation, and are latching on to the incongruity of a man who has women talking about sex right in front of them and staying silent. However, this is a straight up shit test and well covered in the side bar.

stick7_ · 2019-12-20T06:04:37+00:00

Honestly, I don't understand 100% of what the fuck you're saying, but here's my take:

You're too friendly.
Your dress-sense is synonymous to what gay people wear.
You're too feminine.

It's probably either one of those three.

swaghole69 · 2019-12-20T06:23:25+00:00

Tell her to come to your place so you can show her how gay you are

handfulofnuts · 2019-12-20T06:34:33+00:00

coming in my face more and more.

lol

Seriously though, who cares? Gay men approach me too. I take it as a compliment. I’m good looking, well-groomed, and I dress well. Some women think I’m gay too, until I talk to them. No big deal.

You’re not going to get approached by women, dude. That’s your job, not theirs. Gay guys are approaching you because they’re guys, and guys approach.

Also, if you don’t answer, they’re going to assume you’re trying to hide something.

foreignobjectfound · 2019-12-20T10:05:24+00:00

Checked your post history, to be honest I’d probably assume you’re playing for the other team too.

Lift. Your frame needs muscle work. It’ll help with your posture too, you’ll stand and walk more masculine.

Your face has this lethargic indifference aesthetic gay people have online, heck it reminded me of Frank Ocean’s pictures. You want to appear more awake, present, full of intent with a slight hint potential danger. Be aware of how wide you keep your eyes open.

[Skip the following section it’s too advanced]

Alternatively, you embrace this. You’ll have to be artistic to embody a man whose in touch with his feminine aesthetic yet he still gets laid. You’ll create a harem from this. Females will play into your frame, call it being in touch with themselves, you’ll covertly fuck them (even in threesomes) cause they want a piece of your “energy”. Your regulars will be fucked up girls with dyed hair and artistic tattoos that like to travel and backpack. The downside is you’ll have to do drugs recreationally—marijuana being a good example. That and your lethargic face will make you look like you’re in some trance. Speak slower, none reactive... Cause all you could ever want for them, is what’s good for their nature. Peace.

laserdicks · 2019-12-20T12:59:22+00:00

This is the female version of a direct, in person, no-holds-barred, pick up line. They don't get more direct than "WHY AREN'T YOU GIVING ME SEXUALIZED ATTENTION?"

But if you work with them, don't fuck em. Obviously.

dadfrombrad · 2019-12-20T06:37:53+00:00

People pleaser syndrome. Lack of dopamine, lift more and maybe get a prescription for concerta

XXXMersenne · 2019-12-20T15:02:39+00:00

my hole life

Freudian slip u are gay

Lift heavy weights & fuck supple feminine chicks. Your castrated ass energy is reeking off too others and so they wanna see whats cooking in tha kitchen.

Fix up your act by writing your own script, to do that you need to read & read.

And stop feeling so guilty for being alive, bro. Kinda suck times in a way, but if yer working on it & progress oriented u can ease of the gas of excessive self judgement & move into acceptance of what is .

holyrasta · 2019-12-20T05:57:58+00:00

Dude stop focusing on what people think of you and stay in your frame. You said you have very little experience in your life and that you haven't made much moves. I'm assuming that means with women. How about you work on that instead of focusing on what these women in your workplace are talking about?

Edit: I just realised you said you have no experience at all. Dude, start approaching women and go out more. Why are you so focused on these women in your workplace?

minbooz · 2019-12-20T07:39:53+00:00

You sound like me when I was 16. I totally feel that. Try talking in a deeper voice and stand upright with your chest out, and most importantly, don’t be friendly. Be an asshole

holyrasta · 2019-12-20T18:25:34+00:00

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still_unresolved · 2019-12-20T19:59:44+00:00

Report them to HR for sexual harrassment

mrpoopistan · 2019-12-20T21:33:16+00:00

As someone who gets regularly approached by both women and men, here's the theory I've developed about why that is.

As a generalization, I'm above-average in attractiveness, especially when I put in the effort to dress well. Oddly, I've had a lot of people assume I'm ex-military, cop, bouncer, bodyguard, etc. I even had a chick once tell me I looked like a hitman.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, I've concluded that I don't exude a homophobic vibe. My guess has been that gay men have developed a bit of a detector for which guys would beat them into a coma if approached. I don't put off that signal because that's just not me.

Applying that theory to your situation, my guess is that you're less attractive to women, but attractive enough to interest gay men. (That mostly means you don't look like Jabba the Hutt or Garth from Wayne's World.) You're also not putting off the "kill a queer" vibe.

Barring overly aggressive behavior, I just take it as a compliment and politely decline. Disengaging can be a little challenging, but that doesn't usually take too long.

The worst I ever had to deal with was a bartender who I didn't immediately pick up the gay vibe on. He had given me a free drink after I had gotten a potentially violent situation under control without any help, and I didn't think too much of it at the time because it's not the first time I've been thanked for not killing someone.

I didn't figure it out until his night off, when he was making use of the standard-issue gay guy all-access pass to fondle his female friends in front of everyone. That is literally the gayest thing a guy can do because everyone has to know you're gay for you to get away with it.

Then he decided to put me in the impossible position of grabbing two of his girlfriend's boobs and offering them up to me. (Yes, everything is a goddamned test.) I'm not going off-brand by suddenly derping into "look, bewbs!" mode, so I didn't partake.

I eventually handed him a beer and told him, "Now we're even for the one you gave me the other night." He got the point and left it at that.

This is a job i dont care alot and i want to test this and maybe test my self. What should i do about this when it happens again.

I wouldn't sweat it much. Truthfully, that's about all you can do in 90% of life's situations.

2019-12-20T10:34:12+00:00

Gay men will always approach you if you are aesthetically pleasing in some sense. But here’s a wild concept: women are not supposed to approach you. That’s the job of having a penis and having the right to use it. Luckily though, if they ARE approaching you and calling you gay or asking, well duh, there’s your approach. Shit tests are always good and fun. That’s where you ask if they want to find out. Hetero social status saved. If they’re just butt ugly, chuckle and say “whatever helps you sleep at night.” If they’re just talking shit behind your back, still use that to your advantage. Grow some balls and approach them, and role off the whole gay thing, asking -very suggestively- if they really want to know. Shit will stop.

If you’re still confused, they think you’re gay because you’re not acting like a straight male because you’re not initiating, or showing your sexual drive.

Alternatively, you are gay.

Edit: Your style definitely radiates that homo energy. Change it, if it bother you. If not, I mean, if you really enjoy sucking cock, who am I to judge?

holyrasta · 2019-12-20T13:52:10+00:00

The next time when they ask you if your gay, say that you've had a record of three dicks up your ass at the same time, and tell them to beat that.

swaghole69 · 2019-12-20T14:18:34+00:00

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amphix339 · 2019-12-20T06:43:13+00:00

How old are you and how old were they, I might have an explanation for you

Funkydirigidoo · 2019-12-20T13:18:13+00:00

I'm lean, good-looking, well-spoken, and well-dressed. I've been mistaken as gay too. Don't worry too much about it.

It's mostly from people who don't know me. People who spend 30 seconds talking to me know I'm straight.

There may be a degree of racism too. I'm not white. Any metrosexual type that's not white is more likely to be assumed to be gay. Or if you're really good looking.

madfrombrad · 2020-04-14T07:54:47+00:00

lol women will read thru her intentions that’s what they’re good at

expect to get hit up a lot at the gym

rockyp32 · 2019-12-20T12:08:26+00:00

No fap

Domebeers · 2019-12-20T16:21:45+00:00

When gays hit on me I feel so pretty, ngl.

mypoopisblacklikeyou · 2019-12-20T06:46:20+00:00

U are prob gay and don’t realize it lol just let one of those gay boys fuk ur butt

putconfac · 2019-12-20T21:43:50+00:00

So are you ghey or what?

Title	Woman ask me if am gay. Gay man approach me every were but not one single female.
Author	holyrasta
Upvotes	24
Comments	60
Date	December 20, 2019 5:32 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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