Sluts are gonna slut but how do they not seem so slutty?

Blissbynature · 2019-04-10T11:15:56+00:00

"I was slutty for him, now I'm afraid he will think I was slutty for everybody. How do I give him the impression I'm a better person than I really am?"

notyourdude201 · 2019-04-10T13:42:07+00:00

No surprise. If a woman is genuinely attracted to a male, sex comes fast and sex comes frequently. Not only that, they will take initiative, they will flirt, they will invite the guys over, they will cook for the males, they will treat the males, etc, making for ironically an equal relationship.

These men out there who preach that women want to take it slow, want to be treated, taken on shopping trips, must be humored constantly in texts, need to be wooed over with clever flirts, prefer to not make the first move in sex.......these men have been betas all their lives and not have been experiencing how it is like to genuinely be desired by women. Not kinda desired by women, which is actually enough to trigger women to get married and lead to men to make mistaken assumptions, but GENUINELY desired.

This is a big dose of red pill a typical TV-raised bluepill will never swallow. They think if a woman wants a man she will want to take it slow, keeping sex and interactions to the minimum because she doesn't want to be 'seen as a slut'. Bull fucking shit.

I'll leave the hamstering to the beta-hunting alpha widows and their bluepill whiteknights on how less sex leads to more bonding in a relationship.

While I'm perfectly fine and even support women being lusty for those they are attracted to, here's the rub. These women show lust for the types of men who DO NOT WANT TO COMMIT. They don't have the discipline to refrain from having sex with these men, and when the ghosting comes they cry foul and shame these men for being fuckbois. No fucking shit.

Then they of course end up becoming sluts because they then go on the cock carousel repeating the same process with other men who don't want to commit, trying to fuck their way into becoming their girlfriends / wives.

50+ failed commitment win attempts through spreading their legs to men who CLEARLY and REPEATEDLY said they don't want a committed relationship, and they'll just assume they need to try harder, they need to start playing games with men, they need to shit test in conversations, they need to actually delay sex with men who don't want to commit, essentially treating the symptom and not the cause.

They say they want to, but they don't wanna find men who want to commit, because they are marriage material, and marriage material traits are boring to modern women.

OldFashionMarine · 2019-04-10T11:10:36+00:00

Lol.....it was the "etiquette " of the first date that caused me to suck his dick......................TWICE. Reassure my choices for me please...

theDukesofSwagger · 2019-04-10T13:25:18+00:00

“But sometimes my sexual desire takes over (I’m only human)”

I hate when people use “I’m only human” as an excuse for their actions. Just because you have no self-control doesn’t mean the rest of humanity is the same.

apekingorange · 2019-04-10T13:01:07+00:00

Inner voice: "Ok gurl, we practiced this, just hand stuff today, you don't wanna look like a slut right?"

Two bj's later:"Yeah, you just couldn't help yourself huh?"

ardharra · 2019-04-10T13:04:51+00:00

the comments are just thirsty cucks lol

DeeplyDisturbed1 · 2019-04-10T15:11:06+00:00

From the comments...

Some men would just take advantage of the blowjobs.

I have a few BIG problems with this comment:

She is attracted to him, she wants him, she enjoys giving head, she is very sexual, she sought out a date, went on the date, she decided to be alone with him, she decided to be sexual with him. Twice. How is this, in any way shape or form, a man taking advantage? Give me ONE fucking reason.
Another subtlety here is this subtext: Men who get head are WRONG for accepting (i.e. ALLOWING) it more than once. They are taking advantage because they are not expected to pay for it in some way (with marriage, paying bills, or paying cash outright).
This subtle messaging to young girls is: "Suck a guy's dick on the first date if you wish. Swallow twice if you wish. But make sure you get something in return. Otherwise he is taking advantage of you."
The term "taking advantage" has a very subtle undertone of a rape accusation. Like when a woman is drunk, or scared, or intimidated, or you are a cop or something. This thinly veiled language needs to be called out every single time.

I would go there are slap this shit down, but I must abide by the rules here.

RedditRouge00 · 2019-04-10T12:46:21+00:00

When I saw that thread I thought it was a troll, but she is serious and just that retarded. At least someone called her out on this dumb shit, it probably won’t stop her from inhaling the nearest dicks in her mouth.

emperor_gordian · 2019-04-10T11:22:58+00:00

I’m glad someone beat me to the punch.

keithrockz · 2019-04-10T14:13:46+00:00

"Is giving him 2 b.j.s on the first date going to portray me in the wrong light"?...omg!does a person honestly need someone to tell her this??....and did anyone catch her screen name "Frieda little queef"....her moniker is a pussy fart?...what do you expect from a woman that has to be told whether swallowing two loads on the first date is cool to do to someone and she wants the guy to take her seriously????....wow..

[deleted] · 2019-04-10T14:28:02+00:00

Might as well be rephrased as "Does being slutty make me look like a slut?"

Yes... Yes, it does.

ManateeGag · 2019-04-10T15:03:15+00:00

she's should be ok. now if she gave him THREE blow jobs in one night, then that would have been too far.

bushwicksick · 2019-04-10T13:07:29+00:00

These THOTs are deranged. With every passing day, the little hope I have in western f3mal3s drops an additional percentage point. Sad!

Captainbuttman · 2019-04-10T15:18:30+00:00

sometimes that sexual desire takes over (I'm only human).

Notice how the hamster shifts her accountability to "that sexual desire" like its some external force instead just outright saying what happened.

lorem6300118 · 2019-04-10T16:35:00+00:00

I want pico de Gallo, but I don’t want to be seen buying tomatoes, onion, pepper, and cilantro.

Today, once again, I found myself pounding on the door of the grocery store, fifteen minutes before they open, because I need that sweet sweet pico.

How did I end up like this?

Oh well. We’ll never know, so I won’t think about this any longer.

Live laugh love.

CoMaBlaCK · 2019-04-10T17:37:49+00:00

The whole subreddit should be archived on the basis of ‘what not to do’

There’s thousands of people openly admitting the reasons they’re in the position they’re in, any advice since it’s all positive, should only be read under the guise of ‘for the lulz only’ since it’s the blind leading the blind.

Intersectional-Sofa · 2019-04-10T16:21:22+00:00

Imagine sleeping with a chick and then finding out she posted about it online under the screen name FridaKahlosTinyQueef. Wouldn’t you feel like you had accidentally fucked a man?

MildPetrichors · 2019-04-10T13:21:18+00:00

How? How can someone be like this? Whether I was into the dude like that for whatever reason I still don't know him. He could have some...thing and she's just ready and willing to suck face. I'd be scared to death lol. I'd be asking when's the last time they've been checked and if they have anything like herpes or something and would want proof as I would show my own. I've done it. (3-4th date I'd bring it up) And will continue to do it. I don't care. I don't want your goo germs.

houseoftolstoy · 2019-04-10T15:31:07+00:00

I try my best to wait until the third date to have sex because I don't want men to think I sleep with every man that crosses my path, but sometimes that sexual desire can take over (I'm only human).

The 3rd date rule is not going to take away from the fact that you are a slut. You might require a few more hoop jumps (but not always by your own admission), but the fact remains you are as you are, whether that is how you want to present yourself.

Is me performing two BJs on him going to portray me in the wrong light?

If by "wrong light" you mean an accurate portrayal, then yes.

Playing the "it doesn't count as sex if we don't do X" does not change the fundamentals of what is happening. She is clearly is quick to jump into bed with a guy, and trying to pretend she is not will not help her in the slightest. My guess is this guy is not going to stick around for too long, and she is going to wonder what went wrong. A lot went wrong, well before this guy ever met you. It is probably too late for her to have a better outcome in the dating world, as she has yet to figure out anything by 35. If she is content with flings, she can have that. But that is not what most women want.

SpecialOption · 2019-04-10T17:18:52+00:00

I think the 3 date rule is just silly; i mean what really stops a player from just going for the 3 dates, having sex then ghosting? In the old days if a woman really liked you she would bake you a cake, sew your clothes and ask about you all the time. Yes it would take time for sex to happen, but you knew she was infatuated with you and there was a high chance a relationship would develop.

BackToTheFront1 · 2019-04-10T17:06:25+00:00

In about 10 years, she will truly be asking "Where are all the good men?!?!!"

StratPlyr · 2019-04-11T03:03:04+00:00

She sounds very friendly.

The_Wicked_Wombat · 2019-04-11T16:18:38+00:00

Put it this way, my ex girlfriend years ago had sex on the first night. My wife didn't even want kissed til after we started officially dating. She said she was so grateful I never tried to kiss her on the first few dates. (had inside knowledge from my mother who knew her before I did, that she wasn't into things like that.) I don't believe in 3 date rule or any of that shit, but any chick who will just take your load the first night, shit doesn't last long. Women and men are all a gamble. Divorce or not, it's like the horse races, take the odds on the best one you got.

TheAnarxoCapitalist · 2019-04-10T15:52:07+00:00

Because there are desparate simps out there

playitagainzak_ · 2019-04-11T02:44:44+00:00

Regardless of whether she's afraid of 'losing' him, his desire for her will probably dry her up first anyway.

Blogginginvicecity · 2019-04-11T04:20:11+00:00

"I'm only human."

Is used to justify so many bad choices. Men have a lot of extreme urges too. To tend them is to ascend them.

We could all be gutter sluts because we're all human, but, tee-hee, you know, "be better," right?

sleepyweaselisawake · 2019-04-12T00:44:12+00:00

This might seem like a controversial statement but....

Getting your dick sucked is not the be all and end all of life

Standard_Nebula · 2019-04-16T21:51:23+00:00

She clearly has impulse control problems. This one is a no go.

beatles-lover · 2019-04-10T20:07:12+00:00

This is an obvious shit post.

Title	Sluts are gonna slut but how do they not seem so slutty?
Author	sleepyweaselisawake
Upvotes	154
Comments	77
Date	April 10, 2019 9:56 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/bbk66j/sluts_are_gonna_slut_but_how_do_they_not_seem_so/
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