Don't settle for a starfish

Heizenbrg · 2015-09-17T18:36:59+00:00

If you are in a LTR and you sense Starfish sex, get up and say, Not now, maybe another time and then leave a go do your shit. I have used this multiple times, the sex is always better after

Invalidity · 2015-09-17T17:48:40+00:00

Many guys make the mistake of believing that experienced women give better sex. As a leader, you are able to and should be willing to direct women to do what gives you pleasure.

If they are newbies, they will listen to you if they are willing to please you. They will do what it takes to learn about what it is that you desire. My friend has gotten many girls to give him rimjobs even from the most prudish girls. Why? They want to please him!

If a girl you are sleeping with makes no attempts to please you, whether or not she is experienced, she is investing very little in you. She is not worth keeping around.

You can get a girl to change how she feels about you, but only if there is an absence of your presence around her. Girls generally do not change drastically as you are changing in front of her, if they didn't respect you much from the get-go. So it's best that guys do not linger around a girl thinking that she will change if they improve themselves.

RedVillain · 2015-09-17T17:32:34+00:00

My personal experience has been that the more attractive women I've been with have been average lays at best. It almost feels like they think they've given me this huge reward and now they mail it in. Some have snapped out of it though.

My favorite girls have been the slightly self-conscious.

redpillbanana · 2015-09-17T19:42:54+00:00

IMAO a starfish is not so bad as long as (1) she has a very sexy body and (2) you're getting variety elsewhere.

When I encounter a starfish who is otherwise very sexy, I just (consensually) pin her down and go to pound town. Yes, it's all about me and my pleasure - it has more in common with masturbation than sex. She's really just a giant sexy fleshlight at that point. If she doesn't like it then she's welcome to exit starfish mode and get more involved, which I always encourage.

RedPillJax · 2015-09-17T21:49:28+00:00

There's nothing like bedding a wildcat after being stuck in a relationship with nothing but IV-drip duty sex to sustain you for however long your chump ass stuck around.

I'm guilty of it, but man. It's like losing it for the first time all over again.

Completely agree, OP. Even the MRP guys who understand things in relationships take a little bending here and there to keep things afloat 100% advise to get up, put your dick away, and go do literally anything else if she's giving you the starfish.

BleauGumms · 2015-09-17T22:52:25+00:00

If she was a starfish for you, then most likely she was riding reverse cowgirl on someone else.

Grats on your divorce.

fearl3ss · 2015-09-18T03:39:17+00:00

I don't mind a woman who starfishes.

In that case, I fuck her mouth.

sardinemanR · 2015-09-17T21:23:10+00:00

I guess I'm really lucky that I'm just very dominant, and girls seem to love that. I don't really particularly care what they do. I always see people on here complain about missionary position, but pretty much everything I do is with me on top in complete control.

And in my experience, not only do girls love that, but they tell other girls and are a lot more open to sex when they know they don't have to "perform." A lot of my f-closes come from girls basically referring me, almost like a job hah.

pdtrading · 2015-09-18T15:28:30+00:00

Can you elaborate on your post with things that worked for you. How you developed those connections with the partners, how you met them, and like your typical interaction with them?

prodigyx · 2015-09-17T20:31:30+00:00

If a chick is starfishing, it is your fault not hers.

If shes got the tingles, most likely she will show some enthusiasm. And if she is shy, men are supposed to take the lead, especially in the bedroom.

[deleted] · 2015-09-21T15:15:58+00:00

Just had my first starfish girl last night. Holy fuck was she bad. I had to stop 3 times cause I kept "losing" my mojo.

My guess was she never had a guy tell her that shit sucks because she has a nice face and huge cans.

The entitlement is high on this one. The wall will not be forgiving.

commentatorX · 2015-09-17T17:41:58+00:00

Such a cliché, but this is why I prefer chubby chicks.

Title	Don't settle for a starfish
Author	pokerb
Upvotes	106
Comments	52
Date	September 17, 2015 5:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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