TR; DR- I reached this epiphany early in my journey. I hope this knowledge does for you what it’s done for me.

Vicarious Validation

Well, the man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures —which can't be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man's sense of his own value." -Francisco d'Anconia, Atlas Shrugged

A need to show women off or “peacock” in front of women, to embellish details of sexual regalings to impress or stir envy in friends, to relish just by being seen alongside attractive women, a need to constantly remind those around them how sexually adept they are…

These are all symptoms of men who require “vicarious validation” ; weighing their worth not on the enjoyment of sex but by living vicariously through their own self-inflated persona.

These men base their own SMV on the SMV or quantity of women they’ve slept with. They’ve concluded that their “weight as men” is ultimately determined not by their achievements but by the amount of women resulting from said achievements.

They are the sellers which determine their prices from the opinions of the competition and not by market value. They are the sellers who base all of their business’s success not on its profits, but on how many customers walk through the front door.

“Banging the hottest chick to make my friends jealous” or “banging as many chicks as pissible to prove a point” or “banging this one gross chick because she's here and sex is sex” may be considered “Alpha” to some, but as enlightened Alphas, we set our own standards and only act on things within our self-interest.

As such, we cannot weigh ourselves down by limiting the scope of our purpose. We can't mistake a byproduct as an end result. And we can't define ourselves vicariously through women or our peers.

We are not our shoes. We are not our cars. We are not our houses.

We are not our experiences.

We are the embodiment of knowledge gained from our experiences. A collective consciousness of information, ever growing.

An apple tree doesn't stop once it's broken soil. It grows ; it bears fruit which it shares amongst nature as a means to spread its seed and continue its legacy.

“If anyone on the verge of action should judge himself according to the outcome, he would never begin. Even though the result may gladden the whole world, that cannot help the hero; for he knows the result only when the whole thing is over, and that is not how he became a hero, but by virtue of the fact that he began.”― Soren Kierkegaard

Enlightened Alphas have sex. They are not defined by it.

Defining yourself this way would only serve to…

"…weaken your frame."

You’ll commonly take unnecessary steps, participate in activities or conversations, behave in a manner you’re not accustomed to, all for the sake of sex.

Sex’ll become a routine like brushing your teeth or combing your hair; you'd weigh your SMV primarily on sex, so constant sex would become a requirement to feel “attractive” or ”sexy”.

You’ll sleep with women you don’t find attractive or have sex at inopportune times because sex is now a version of your self-identification. That hat or jacket that defines you as an individual.

You’re the “player, the “sex guru”, the “girl whisperer”.

Gotta keep playing the part.

"...bring scarce mentality."

Sure, your attention is divided amongst multiple plates. But those attractive plates… they’re the ones you’re “proud” of.

They’ll receive the most attention.

More and more weight’ll be placed on their opinions over others because deep down you’re afraid of them leaving.

"…create a dependence on high-SMV women."

Your determinant of worth is her attractiveness and losing her would cause you stress. Because of this, you’ll do whatever it took to keep her interested.

"…create a dependence on approval from your peers."

Allowing your self-worth to be determined through peer validation is dangerous; everyone around you acts in their own best interest, not yours. There is no altruism.

If your peers see an opening, some may discredit you out of spite or envy.

"…degrade your SMV."

You understand.

You get it now.

You’ve truly internalized what TRP has caught.

You’ve witnessed it for yourself.

And yet, you’re only improving yourself as a tactic and not truly for yourself; you’ve given yourself an “end goal” in a community based in an endless goal.

In the short-term you’ll be successful. But once the “goal has been reached” and the “battle is won”, you’ll have nothing left to fight for. You’ll lack the drive to upkeep your SMV. “Why bother? Who cares? I’m fucking 5 different women right now!”

They’ll all lose interest in time.

They always do.

And because you’ve let your SMV decline, it’ll be back to square one.

LL- Enlightened alphas gauge their attraction objectively (“am I really as attractive as I think I am?”) and logically (“women are attracted to men with large chests and large shoulders in proportion to their waists”). Sex is a byproduct, not an end goal.

For any further questions, I'm open to talking over Skype under Skype username OmLaLa. Please message me set up a meeting.