I broke up with my girlfriend over this. Am I an idiot? be honest.

justletmemakeanacc · 2019-03-18T03:10:13+00:00

Is this your first relationship? You got past the honeymoon period. That's how most/all of them end up.

Regardless, I have to comment on your ex. She's more psychotic that the usual. Killing animals for no reason. Saying she'll kill herself. Wtf man. Consider moving to a different continent. Your shit gonna be messed up for the next couple months at least. Good luck and GYOW.

chronic_nervosa · 2019-03-18T02:51:17+00:00

Just break up with her and watch all the bugs and fights you want.

Easiest, cheapest, and most fun solution in my opinion!

Beerbeer007 · 2019-03-18T03:41:04+00:00

this is not the /RelationshipAdvice tab; but still it sounded like another shit-test... You showed her the boundary.

Nagamagi · 2019-03-18T04:16:15+00:00

Actions speak louder than words. What she did was a snippet of what kind of person she really is. Ignore this big red flag at your own risk.

801735 · 2019-03-18T02:31:42+00:00

All thoughts and opinions are encouraged.

That's good to know. I'll think about that. ]=)

CoinSwapTrader · 2019-03-18T02:53:45+00:00

Seems you got a narcissist attention vampire psycho....good luck with that hahaha

CiceroVoltaire · 2019-03-18T02:45:00+00:00

This isn't the sub your looking for.

You deserve each other.

Enjoy life on the plantation.

QuantumSanta · 2019-03-18T04:00:53+00:00

> I took note of this, and started to ghost her, and magically the sex became good again and she was being the best she could be

This is just hysterical bonding. She will open up with the sex, just to keep you around. When she is comfortable that you will not leave, the sex frequency will drop like a stone.

StratOmaticFanatic · 2019-03-18T04:01:33+00:00

She's a psycho, tell her to fuck off, then cut off all contact. Whatever happens don't blame yourself, you've got to protect yourself first and foremost.

duong9006 · 2019-03-18T04:23:30+00:00

Let's her suicide if it is what she intends, but I heavily doubt that.

Your story is a common instance showing what women do to keep the attention for themselves. Once you're in a relationship, by their intepretation, your every personal thing: hobbies, likes, friends, even thinking, must be under their (women) control. Each time you do something that takes the attention from them, they do not hesitate to use the craziest, the most appalling method to get it back for themselves. And they give shit about your feeling...

AcrobaticAge · 2019-03-18T05:24:14+00:00

So she smashed something she knew you love, in your face, just for shits and giggles?

Ask yourself what would be the next thing you love she destroys just for fun.

Strixt · 2019-03-18T08:20:36+00:00

Why would anyone be ok with killing a helpless animal even if it is a toad. Ffs both of those eat mosquitoes. Anything that eats mosquitoes are precious in my book. More bats? Hell yes please!!!

Ffs why would you even want blood and guts on your shoes....

You run the f away because your balls are next on her shoe kill list.

BahamianMGTOW · 2019-03-18T02:54:48+00:00

Yip wrong sub check the relationship subs, we are free men here most of us already paid the heavy price for our time on the vagina plantation. Its your turn now

Vaxel00 · 2019-03-18T04:30:10+00:00

It's good to have boundaries. You're not responsible for her.

lonewolfsigmamgtow · 2019-03-18T07:01:04+00:00

Trust me, you dodged a major bullet, if she couldn't let you watch 2 animals fighting, what good would she be as a WAIFU or the mother of your children. You got away easy, try to throw a party for yourself. Go to chickenranch.com sometimes as well, have a threesome and CHILL. Upload the pics (no faces) as well , if you want. Or make an amateur revenge porn video of yours. That is what i would do.

EggsAndSpanky · 2019-03-18T07:27:50+00:00

Yo, I don't even belong here, but she freakin' crushed an animal. That's a big red flag, man. She ain't right. I'd drop someone like a hot rock for that. You did the right thing.

Uniqueusername360 · 2019-03-18T08:15:57+00:00

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Focus on your happiness and never look back

2019-03-18T10:22:30+00:00

She wanted you to focus your attention on only her. She deserved to be dumped.

NietzscheExplosion · 2019-03-18T19:03:59+00:00

What a metaphor. Two creatures fighting for food or survival....perhaps to be successful and breed... Crushed by some mental thot.

There are no wars worth fighting.

DWS33_ · 2019-03-18T02:33:38+00:00

okay so clearly you’re not a MGTOW. I mean she smashed your phone bro. that’s slick kinda abuse . and in the future she may do more. it’s up to you whether you want to put it in the past.

Now if you want what i’ll do i’ll say leave her alone and focus on you

TheUltimateThug · 2019-03-18T04:20:05+00:00

what's with all these people asking for relationship advice all of a sudden?

MonsterHipster · 2019-03-18T06:33:51+00:00

The truth hurts

TheOnlyThing-Sufjan · 2019-03-18T10:32:12+00:00

Sounds like a BPD (borderline personality disorder) woman to me, mabye read some stuff about it and see if her behavior is similiar to that of a BPD person. If not then she is just a 'normal' woman. Both behaviors can be explained by both those assumption I will do so now.

BPD girlfriend:

Initial stages, you are her world, and you will never feel being loved and cared for that intensley by non bpd people. Basically she will makes you her world and then all of a sudden she losses intresst, this is simply because that is how her relationship skills work. Hit them hard with love and then cold turkey. This was happening with less sex, but then you actually said fuck it and started pulling away. This in turn triggered her BPD (she hates the fact that after all her love she is not fully ruined by her) so she comes back really really hard. Then killing the bugs is simply her lashing out because she is pissed that you care so deeply about anything else but her, BPD want you all to themselves, which means that friends/hobbies and everything that might take attention away from her is a real threat to her. Then simply killing the animals is a sign that she can cross certain limits normal people would not cross to get that attention back. The same when she blows up her phone and threatens suicide. In her mind she only wants you attention (she is back in the giving constant love phase), and if she cannot do that her life is hell. IF you let her back in, in a couple of months she will start pulling away again, but if you are then in love with her you will not be able to pull away. Conclusion if you think she is BPD RUN!!

Non-BPD girlfriend:

Kind of the same as with BPD in the initial stages you excite her, you are new fun and sort of drama (meaning that she does not know yet what your boundraries are which is fun for women). Then after awhile she gets bored (women have the inherent ability to grow bored quickly), so she starts to pull away and both shit testing you (meaning looking how you react to certain behavior), and you passed with flying collors. You showed her that you are fine with her if she does not do certain things in a relationship you want. This signals to her that there might be other women (cause she cannot believe that you might just be happy doing your own thing) who want to fuck you. This triggers her internal competition impulse, meaning that she now wants you again with all the sex and BJ to prove it. Basically in a relationship women will test you and test you and if you keep passing then she will stay and want to keep doing her best for you. When she killed the bugs it was simply because she was bored, usually women get pissed of and bored when men do stuff they enjoy especially if that does not include her. She see that as a great offense, how can he not spend that time on me or for me am I not the most important thing. So she tries to destroy that, and she is quite cruel in the way she does it. This basically the same reason girlfriend hate it when guys game, play to much sports, have to many hobbies, or hang out with their friend. So she tries to the destory it either forcefully or subtilly. For example: I dont like it when you game when I'm at home that shows that you do not appreciate me that you rather be gaming that doing something with me, basically using guilt to trick you into gaming less and less. Or forcefully she might destroy your pc or demands you stop doing so childish. That last one is what happend when she killed the bugs. Then you showed her that you do not accept that behavior (again passing the shit test) and totally ignored her, which is one big trigger for women. Which trigger her competition impulse and therefore she is blowing up your phone and stuff, because in her eyes you are worth it. Not by being nice or a caring boyfriend but because you can still walk away from her which shows either that you have other girl lined up (which in her eyes is terrible because that means you are worth alot) or that you do not care about her (which is also a huge ego hit). Women in general cannot fathom that men simply might not be intressted in chasing and/or dating women. Conclusion: You might not have to run as much as with BPD girlfriend, but be warned if you let her back into your life she will be sweet and thankfull for awhile, then the boredom kicks in and she starts shit tests again, then you must wonder if that hassle is worht it for you.

Amphibole_ · 2019-03-18T10:46:15+00:00

Damn, I feel really sympathetic for you. I too find rare events like this very interesting, but there's something more to it than that. Like being pulled away from such a thing can really build up rage, even though to those who don't understand it doesn't seem like a big deal. Honestly it's one of the only male emotional responses that seem exacerbated, like an outsider would just think you'd get pissed, but for some reason it flicks a switch.

Obviously any relationship advice from a MGTOW is to break up, not just for the reason you had, but due to their nature conflicting with what is in our best interests. If you don't understand this and you want to, you might want to do red pill theory reading.

TheUltimateThug · 2019-03-18T10:55:29+00:00

Ghost protocol activated. You already know the answer to the question you ask, you just need an excuse or a push to confirm it. You did the right thing. She’s not your wife or responsibility, move on.

11poster925 · 2019-03-18T11:13:57+00:00

tldr, nope. just check first two sub pages. exhale, profit.

2019-03-18T11:49:37+00:00

This isn't relationship advice.

BigBadBootyDaddy10 · 2019-03-18T13:12:39+00:00

You only get attention when you ghost her, think about that.

shitfren · 2019-03-18T14:25:31+00:00

No you can see the real nature of people by looking how they treat other beings. If she just killed two animals because of nothing she is an asshole.

Second. The suicidal thoughts are most certainly just a way to get your compassion. Most females are to self centred and narcissistic to really get it done. At best she will try a suicide attempt that she miraculously will survive to manipulate you.

professordane67 · 2019-03-18T14:54:05+00:00

Well, I tell you what... As an older guy, as you get older and take advice of friends "You're just going after the wrong kind of woman" and you try to go after different types, going after maybe less attractive, maybe stay away from the bar scene, stay away from dating apps, stay away from entitled women, in the end, they are all the same from all walks of life and the older and more experienced they get at manipulation, sexual blackmail, etc, the more horrific their action and the more equipped they become to destroy you to their benefit or just out of sheer Joy. This event will seem like nothing in 5 years.

jacketguy · 2019-03-18T18:54:20+00:00

i say dont second guess yourself

second guessing is how we end up allowing them to screw us over

“maybe i was too harsh” will eventually become “why didnt i pay attention to the red flags!?”

im 34.. so i’m an O.G. and my advice is save yourself the headache, dont second guess

i remember one day i took my ex gf to eat and out of some weird spite she didnt speak to me the whole time..... and so i was ready to dump her, but i didnt

but looking back i should have, plain and simple

ultimately do what u want tho

TheHighPriestess0 · 2019-03-18T20:18:16+00:00

She is a psychopath. Get yourself a chill girl who has a job, likes camping and smokes weed.

Andsmoo · 2019-03-19T03:29:06+00:00

SHE IS A PSYCHOPATH

Title	I broke up with my girlfriend over this. Am I an idiot? be honest.
Author	TheUltimateThug
Upvotes	28
Comments	56
Date	March 18, 2019 2:29 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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