Background:

My RP journey started 6 months ago after a breakup with my oneitis LTR. I was confused, I kept asking myself why I kept failing for the same reason... "You're an amazing guy, I'm just not ready for a relationship" bullshit. I think I've heard that more times than I would like to admit.

Since then, I have drowned myself in books and the sidebar (NMMNG, The Rational Male, Models, How to be a 3% male, etc), I have tested numerous stuff in the field, I traveled to a different country by myself to chase a bucket list item and finding something that gave me purpose (and it was freaking awesome), I have motivated a couple of friends to increase their SMV, I've had to change how to view rejections as a good thing and face my fears until I defeat them, place boundaries and stand up for myself and lift, lift, lift! I was already in good shape but I'm headed to beast mode now.

I've been on a few dates in the past month or so, mostly from online sites. And I am currently spinning a couple of plates. Nothing to write home to, but hey! it's my way of getting better. After all "repetition is the mother of skills"

Which takes me to my field report:

Go out with 41 yr old Tinderella - Yoga instructor, personal trainer, this chick is in pretty good shape. We hit it off instantly, get a couple of drinks and I go for the K-close within 30 minutes of meeting her.

From that point on this chick is GLUED to me! she kept asking me to kiss her, and it was wet, heavy making out! She asked me to join her outside because she's going to vape, we go outside and realize that she just wanted to isolate me and she then proceeds to latch on to me and continue the makeout session.

At this point I'm getting a little bit uncomfortable, getting horny and I was really enjoying the drink I was having and having a good time at the bar... I wanted to go back inside and keep sipping on my drink and laughing, enjoying the music, etc... I'm cool with making out, but damn, I was talking to people, enjoying myself.

So, I tell her after a couple of attempts of going back in and the "We're not having sex tonight" line (which we all know means that we ARE having sex tonight) "STOP! you don't get to kiss me anymore, you already said we are not having sex tonight and I'm getting hard, don't want to walk around with a boner and you're not going to take care of it....so, I'm going back in and you're joining me"

The look I got was priceless! the "are you fucking kidding me?" look... I turned around and went back. She took like 2 minutes, I imagine she was shit testing me to see if I was going to pussy out and go back to get her. Nope, not tonight! My BP self would have stayed there like a little puppy, not this guy, not anymore.

We continue to have drinks, and having a good time, she grabs and tries to kiss me and I pull away with a smirk in my face. Like I really don’t give a shit (as a matter of fact, I really didn’t, it was fun and games for me)

Fast forward to when I dropped her home, OF COURSE she invites me in after a few minutes of LMR, and when I go in her house, this place is fucking filthy! like the bathroom hasn't been cleaned in 2 months filthy. Her room is a train wreck, but I'm thinking "fuck it, I'm pounding this and leaving this shit hole”.

I really didn’t like the sex, I was weirded out by the whole house situation, I didn’t even want to go down on her because it grossed me out!!!! her fucking hair was all over my face when she was on top of me, which made me really uncomfortable (even though I told her it was bothering me, I kept “eating" her hair when I tried to breathe and I had to put an awkward stop in the middle of it to take care of that), I like tattoos, but her whole back is covered with a gigantic tattoo that I really didn’t like and I found out when I turned her around because of the hair situation, she has a guy roommate and her door didn’t have a knob so I basically fucked her with the door open, the whole experience was a train wreck, I kept thinking about my next trip, what I was going to do to make more money during the winter, etc....all this while she came like 4 times. I was happy that it ended, slept a couple of hours because I was a little tipsy and didn’t want to drive home like that, then got up and left.

So, soft next in action!

The learning point of this was that I got what I wanted and didn’t give a shit about what she said, just saw what she did instead. Also, recognized and passed shit tests, the date was what I wanted, when I wanted and with whom I wanted, at my pace…. and I was ready to walk away and never look back without any remorse whatsoever.

Now, I need to apply the same RP principles with the chicks that I actually give a shit about… I’m taking this experience as “lab” work!

Thank you TRP, this one really felt good! (except for the sex)

TL;DR: Applied RP principles to a Tinderella and am applying what I’ve learned in the past few months into my RP journey.