We've probably all heard that good'ol phrase, that illustrates perfectly the sex-positive thought that is now part of our society. "Its just sex".

"Whats the big deal? Its just sex! Get over it!".

This is how people shame "insecure" men into marrying/LTRing a slut, this is how sluts justify having sex with a bunch of people, this is how we, as a society, are teaching ourselves to think about the act of sex. Its meaningless.

Right now, sex is seen as nothing more than the act itself. After you fuck a girl its done, its over. There is nothing beyond it. It can mean one thing for her and another, completely different thing for you, this is actually very common these days.

People need to have what is considered "normal" in order to be on the same page, everyone knows that everyone knows what everything means to everyone. This is what it means to live in a group. You can have outliers, you can have people that break the standard of what is acceptable, but these people aren't the rule they are the outliers, and everyone sees them as such.

And just like marriage and family, the meaning of sex is broken. It can be anything you want it to be. A family can be anything you like, anyone can love anything the same way a man loves a woman. Love, family, marriage, sex, can now be between anything and anyone, we are freed ourselves from the definitions without realizing that the definitions were the only thing that made these concepts meaningful in the first place.

In order to live together, even two people in the same apartment, there needs to be an agreement on what is and what isn't acceptable. That "trust" is necessary to live peacefully with another person. And, history as told us that sex is one of the essencials to be agreed upon. The act of sex needs to have an agreed upon meaning. This meaning is family and children.

People will still fuck, we are animals after all, but we agree that that isn't something acceptable to do it unashamedly. The meaning of sex is intact, we all know what its wrong and what is right, and we all know and trust 100% that everyone else knows.