Had many dates where things do not go well: maybe I'm too pushy, maybe the girl has heavy LMR, or maybe she doesn't even kiss me. I can understand why those result in being ghosted.

But I've recently had a few nice dates with good vibe, and I *still* get ghosted. It's getting incredibly frustrating, and affecting my abundance mentality. I must either be doing something wrong or be the unluckiest man in the world.

Some examples:

  1. Tinder. Before the date, she told me she was going to be away home for a few weeks the next day. On the date, felt instant connection and mutual attraction. Zero resistance to kiss, zero resistance to coming back to mine. We did everything except fucking, as she didn't want to have sex despite being wet as fuck and with my fingers up both her holes. I was a bit pushy as I thought it was just LMR, but she didn't budge. Just rolled with it in the end and she finished me in her mouth.
    She tells me she wants to see me again and to text her in a few weeks. She leaves the city. I verify by looking at her distance on Tinder. After a bit, I text her and she tells me she will be coming back soon. I tell her to come to mine and cook some dinner together, and to text me when she's back. She tells me to better hone my cooking skills and agrees to texting me. She has been back since two weeks (checked distance) and never texted me.
  2. Hinge. Like the first one, she had plans to visit back home in the countryside a few days after our date. Similar experience: very good conversation, strong eye contact, immediate connection. Zero resistance to kissing and coming back to mine. While escalating, she was really into it and told me *"I don't do this on first dates... but do you have a condom?"*. We fuck, she comes, and before I can finish she tells me she needs a break. We rest for a bit and then I tell her to finish me off. A bit reluctantly, she agrees, and jerks me off. When I come she licks it off.
    We cuddle/chill for a bit, have some tea, and then she tells me she has to leave. I say goodbye, and she tells me she wants to see me again and will text me when she's back. You can imagine the rest: never heard back from her, been almost a month, and she was supposed to be home only for two weeks.
  3. Hinge. Before the date, she says she'll only be able to meet for an hour or so due to a deadline. I was a bit annoyed but simply said "no problem". Again, good vibe/conversation/eye contact. She looked interested and into me. Zero resistance to a kiss. I didn't even bother trying to pull her home as she had to go. During the date she mentioned how good of a cook she was. A day after the date, I text her this in the evening: "Last night was fun. Let's cook some dinner at mine tomorrow night. Eager to see if you're as good of a cook as you said ;)". Been three days, and no reply.
  4. Tinder. Very bubbly and eager to meet over text. We meet, and she's gorgeous. Liberal/sex-positive vibe. Very strong eye contact. Reciprocation to kino. Take her home, escalate, and we fuck twice. She was a pleaser and swallowed my load twice. I even tied her up to the bed the second time and she loved it. She was smiling at me often during sex and genuinely looked happy. I was also enjoying myself a lot. She was a professional singer. I asked her to sing after sex and she was happy to oblige. Nice voice, kept eye contact with me. She told me she couldn't stay as she was needed to wake up earlier as she was going to take some pictures with her photographer friends, but that "I was making it really hard for her to leave". I didn't push her at all and let her go. I asked her if she was just looking for a one-night thing or more. She said that "she's not the kind of girl to have one-night things, and if she's had a good time she would want to repeat the experience". I kiss her goodbye. Two days later, I text her "I was expecting to see some nice photos of the sunrise... -10 points, <NAME>" with some grumpy emoji. Been a week and she never replied.

You can see the pattern. What am I doing wrong? Why do girls that give me the impression of having genuinely enjoyed spending their time with me just ghost me after the first date?