"(30F)Why doesn't anyone want my love?"

Chairman_Ellen_Pao · 2019-03-17T20:01:26+00:00

"No one deserves love." (It's good to use their own classic lines against them. Always remind them of their hypocrisy)

Suck it up, sweaty. Maybe you have an ugly face but big tits and your tits were what lured some men in. But they will never wife you up, because you don't deserve it. "Attraction is attraction", right? "He said he didn’t know what he wanted" was just a man's way of letting you down GENTLY, you dumb ----! You know what else needs love besides you, you selfish ----? The dogs and cats at your local shelters so go get 'em, honey! You go, gurl!

Mecha_Hobbit · 2019-03-17T18:57:46+00:00

Spent 20's on CC, now 30 time to settle down, but got dejected (ONCE!). Now those 10 years of whoring instantly are regretted and will be projected on to Men. I wonder how many great guys she spit out in her 20's?

boisdevie · 2019-03-17T19:11:57+00:00

" Looking for some kind words right about now. " - which is exactly what she doesn't need. Some very humble introspection might be a lot more useful than any "you're just great as you are and somebody is sure to snap you up" kind of ra-ra you go girl bullshit.

KingOfPomerania · 2019-03-17T23:00:51+00:00

I wonder how many orbiters she has? At least she got 6 months of sex out of that 'relationship', her orbiters are getting sweet fuck all!

Also, I love how these 30 year olds always chase these top-end guys who have tonnes of options (including much younger women) and then get surprised when the guy doesn't give it all up for her low value ass!

SirKolbath · 2019-03-18T00:28:47+00:00

Quit fucking guys because you think you’re in love, you dumb quim.

lurkerhasarisen · 2019-03-18T01:19:55+00:00

From her post and subsequent comments, it's seems likely that she's into serial monogamy, although she probably has more than a couple of short-term flings in her past. Frankly, there isn't much difference between the two: the bottom line is that not only does she give up the goods without securing commitment, she does so without even establishing attraction beyond the physical. In other words, she's just another slut who's aged out of the carousel with regards to the top men (the only ones she wants).

It's almost like all those squares/nerds/prudes that told her to keep her legs together knew what they were talking about all along.

Now she's on the wrong side of her 30th birthday and finds herself crying into a bucket of Häagen-Dazs because the most recent guy she was banging doesn't want to marry his current booty call. Of course the Greek chorus in the comment section won't tell her any of that, because most of them are on the same glide-path that she is. I was intrigued by the one alpha widow who said that she eventually ended up with a guy who didn't trip her trigger, but wore her down with persistently "being there." I feel bad for the guy: the way in which she describes him can only be called "resignation." She'll never feel passion for him, and there's a ridiculously strong chance that she'll either cheat on him, divorce him, or both. A similar outcome is likely for the OP.

Like most single women of her generation, she has nothing left to sell except the roughly-handled leftovers from the free-sample tray, and she's operating in a buyer's market.

CrackingYs · 2019-03-18T02:44:59+00:00

If you read between the lines it sounds like she dumped him after giving him the good old "commit to me or gtfo" ultimatum, and now she's hamster wheeling her way to make him be the asshole and make herself feel better.

Just pat her on the head and say "there, there, little spinster, I'm sure you'll find some stupid idiot who's dumb enough to fall for your manipulative bulllshit".

usa_foot_print · 2019-03-18T02:41:48+00:00

I think it’s so ridiculous that people fuck so much before becoming bf and Gf. And they wonder why they don’t become bf and Gf.

SelectAirline · 2019-03-18T02:06:41+00:00

The most puzzling thing is you actually call these men who wont commit as "great guys" like what the hell? This is like calling a player a confused caring man.

From one of the commenters. It actually triggered her to see a post where OP doesn't automatically bash the guys as if they're broken for not wanting to commit.

frikabg · 2019-03-18T08:12:57+00:00

I feel like for the last 10 years I’ve met and dated great guys and when I’ve offered them my little ball of love, they paw it away like a cat knocking a vase off a shelf.

So for 10 years every men you were interested in rejected her? Its either a case of her not knowing her own value and aiming too high or a case of her being too unattractive for any men either way it is a her issue not a men's issue.

She offered them her 'little ball of love' well lady maybe you should have offered them something more like companionship good company moral support??!? Your love means what exactly? It means jack shit that what it means.

I’m not perfect but I know I’d be a great girlfriend!

If that was the case than why are you alone? The truth is that you are not great girlfriend because everyone abandons ship the moment things get serious. Stop lying to yourself!

I see some crazy relationships forming out of even crazier circumstances everyday around me and I just feel like “why is this not for me?! Is he not out there?!”

The typical princess complex where women thing that these fucking great looking 10/10 men with loads of money and great personality are just out there in the wild looking to find them and do everything for them because women are worthy! Stop being delusional! You want a good relationship? You have to put some effort into it and that means you have to get your hands dirty! Hoping that something crazy will happen and this is how you are going to meet your partner is just being retarded.

I have so much love to give and no one wants it. I’ve spent the evening crying and feeling so embarrassed over the rejection.

Yeah because men and people run away from love! What sounds more likely that they are running away from you and your love because they don't need this in their life or that they are running away from you because you bring too much baggage issues problems and drama which makes them avoid you like the plague?

Also no men owes you anything hun his body his choice remember? And if you think it is bad now... just you wait! Its all downhill from here until the day you die.

Blogginginvicecity · 2019-03-18T06:36:59+00:00

Sounds like we have an ORBITER, everybody!

The market is telling her to go fuck herself and buy cheaper. Or go back in time and buy cheaper than she was buying then.

Good luck, lady! Love yourself! If you don't then you will be even more desperate to lock down an 'inferior' man and bring an unhappy child into this unhappy world to an unhappy mother and a father she looks down upon. Self love is the answer.

Touch_It_Boi · 2019-03-18T14:37:30+00:00

I come from a good family

once upon a time this meant you ARE A VIRGIN, that comes from a stable family with values. not some dumb cunt who gets pumped and dumped every 6 months (conservatively speaking: she is 30 now, I bet that when she was 20 she was being pumped and dumped every 2-3 months, conservatively speaking).

forlifeprotips · 2019-03-17T21:36:24+00:00

I do not know man. She seems like a level headed person who is stable. Looks like the guy does not want her and that is fine. I do not know why she makes a post about it. Many women rejected me, and I wished them good luck and moved on to the next. If I start writing posts about all my rejections, it is going to be more than 10.

Semradrid · 2019-03-18T11:15:09+00:00

"(30F)Why doesn't anyone want my love?"

Women who say this are almost always ugly 90% of the time.

p3ngwin · 2019-03-18T03:49:51+00:00

aww, look at the poor friendzoned wall-impact-crater...

loneliness-inc · 2019-03-18T14:27:02+00:00

I (30F) was rejected again today.

Imagine if a 30M complained about being rejected. How much sympathy would he get? I've spent enough time in this world and on subs like this to know that men get a fraction of the caring that women get for being rejected. Men are told to man up and take it like a man.

We spent the last 6 months laughing, having great sex and getting to know each other. In this time, I met the friends, shared secrets and I eventually developed feelings for him. I always had my guard slightly up because he didn’t want to rush things (neither did I and for that reason, I didn’t allow myself to get too vulnerable around him).

Whoa.....??????

Lady, you didn't want to rush things and you had your guard up, yet you still had sex?!?!?!? What the fuck is wrong with you? What's more vulnerable than sex?

You give away all the milk and then complain that he doesn't want to buy the cow. He was having a good time the way you were. Why did you have to ruin it by trying to take it "to the next level"?

Today we had the talk. I put it all out there and told him how I felt. He said he didn’t know what he wanted and hearing that made my heart hurt. I told him that if I was the right person, he would know.

Boohoo.

Right person? Right for what? What was wrong with what you had?

I feel like for the last 10 years I’ve met and dated great guys and when I’ve offered them my little ball of love, they paw it away like a cat knocking a vase off a shelf.

Silly girl. You're too stupid to realize that you're completely changing the terms of service on them. That's why they all leave. They entered into a casual sexual relationship with you. They never signed up for a forever business with all the drama and bullshit that comes with it. They never signed up to get to see you at your worst. You were presenting your very best and that's what they wanted. They don't want your worst. As soon as you offer up that kind of obligation, they bail.

I look after myself, have a good job and am saving to buy a house this year. I come from a good family and am a big believer in continuing to better myself in all aspects. I’m not perfect but I know I’d be a great girlfriend!

Blah blah blah. These are all things that make men attractive to you. These are not things that make you attractive to men. You're out of touch.

I see some crazy relationships forming out of even crazier circumstances everyday around me and I just feel like “why is this not for me?! Is he not out there?!”

I see people winning the lottery every week. Why hasn't my lottery purchasing strategy worked in all these years?

I have so much love to give and no one wants it. I’ve spent the evening crying and feeling so embarrassed over the rejection.

I'm sure you cried a lot over the rejection but I have my doubts as to what love you have to offer a man.

Look, men want women for sex, love, respect and admiration. Not much else. You took the biggest bargaining chip that you had - sex - and you gave it away for free. Again and again and again and again. You destroyed your youth and beauty and then you wonder why no one is interested in commitment. You have nothing to offer to make you commitment worthy

Looking for some kind words right about now.

Didn't look at the comments yet, but I'm sure they'll give you words of comfort. However, that won't change your situation.

DisdainForSluts · 2019-03-18T11:46:56+00:00

This is where sex education has failed. Women are cheap.

Newbosterone · 2019-03-18T12:02:00+00:00

Some named _schlong_machiatto is surprised guys don’t see her as forever material. What a lack of self awareness.

Bonus: NapsAreMyHobby teaches her how to rationalize settling for beta.

[deleted] · 2019-03-18T15:51:13+00:00

" I told him that if I was the right person, he would know. "

Can't tell you how many times I've heard this coming from women who have had 30+ sexual partners.

hideout78 · 2019-03-18T22:45:19+00:00

This is a good one.

Your “love to give” is not love at all. You’re playing the old game of “I want to love someone so they love me back.” That’s not love at all. Not even close. That’s manipulation.

Most people (including men) call that love.

ChiTownBob · 2019-03-19T02:35:57+00:00

She's probably a narcissist and does not know how to love.

ScrewJita · 2019-03-20T18:18:50+00:00

Lol, and "Naps are my hobby" then educates her on how to properly apply herself to the dual-mating strategy.

bushwicksick · 2019-03-28T20:56:34+00:00

Another carousel rider. Jesus Christ these Carols are such morons!

03slampig · 2019-03-17T20:00:55+00:00

Wheres the evidence she spent her 20s looking for chads?

Title	"(30F)Why doesn't anyone want my love?"
Author	poetyaright123
Upvotes	84
Comments	85
Date	March 17, 2019 6:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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