Getting back up after humiliating myself

Paltriness · 2020-02-03T17:42:24+00:00

It sounds like you've fucked up a bit man, but that's not the end of the road and you don't need to be feeling suicidal about it. You can either try and salvage the situation to the best of your ability, or move on with your life and make the best of the position you are in.

It sounds cliché, but you've got to fuck up from time to time. It's a good thing you feel shitty about it, use those feelings to power yourself forwards in your next endeavour if things go south at this internship. Life is literally full of knock backs and shit situations; I was caught up in a terror attack the week after I left university, and got diagnosed with a chronic health condition a week after getting an offer for a dream job which meant I couldn't take up the role.

All I'm saying is the only real option is to keep plugging forward and make the best out of the bad that life throws you, it's the only way you'll become the best version of yourself - so don't see failure, see opportunity to learn and grow.

elitedmillz · 2020-02-03T18:20:29+00:00

Stop crying this really isn’t that big of a deal.

ArnoldT1000 · 2020-02-03T18:49:24+00:00

WTF? You sound like an absolute bitch.

Enough of this self pity bullshit, that’s what got you into this situation in the first place. Your mentality is absolutely ass backwards. Stop being a victim. Taking drugs and drinking because of this stupid shit... Christ

Take responsibility for yourself and get your shit together. Enough whining.

This shit isn’t that big of a deal, you’re just soft as hell... I’m guessing from a sheltered upbringing.

You need to make yourself hard like a fucking man. Start lifting and do boxing or BJJ. Cold showers every morning.

SirKolbath · 2020-02-03T17:50:29+00:00

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe that Ambien is prescription? If so, you can do some damage control by explaining you were under doctor's orders to take it and didn't realize the effect it would have on you. Apologize and make it clear that it won't happen again.

Then get your ass in gear on the late productivity. You have shit to make up.

And never, ever, let a chemical fuck up your life like this again.

MarkJohnPaul · 2020-02-03T18:44:16+00:00

Wait, you didn’t work and you’re still getting paid by HR? This is a win lmao.

Is it impossible to complete the work you haven’t done or can you just do it?

Also the fact you humiliated yourself means that you have the ability to prove yourself too. You can literally only go up from where you are now. You just have to do what you say.

Anyways bro I wouldn’t worry about it. The only people with room to judge are those who haven’t made a mistake before...so no one has room to judge you.

Don’t judge yourself. Just accept you have the ability to be a lil shithead like everyone else in this world and then don’t do it again.

ziphias · 2020-02-03T19:06:36+00:00

Sounds like you have more serious shit to deal with in your head than just sending a dumb message. You obviously have no idea how fucking big the world is and how insignificant this is, really, in your life and the world. Take a road trip or travel a bit, volunteer, and get some perspective.

kittenssavedmylife · 2020-02-03T17:41:38+00:00

You’re not a piece of shit, you’re not worthless, and you aren’t a failure.

You made a few mistakes, the first being not being productive, and the second being communicating with your coworkers and boss while under the influence.

So what you need to do now is damage control. It might be best to resign so you can put this behind you, as if you stay, it will be a dark cloud constantly hanging over.

Second, find a new job, and seriously learn from this mistake. Put in your hours, deliver what you should, and make a good name for yourself.

Killing yourself is a huge over reaction to something like this.

We all have such events in our life and I have humiliated myself countless times too. But the strong ones push through, and you don’t come across as weak to me so I know you can

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PrettyBarbiePerson · 2020-02-03T18:16:50+00:00

Homie you’re a senior in college giving this company free time for fuck all

Good on a resume yes but I’m not sure how extremely you fucked up it’s hard to tell by your post

Do you mean you just uploaded a bunch of shit saying how you don’t do shot when “working “ or were you complaining about the number of hours you’re giving this company

Childish way to handle the situation but it’s good knowledge for next tine

Own up to the aituation admit fault and say it won’t ever happen again

VigilantSmartbomb · 2020-02-03T18:49:37+00:00

Who cares- cry a river, build a bridge, and getttttt the fuck over it

We all fuck up, idk about this being all public humiliation though-

I mean okay so you fucked up at your intern-

Own up and give your boss a reason and see if it can be rectified. If not, go to your career center and get another intern.

You’ve been there since November anyways. No offense but stfu.

You’re gonna come across A LOT bigger and longer hurdles in life- some you may never expect.

But drinking your problems away and taking ambien isn’t it. - as you probably already know

Again- you’re talking about a job you don’t even have yet that you’ve worked at for 3-4 months for a degree you’ve yet to obtain.

I’d say life is looking pretty up either way.

Maybe you should take this as a blessing, drop back from work- finish school and travel a bit

People live completely different lives and are by far satisfied in every way - you shouldn’t wanna kill yourself over something like this

And if your friends and family are making you feel this way- get new friends and family.. duh.

__TheDon__ · 2020-02-03T19:11:26+00:00

It’s an internship, not the end of the world. The point of internships is to learn the job that you might be doing when you graduate. You fucked up, and that happens. It’s not the end of the world (even though it feels like it in the moment). Your bosses don’t care as much you think they do, you’re just an intern, they have bigger shit to worry about. However, this doesn’t mean that you go on like nothing happened. Analyze what you did wrong, and learn from your mistakes.

thiikn · 2020-02-03T19:29:04+00:00

You know, your coworkers probably have recovered from worse fuckups. They know you're young and stupid. Just avoid fucking up and eventually all will be forgotten.

Just so you know, hipotetically someday you may fuck up so much that you'll feel the relationship with you boss is "broken" and can't be glued back, that's when you quit.

PhaedrusHunt · 2020-02-03T20:31:11+00:00

Imagine it's your best friend in the same situation or your little brother.

How would you talk to him? Would you shit on him?

or would you pat them on the back and say hey man I know you've been going through some tough times but it happens to the best of us?

There's a way out and it's logical.

These are the steps you should take.

So quit beating yourself up, Stick out your chin pull your shoulders back and put your chest out, be accountable, and get to it. You've got this.

That's what I would say to my best friend.

I recently learned to talk to myself the same way. self talk is really important and it's not stress enough around here.

Now let me ask you another question.

How did your parents talk to you growing up? Is it a lot like you talking to yourself now? You realize you don't have to repeat those patterns.

Be your own best friend. But be a really good friend. Be honest but not harsh firm but not mean.

Truedemocracy6 · 2020-02-03T21:29:23+00:00

lol it’s a fucking internship with people you’ll never see or hear from again this time in a year

When you think you fucked up ask yourself this- will this matter in 5 years? If it doesn’t then just learn and move on.

That basically only leaves getting a rando pregnant, commiting serious bodily harm to yourself, or complete financial destitution as fuck ups

A girl cheating on you, bombing an exam, getting fired are not fuck ups - they are set backs.

Trust me dude this shit won’t matter.

leftajar · 2020-02-03T21:53:46+00:00

Yikes.

Well, you probably burned the bridge with those people. It is what it is.

The good news is, in the grand scheme of possible fuckups, it could've been a lot worse -- you still have all your limbs, you're not in prison, and your credit is fine.

What do you from here on out is:

Forgive yourself.
Resolve to do better next time.
Find a new internship, and do NOT list your current internship as a reference. You'll have to start from square one in that regard.

Good luck, man.

HelpMyBankingSitua7 · 2020-02-03T21:57:02+00:00

bro who gives a fuck, it's an internship u are basically their slave. Who gives a shit if u do fuck all they're not paying u

Ash_thearcher · 2020-02-03T22:00:12+00:00

Try to realize that the worst case scenario is usually never really as bad as it seems. Whatever you’re afraid of happening wouldn’t really be as bad as it seems.

Stop trying to run from it. Face the moment and just sit in it, breathe that shit in. I’d recommend reading some of Pema Chodron’s books, especially “The Wisdom of No Escape.” You could download them right now from libgen.is ; they really help calm me down whenever I feel the nihilism and hopelessness creep up on me.

blacwidonsfw · 2020-02-03T22:22:37+00:00

Quit the internship, don’t put it on ur resume and chalk it up as a loss. Do better next time. What else do you want?

COLIE53 · 2020-02-03T22:28:31+00:00

Make as many mistakes as possible just dont make ones you cant bounce back from. This is a fuck up but it isnt the end all be all. You may have set yourself back a couple years at the very most but youll be good.

RedWaffle12345 · 2020-02-03T22:42:39+00:00

Listen to me; you can come back from anything. If it makes easier think of it as a big bloody come back. Structure your life to allow you to be self disciplined.

Only you can beat you, go be the biggest loser going but don’t ever quit and keep applying what you’ve learnt and going again

Also read some mind books get your thoughts into control Id recommend the power of now

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2020-02-03T22:54:21+00:00

I work in drug and alcohol treatment. Stop taking shit to change the way you feel.

Face it. It's tough, uncomfortable, but it's life.

Talk to your bosses, admit what's been happening. Give yourself some evidence that you can face consequences.

Have some principles, and go clear up the wreckage

Peach1632 · 2020-02-04T01:49:11+00:00

I think the internship isn’t the problem here. You’re clearly a drug addict. I’ve been there.

Cryptomineand69 · 2020-02-04T14:58:16+00:00

In your head: it’s the end of the world

What they thought: wow the intern is kind of weird. The free labour he’s giving us is great tho. forgets 5 minutes later

clickherebaby · 2020-02-04T17:47:40+00:00

Anytime i see engineer, my sympathy is automatically cut to a 3rd. You have choosen one of the best paths for yourself.

Get back up and go make 6 figures

gottapaythetrollstol · 2020-02-03T21:50:14+00:00

Brother out of the fire we find the strength. I’m not gonna tel you to quit your job or do this or that you know what you need or how to handle your life. This sub I feel is to turn beta boys into alpha men. Alpha trait is to be a leadership ,confidence , emotional intelligence. It sounds to me like you have none so you’re cracking. You’re beta female energy is keeping you in a loop of fear. The only thing I recommend is to relax take it day by day. Start meditating so you can learn to not let your thoughts and emotion control you. It’s a start but you have to dig. Whatever happens roll with the punches , take the hits. But you have no foundation of a real man. And sometimes (including myself) it takes life to beat your bitch ass down so you can realize you’re a little bitch. And I mean that as a wake up call. Learn learn learn as much on how to be in control of your emotions and thoughts. And when you have a good foundation the rest will come cause the balls ,god or whatever you believe gave you will sprout again. Patience and time . Trust me I wanted it all in one shot but just ask yourself what to do now what can I do today. Time will pass regardless

Title	Getting back up after humiliating myself
Author	mechmik
Upvotes	45
Comments	59
Date	February 3, 2020 5:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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