How do I save my friend?

Washedupoaf · 2015-08-20T23:05:23+00:00

Let him get burned. When he does indeed get burned, hell tempered in the white hot fires of the pain Hypergamy will inevitably unleash on him, be there to help him collect the pieces of his shattered frame. The only way to rebuild and forge your frame into something durable and even anti-fragile is to walk through those flames and come through a new man.

squidracer · 2015-08-20T22:57:23+00:00

He will have to learn on his own. Hopefully he won't get married to her.

I was saying a girl like that a couple decade ago. I put up with it for awhile, but eventually the new pussy is no longer new and he may lose interest on his own.

paraminotengo · 2015-08-20T23:40:06+00:00

Do you remember that scene when Morpheus tells Neo that some people are not ready to be disconnected and will even fight to be reconnected?

You can't really tell a person something counterintuitive, something that goes against all the disney and romcoms that have been pushed down his throat and expect him to accept it. He needs to be able to connect it to his own experiences, on his own volition. In fact, by talking about TRP with him, you may be poisoning the well for him. Just let him make his mistakes and learn from them.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-08-20T23:28:27+00:00

"In case of emergency, help yourself first before helping other people". Therefore just don't! Don't save your friends.

The best you can do is to save yourself, and lead by example. Live your life on your own terms, maybe they will notice something, maybe they will not.

If they notice and they ask or they complain, just drop some nuggets of wisdom without ever mention The Red Pill. Let me repeat that, Without Ever Mention The Red Pill.

abetterarsonist · 2015-08-21T00:35:51+00:00

Get her addicted to meth & she'll just ditch him for dealers.

Retro93 · 2015-08-21T00:32:36+00:00

You don't. However, if he comes to you looking for advice, drop some knowledge on him. Trying to save someone who doesn't want to be saved will only tarnish you.

EmpyMagazine · 2015-08-20T23:29:41+00:00

She is a narcissist or borderline. She is addicted to him because he is her supply, but the spider won't leave her prey so easily after wrapping him up in emotional webbing, and not while there is some juice--resources--left or if he is still showing some signs of life, which he is or he wouldn't be punished. On a level, she hates your friend and wants the good masculine part of him to die completely. You need to use hypergamy to get her a new supply; another beta must be sacrificed to save your friend.

RP_Vergil · 2015-08-21T02:53:27+00:00

Until the pupil seeks the master, his just an old monk sweeping floor in the courtyard of a Monastery.

boscoist · 2015-08-21T04:58:52+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome

don't tell him to dump her, make him aware of what is going on and lead him to the conclusion that dumping her is his best choice. shit, do i have to write the guide on spreading TRP. I'm honestly fucking tired of this "DONT TALK ABOUT TRP" bullshit. I've RPed my brother, my best friend and virtually all the guys i know will agree with me on the basics, leave the implementation to them however.

MGHOW_ATL · 2015-08-21T13:19:56+00:00

You can't. He will either figure it out or get burned and then maybe figure it out or not.

Either way, unless he asks or approaches you, stay away from this. if he's not ready, you'll just piss him off. Be there for him as much as you can, but be ready to step aside when shit really flies.

MyLittleAtomBomb · 2015-08-21T19:08:22+00:00

Take it from me, it's a lost cause.

A pre-trp friend of mine had his first gf ever break up with him under false pretenses and begin dating his wealthier friend in the medical field under his nose.

I tried to introduce him to the core concepts and all that happened was he used this as leverage against me when I tried to get with a mutual female friend of ours.

my_goblin_face · 2015-08-22T00:27:58+00:00

First, accept that whatever happens you're probably not going to stay friends for much longer; it's just not a feature of any likely outcome here. Next, tell him the truth.

He probably won't accept it, or he'll accept the bits that don't rattle his worldview. If he looks up to you though, he may remember it down the road when his fantasy world has fallen apart and he's grasping for meaning in his newly-empty life.

evilquesadilla · 2015-08-21T00:26:48+00:00

You can't do anything. Some people like to punch, some people like to get punched. Maybe they are made for each other. Don't mess with other people's lives. He has to make this decision himself.

alexisheree · 2015-08-22T00:47:15+00:00

Like all these guys have already said. He needs to hit rock bottom before he can see the light. Some people just need to fall to the bottom of the mountain a few times before being able to climb to the top.

However. I can understand and relate to what you are saying and converted my friend to an RP mindset who was in a similar situation so maybe you might be able to do the same.

The way I did it and the way I recommend you try to help your friend is to get him to question himself and the situation he is in from an objective standpoint.

OneRedYear · 2015-08-21T04:08:32+00:00

I would have a hard time being friends with him. I'd probably distance myself and let him know why if he asked. "He's a bitch who likes abuse. He needs to fix his shit and be man." Let him go. He's lost as fuck.

Sir_Distic · 2015-08-21T17:20:57+00:00

You could always break them up. Otherwise just let him know you're his friend no matter what.

KartagoPill · 2015-08-23T09:23:13+00:00

My friend tried save me and I was doing the opposite, going into toxic relationship even more. Only after girl dumped me I was actually angry so I took redpill. Friend was annoying when he tried to save me even if with good intentions.

Title	How do I save my friend?
Author	The69th
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	August 20, 2015 10:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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