Question about graceful exiting

0005000f · 2020-01-16T17:21:54+00:00

Not much detail here to go off (do you live together, how long, what specifically are the problems), but I would say, whatever you do, don't engage into arguing and fighting. It leads to nowhere and just makes you look bad. Remain calm at all times, state your case if need be. Don't ask him for anything, you don't need him anymore. And very importantly don't try to stay friends!

the-red_woman · 2020-01-16T18:13:36+00:00

No need to explain yourself. In fact it’s better not to. Men want and need closure, it’s human nature. However if you can go without closure yourself, your silence will say more then your words ever could. This means there is NO final conversation. Crickets. 👻

On your end remember it’s a grieving process. You are allowed to mourn them because to you, he is dead now. When it’s time, pull yourself together and delete all messages, contact numbers, photos etc. You can think about him all you want but never act on these thoughts ever again. If you see him, be cheerful, polite and cold as fuck.

P.s. did this to an ex and he thinks I’m the one that got away. Lmfao. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Never lose your dignity, class or self-control over a man.

HB3234 · 2020-01-16T20:39:01+00:00

"I don't feel this is the right relationship for me. Take care." Hit send on that text.

Do not waste time on the perfect words. Just copy and paste these, block and move on. You don't owe a disrespectful man your physical presence. You don't owe a disrespectful man a gentle explanation. That is giving him your time and emotional labor. Save that for a lost puppy or stressed mom at the grocery store.

szsunshine · 2020-01-17T01:16:38+00:00

“I don’t feel we are a match” “I’m don’t think think there is long-term potential here.” “I’m looking for a different connection long-term” “I’m not feeling it”

DO NOT try to make him understand that it’s his lack of respect that is the issue. He’ll only either try to argue with you, bargain with you, make excuses (I’ve been really busy at work), etc. It’s not your job to educate him on how to treat a woman.

Remember that No means NO! If he circles back asking for another chance or “the reason things went wrong” - block his number.

ny-lady · 2020-01-17T04:00:25+00:00

Just say I dont think we are a good fit, this doesn't work for me, something along those lines then go live your best life.

Im all for being upfront even if they don't 'deserve' it as some would say. Speak your truth. Rise above it and always tell it like it is when things need to end. If more out there just told it like it is we would be better off!

Let them get offended, lash out, etc. Its not your issue to keep it real. Own you will always keep it real. Block etc if needed.

Exception if the person is that toxic and its best to just go with no word. There are always exceptions and we to do what we have to do.

pinkdrawings · 2020-01-17T19:33:58+00:00

Enough people gave you advice about the actual breaking up, but afterwards: Delete him off social media. Delete his number. Don't bother him or pester him or get annoyed when he starts dating someone else. Don't post stuff hoping he sees it. Delete him from your life and move on.

Title	Question about graceful exiting
Author	FeistyApricot6
Upvotes	9
Comments	9
Date	January 16, 2020 5:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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