A guy and good friend of my GF is flirting and asking her to come and visit him on social media, how do I deal with this?

PillTheRed · 2017-08-22T17:40:20+00:00

Don't blame him, blame her. If she wasn't giving him positive signals, he wouldn't still be pursuing her. The reason he is still after her, is because the conversations that you haven't seen, she is leading him on. Women like to have orbiters. Basically, this guy is her back up plan for after you. Maybe not even after you, he is simply an option. If he won the lottery or scored a six figures job, she would branch swing to him, and leave you in a heartbeat. Women don't love like men do. They love opportunistically. So, she is keeping him around for the chance that he becomes more successful than you, and will leave you if and when that happens. Also, this goes to assume that she isn't already involved with him. Which, she probably is, and has been talking to him a lot through, and probably sending pictures and what not as well.

The fact that he was comfortable inviting her to his country, which I assume is a long fucking trip. Shows that there is something to their relationship. He wouldn't say that if she made it clear there was nothing there. Of course, she will lie because of anti slut defense and doesn't want to seem like a whore dating you, while sending him pictures of her fuck hole and tits.

You need to read the sidebar. This is all spelled out very clearly, because this is very, very common female behavior. She isn't yours, it's just your turn. Sounds like you caught the oneitis. Better lift some weights and fuck some sluts to get your abundance back, assuming you ever had it.

Scandinavianredpill · 2017-08-22T17:37:07+00:00

Read the sidebar, swallow the pill. This is cringy.

Battleslap · 2017-08-22T17:47:23+00:00

This is a troll thread right?

You're making huge mistake after huge mistake.

You've pretty much put the final nail in the coffin by messaging her in the middle of the night while she's asleep. Now she really has a reason to move up to this older, funnier, more intelligent guy ("boyfriend is so controlling")

Absolutely do not message the dude. This would even further punctuate your sensitivity.

Stop being angry and learn where you made your mistakes ("we're so deeply in love"), understand this is likely a lost cause, and read the sidebar again.

Come back when you've swallowed the pill and want to learn to improve yourself for you, not just be better than some dude who's trying to bang your girlfriend over social media.

legendindisguise · 2017-08-22T17:40:48+00:00

This is you being insecure

TAOofSTEVE · 2017-08-22T17:55:34+00:00

Jealousy is NEVER a good thing on the side of men. For women, it’s different. If your girlfriend gets jealous or senses competition from another girl, it INCREASES the attraction she feels for you. Women want men who are wanted. It also feels good personally to know that your girlfriend likes you enough to get jealous (as long as it’s not overboard). But it doesn’t work the other way around. When a GUY gets jealous of ANOTHER guy, it DECREASES your girlfriends attraction for you and INCREASES her attraction towards the other guy. Your jealousy of some other guy is a sign that he is superior to you. And as a result, your girlfriend is naturally inclined to be drawn towards whoever you’re jealous of.

So you might be wondering, who cares if it decreases attraction? As long as your over protective behavior actually does keep her from cheating right? Wrong. You see, women aren’t like men. They don’t cheat because they’re “horny” the way men do. And we can see evidence of this in animals. Many bird species who are “monogamous” (two mates live together for their entire lives and raise children together) actually cheat on their mate. But while the males go around mating with whatever females they can find, the female only goes around and mates with the most DOMINANT male she can find. If there is no male more dominant than the one she lives with, then she won’t cheat. The male always cheats. The female doesn’t just want to have sex, she wants to have sex with the most Alpha Male she can find. People work the same way. Your girlfriend will never cheat on you because she made a careless “stupid” mistake the way you might. If your girlfriend sees you as a dominant alpha male and her interest level is over 80%, she will NOT cheat on you. If it’s anything besides that, then she might. And she’ll label her actions as a careless mistake, when in reality, it was from a lack of attraction.

The golden rule you need to remember in terms of jealousy is that over-protective behavior will NEVER prevent your girlfriend from cheating on you. The ONLY thing in this UNIVERSE that will keep your girlfriend from cheating on you, is a high interest level. If her interest level is low, your girlfriend WILL fuk somebody else. Every single girl in the world has skills comparable to Houdini. They can escape any prison their boyfriends put them in to go fuk some other dude who they’re more attracted to.

Ok so.. wtf do we do? Always ACT CONFIDENT. Be a pro con-artist. Even if some guy with metallic balls twice as big as yours is talking to your girlfriend, don’t say shit. If your girlfriend is talking with other guys, talk to other girls. Make sure you DON’T tell her something like “can you please stop talking to other guys,” If you do, then you might as well donate your balls to charity. If your ever in doubt of what to do, ask yourself, “What would James Bond do in this scenario?”

Besides just acting confident, if you actually want to get over your jealousy problems you’re going to have to work on inner game and confidence. Jealousy is a manifestation of your insecurities, I e; your fear of competition and loss. This is perfectly countered with confidence which is just raw fearlessness.

not my writing - this is from Shark and the now defunct site solvemygirlproblems.com

0signal0 · 2017-08-22T18:21:15+00:00

prior to the year we met she had a friendship group which consisted of a lot of guys.

she admitted to being attracted to him at one point even though he isn't her usual type which is me

Son...you are new here, right?

tater08 · 2017-08-22T18:21:40+00:00

Honestly You shouldn't be in a LTR at your age. PERIOD. I know that's not what you want to hear, but fuck off and stop being a sissy. EVEN IF I were to say ok bro, it's cool to be in an LTR, it wouldn't be with HER. This shouldn't be happening and she should shut it down immediately. Any respectful girlfriend would do that. She has no respect for you, your relationship, or herself. Clearly she loves the attention and you should break the relationship off permanently instead of lamenting and crying to her like a little beta simp.

"We're deeply in love." <= this is just a simple chemical reaction that biology gives us to inspire us to breed. Get the fuck over it for fuck's sake.

bartgus · 2017-08-22T17:36:27+00:00

Pimp her to him. They get to fuck, you get paid, everbody is happy.

htbf · 2017-08-22T18:39:49+00:00

OP you already lost your GF, you just don't know it.

I don't even see why you're posting here, there is nothing in your post about anything TRP teaches.

RavelsBolero · 2017-08-22T19:29:00+00:00

Me and my GF are both 22, he's older and has that wise, chill, witty and intellectual side to him.

Your gf is not "deeply in love" with you. This older man gives her tingles. Tell her she can visit him and fuck him all she wants because you're done with her. And then forget all about her.

MrTrizzles · 2017-08-22T20:43:25+00:00

Do nothing, watch what she does, adjust accordingly.

She knows what she's doing is improper. If she doesn't then wtf are you even doing with low class trash?

As played, muck this hand. And find a different table. Or quit the game.

SasquatchMcKraken · 2017-08-22T19:24:28+00:00

If your outlook depends on other people, especially men, restraining their sexual urges for your sake then you're in some deep shit. Consequently, you seem to be in some deep shit. The fault lies with your girl. Your whole "who does he think he is?!?" mindset is warped as shit. He's just trying to get his dick wet. In an exclusive relationship it's up the woman to reject strange dick and it's up to the man to not go out seeking strange pussy. Your girl isn't holding up her end of the bargain, so drop her ass before you get cheated on (if you haven't been already) or even cucked.

Newreddawn · 2017-08-22T19:33:36+00:00

Women invite this behavior. She is making herself available to this guy and the reasons really don't even matter. Her behavior is highly disrespectful. She doesn't respect you and that means your relationship is dead whether you know it or not. Now is the time to start talking to other girls and drift from her. Stop messaging her and seeking her out. She'll either come running back (I'd still move on if I were you, I don't tolerate this kind of bullshit) or she'll move on. The best thing you can do here is prepare for the next chapter in your life and LEARN from this situation. Zero tolerance for disrespect.

Good luck young man, I know this is a painful time in your life but you will be better for it by moving on.

WestyWorld · 2017-08-22T21:26:50+00:00

She is inviting the behavior. Her response to his comment should be either nothing, or a DM telling him to back off. If that isn't her response, she's not worthy of being anything more than a plate.

On your end, your best choice is to be completely non-reactive. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your career, hobbies, physique. IDGAF attitude.

Mr-Ed209 · 2017-08-23T01:28:11+00:00

You're going to get dumped and rightfully so in a sense. I don't know the full story but your behavior is crazy.

Talk to other girls if you feel jealous. Don't Lord it over her, just be casual with a sense of - 'ah well if that's how it is'

She either sees you withdrawing and gets her behavior in line real quick or she let's you go. That's the drama free way to save/end relationships.

Title	A guy and good friend of my GF is flirting and asking her to come and visit him on social media, how do I deal with this?
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Date	August 22, 2017 5:18 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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