Alright, posting to get some solid advice on anything and everything I might of missed.

Would love to hear from some of the key contributors here as well.

So, I lift, STFU, Read the sidebar, Ect. I’m in Texas

Anyways I’m getting a divorce. Currently it looks like she will be filing first, simply because her family is going to bankroll the whole thing. Regardless of what she’s saying around town and to her family the reason she’s pushing for Divorce is because I caught her in another affair.

Strap your crazy hats on, this one is fucking insane. So in the past she cheated, had her affairs, and everything. I didn’t find this out until after our son was born (I did a paternity test, yes he is mine). I was leaving and basically gone, but let her claw her way back into my life because I was an emotional bitch thinking of my son. My son has a lot of special needs, he’s on a ventilator, oxygen, doesn’t travel, the whole nine yards. Rare Genetic disorder.

Well I have kept evidence from this first known affair just in case something like this were to happen again. Low and behold, it has… except this one is fucking crazy. She met some dude on a phone game, and it evolved into what I assume is an emotional affair, endless messages, video chatting, ect. Well this guy lives over seas in the UK…? Makes no sense, but she’s become indoctrinated with British culture because of this dude. She's even buying and shipping this dude stuff like clothes, food, cat toys, a record player (Found this after the initial confrontation). Well she ends up hitting me with this crazy bullshit...

She wanted to talk about taking a vacation, but we have to take separate vacations because one of us has to stay home for our special needs son. I entertained this to see what she would say. Turns out she wants to visit Scotland but would have to fly to London (30 minutes from where this dude lives) and take a train to Scotland. Right…

Anyways I didn’t say anything and let her have her fantasy. I went through the messages and discovered just how serious this was. I ended up taking pictures of the messages and storing them somewhere safe. In one of the pictures she jokes about poisoning me to be with him. So after I did this I simply confronted her on the basis of her calling this dude and talking so much was inappropriate. She gave me the “We’re just friends” spill. I let her win her little argument and have been making plans for divorce, but she’s escalated her side of the ordeal quickly.

Here ‘s what I’m working with and the preparations I’ve made so far:

· Pictures of intimately and emotionally charged messages

· Pictures of her joking about poisoning me

· Pictures of them making travel plans and costs to fly

· Pictures of the last affair guy admitting what really happened

· Voice recorded phone calls between us admitting to the previous affair and “Drinking a lot”

· Email receipts of her buy and shipping stuff to this UK guy

· Pictures of her talking about being hungover and/or drunk

· Detailed notes dating back to the day this second affair happened outlining everything I can think to write down

· Proof I’m taking care of my son and continuing the routine and taking him to doctor appointments

· Following and attempting to gather the details of what should help in the 5-step functional introduction from the side bar (Still gathering this all up)

Obviously the most difficult thing will be the custody of our son. But so far, the game plan is to frame the situation as the affairs and drinking/alcoholism go hand in hand. I’m attempting to build more proof of her drinking in the detailed notes I take and will see if I can’t find evidence of her bragging about it in texts/ect. Best case scenario I get the house, kid, and she kicks rocks. Worst case, I get divorce raped?

I’m not worried about the material things, mostly that my son is taken care of and I have possession/constant access to him.

So all this laid out, I’d love any and all advice that will make this more favorable for me. I’ll be deleting this post, as well as purging my Reddit account later tonight to ensure safety. So let me have it guys!