Background: Rusty game, been busy traveling, finally back in my base city. Tinder match, 8.5/10. We started chatting around 23:30, I open with a simple "hey, want to come over tomorrow and do x interesting hobby with me". She replies and we start chatting.

  • Lesson 1: a girl who responds and keeps chatting with you has given you a clear IOI. Keep her attention and focus it on yourself.

  • Lesson 2: Always be closing. I opened with an invitation to come over to my place. That invitation is hanging in the air the entire conversation. It is something for my mind to be focused on and not be distracted.

As the chat goes on, I ask her to come over again. She deflects with another question about my hobbies. This indicates that she may just be talking to me for my attention. I start to go back to my other work.

  • Lesson 3: There are girls who just want the attention. Move on quickly, but don't burn bridges.

Near 23:59 I tell her that I have to get back to preparing for tomorrow. I actually do. I leave her my number and tell her to text me tomorrow. She responds with another question about my hobbies. That feels too much like attention whoring. I ignore it.

  • Lesson 4: Have fulfilling shit to do. Prioritize your time. Enjoy doing it. This is the easiest, best, and most natural way to gain value and frame. I simply have shit to do. If you are not coming over to be fucked I am not wasting time on you.

  • Lesson 5: Be civil. Again, don't burn bridges.

The next evening she texts me and asks if I'm still free and up to meet. I'm surprised, pleasantly, but play it cool. Yeah, I'm free. I am in fact at home doing all the shit I said I would be yesterday. Come over.

  • Lesson 6: Logistics. When I told her I was free on Wednesday I meant it. I stay by myself. Everything I do is in a calendar. I always have condoms. Make things easy for girls to come over and get fucked.

  • Lesson 7: Attention craving. It is a fact of contemporary life that there are few men of quality. I demonstrated quality in my profile and my conversation. I withheld attention when it was not deserved. I held frame. Some time between Tuesday night and Wednesday evening, her frame broke down. She wanted me.

  • Lesson 8: Frame. Focus on developing yourself and becoming a man of naturally strong frame. I wasn't even gaming her- I had written her off as another waste of time. By being myself, she threw herself at me. This is how easy things have become if you have the basics down.

She came over. We talked, I showed her all the cool shit I have laying around. All the time standing over her when talking to her. Escalating physically, laughing, touching her shoulders and legs. She shifts in her chair and looks down: a sign of submission. I catch her checking me out.

  • Lesson 9: Be yourself. Being anything else has a high chance of being awkward. I'll be honest; some girls would have been turned off at this point. That's ok. Let them leave. Be nice. There is no point in forcing an encounter and no point in being an asshole unnecessarily.

  • Lesson 9a: If your self is shitty, improve yourself. Lifting is the first step. Sometimes that means pretending to be more confident than you are. Only for confidence, when you pretend enough times you start to be it. Otherwise when I say "be yourself" I do not mean "be an awkward bitch". I mean "change that awkward bitch into a man, then be a man".

  • Lesson 10: The bootstrapping problem. The only way to get comfortable with girls, even in your own home, is experience. Go out and meet them. Talk to them. Expect to fail. If you only expect to succeed you will live your life wondering why you're not getting what you deserve.

Eventually I feel like it's time. I pick her up and throw her on the bed. Couple minutes of foreplay and she's dripping wet. "Should feel like feeding a horse" is a good guideline. I fuck her hard. She's lying there afterwards catching her breath.

  • Lesson 11: Fucking. When I say "fuck her hard" I don't mean "is this hurting you" hard. I mean "I'm going to fill your cunt with my cum" hard. If she doesn't say stop, don't. I have found it easy to impress most girls with just old-fashioned missionary sex- which leads me to believe that most men have no idea how to fuck a girl.

  • Lesson 12: Aftercare. If she is actually fun to spend time with, put in some care. Cuddles, hugs, kisses. She will appreciate it, and if she doesn't, you found out early. A good encounter is always worth setting up for more. Also, the sweet talk is good evidence that the sex was consensual and pleasurable. See her out with a kiss- a proper one on the lips.

  • Lesson 13: The numbers game. This was just one of many matches that week. Many more that went nowhere. Failure is no excuse to stop trying. It should be a reason to try harder.

Writing this has been very useful as self-reflection and a reminder to focus on the basics. Without them, the most elaborate setups will still fail.