Recently went on a date with a girl last week. Met off Tinder. It's actually a good market for high quality girls in EE (I'm American but moved to EE half a year ago).

She's a dancer. Naturally beautiful (instinctually more conservative), also Eastern European (thus more conservative), so she naturally resists blatant fuckboy moves.

We start the coffee date and she's immediately hooked. Loves my long hair. I hit her with sexual innuendos quickly. I ask about EE men and she says they're pussies. She's dated non-native this year and recently dumped one guy who started acting shady behind her back (he didn't know how to keep side bitches discrete).

Fifteen minutes in, we take a walk and I grab her ass, kiss her, and pick her up in the middle of a park. She loves it. We talk about sex, and I tell her about my BDSM fetishes. She gets very horny. I try to pull but she hits me with the period excuse. I tell her I'm the captain of the Red Sea. She likes that but has dance practice soon. I consider pushing hard, but meet some resistance.

We then agree to spend the weekend together. She tells me how she's going to bring lots of lingerie and is already calling me "papi" (I'm Latino and she loves that). I should have pushed harder to take her home that night but decide to play chill.

Big mistake.

The next day, I text her about logistics and she's still excited for the weekend, calling me papi some more.

Then, the day of, Friday, I text her and she tells me,

"Hey, so I'm going to be honest, I met someone last night and he wants something serious. I think you're a lot of fun and crazy, but I'm looking for something serious, too, so I will have to cancel our plans."

This bums me out. She's pretty hot and given our sexual tension, the sex would be great.

I delete her number and our WhatsApp conversation, thinking it best to move on.

Then, the thought keeps hitting me, "This isn't done yet."

I hesitate, because I don't want to get all bitchmade on this hoe, but I think about it some more and realize the problem isn't her respect for me or her horniness.

It's attainability.

She doesn't think there's any long-term value in me, and considering her conservativeness (relative to most women) and her good looks, she knows that she can get hot guys who will also commit to her or give her more, so she can drop hotter guys who she knows with pump and dump.

I have a decision to make. Take the risk of looking like a bitch or let it go. Considering the highly likely chance of her cutting me off completely, I take the risk and call her (I checked our Tinder convo and found her number again).

She doesn't know who's calling her, which means she deleted my number. If I didn't call her, we'd never talk again.

I tell her that I'm not necessarily opposed to something serious but that I'm a bit cold emotionally with women sometimes and basically play the "bad boy who tries not to care but does have a heart of gold" frame.

She melts.

She tells me how sweet it is that I'm calling and that she wants to talk about this in person. She has a date with the other guy that night, but I suggest dinner the next night and she agrees.

I accept the possibility that this guy might smash and win her over, but when I text her the next day about coming over, she's excited.

He fucked up.

I make some excuse about being low on funds and that she should come over for dinner and she gives me some bullshit, "If you promise to behave :)" text. I respond, "I promise :)"

Obviously, I don't behave.

Within the first few minutes, we're at it. She straddling me and tellin me how sxy I am. I speak Spanish to her, which she loves, and she tells me how unfair it is that I'm Latin (she has a fetish for Latin guys). She tells me that if I keep speaking Spanish, she's "going to rape me."

I laugh. I keep hiking up her skirt but she pulls it down, telling me to behave. I know the LMR won't last long, though. She straddles me again, and I get a finger in her pussy.

"Oh...god," she moans.

I fingerblast this bitch and she tells me, "You're going to get your couch all bloody."

Still on her period.

"I'm the captain of the Red Sea, remember?"

I pick her up, carry her to my bed, and take this bitch to Pound Town. She spends the whole night with me and we fuck five times. We've spent a total of 2 hours together before sex. She tells me how much bigger I am than her ex and how she loves my ultra-masculinity, including my growling (I get pretty animalistic during sex).

She tells me about the guy from the night before and tells me how he's already telling her that they should be in a relationship. She jokes, "It happens to me all the time." Most guys offer her a relationship in an attempt to cuff her. Bad move on their part. They went full retard/Beta.

Thing is, I didn't promise her anything.

All I did was hang the possibility of a relationship in front of her, without explicitly offering anything. I mean, I've already went on another date with another girl a few days after from my apartment building.

Is she girlfriend material? Pretty close. She's hot, beautiful, doesn't drink/smoke, has a low partner count (relative to American girls and for her age, 25), and is very feminine and submissive (did whatever I asked her to do).

For now, I'll keep fucking side bitches (and probably always; I'm a proponent of one-sided monogamy). So, in reality, I'm not Beta at all. But to get the pussy, I did show some beta qualities.

However, because of the context, it was strategic. I would have lost her of I went full fuckboy/Alpha. She had deleted my number and I would never had heard from her again.

So, what's more Alpha? Getting the pussy at no cost, really, or satisfying my ego by cutting her off?

The answer is clear, considering how much she's texting me now and sending me tons of pictures and already making more future plans with me.

Note: this is mostly for advanced guys who can act a little more romantic than usual to satisfy a girl's need/desire for romance without actually falling into the fantasy and diving face first into oneitis.

Hope this helps some guys who are running into, "You're too much of a player for me" issues, i..e, attainability issues.

Girls want good dick from a strong, sexy guy, but they also want some romance and emotional satisfaction. The trick, the mark of a good seducer, is balancing both without falling onto either extreme.

Tl;dr - Girl wanted my cock, but knew I was a player, so I showed some vulnerability/emotion and outcompeted an actual Beta.

Hector Castillo

Edit: fixing typos and syntax.