Saying that is like saying "You have to drink polluted water with piss and nuclear waste in it, but at least you're not dehydrated. Yeah, I'm not dehydrated, but I'm poisoning myself with all that toxic material.

Users, rapists, and creeps may not poison the physical body, but they poison your brain. They make you feel as if you are worth less than they are so you won't leave. They ruin your self perception and make you hate yourself. They leave you crying yourself to sleep because they treated you like an object.

Men who just happen to be kind are the antidote to this poison. But just like real antidotes they are rare and what you might think is a man who happens to be nice is actually a niceguy who was nice because he thought he'd get easy coochie. Men who happen to be kind are the ones you marry and have kids with. They don't use you, don't rape you, and they don't make you hate yourself.