Apparently casual sex and modern-day hook-up culture is a struggle for women and they want men to adjust to their needs accordingly

strongandhappy · 2018-07-23T15:38:00+00:00

TLDR: Women have a harder time because amongst all the free sex and attention we get, sometimes it isn't as good as we'd like.

ZealousMathematician · 2018-07-23T15:08:27+00:00

“We need to weed out the ones that are unsafe, scary, won’t stop”- yet those are the ones she will end up with anyways... This is proven by the fact that I’m probably around 70-80% successful in getting a girl to dance with me by simply going up and forcing myself on her. It almost always works. However all four times I have been nice and actually asked the girl “hey wanna dance” I get weird looks or just a straight up no. Literally being nice and “safe” never ever works. Women not understanding their own sexuality is fucking up society

DeMeza · 2018-07-23T17:34:32+00:00

It’s almost like a rich person saying to a poor person: Yes, I’ve more money than you, but do you realize that spending money is hard?

2018-07-23T17:11:39+00:00

What women need to understand about casual sex for straight men:

1) We have to ask ourselves, "Can I actually get a hard on with this fatty?"

2) Is this random fatty going to #metoo me or something like that after a consensual act(s)?

3) Is it worth the risk?

And even then, the sex is often substandard.

In her words, "overall, it seems to me this type of stuff happens less to straight women."

flee_market · 2018-07-23T15:26:32+00:00

Hilariously, I'm one of those attentive lovers she talks about, but I don't approach women because women are already saturated in male attention. It makes as much sense as trying to win the lottery. The odds are against you.

So, yeah, she's going to keep winding up with jerks because she only gives pushy jerks a chance. She never initiates because it never occurs to her that the attentive lover she's looking for might also be smart enough to opt out of the competition in the first place.

rebuildingMyself · 2018-07-23T16:49:33+00:00

"Life on the cock carousel is so hard. While I only throw pussy at the dirtiest and shadiest of thugs in the club, I really hate it when guys act like thugs!""

2018-07-23T18:33:41+00:00

Casual sex is why society is so twisted. Seriously.

Two dumb fucks who should never have kids because they have garbage traits and shit genetics, get drunk, fuck one night and she gets packed to the brim.

9 months later, both parents are still retarded ASF but have a kid.

This is basically why Gen X is so retarded, they were born from post-war morons.

Than Gen X only cared about snorting coke, having gang bangs and acting like entitled fucks.

Now it's 2018, tons of retards walking around, seriously, tons of them, tons of idiots with 0 self-awareness, and all around, just fucked.

This is mostly in western culture because during the whole "coke craze" in north america, asian countries were doubling down on productivity, which is why they basically run the world behind the scenes today while NA is falling apart at the seams.

Gen X is still fucked too, they think their little toys from 1942 are some how magically worth millions of dollars, houses these assholes bought for barely 50k, they some how think are worth millions 60 years later with 0 maintenance done ever.

These assholes raised even bigger dick heads too.

All this bullshit started after WW2 because everyone was a sucker who became addicted to stupid shit and learned some retarded thought process, now here we are in 2018, and people over-value themselves way too much.

Especially women. They somehow think they are special and above every other female species walking. When in reality is, when you compare human females to even the most base fucking level female insect, the female insect shits all over a human female in every aspect of life.

DarthSchadenfreude · 2018-07-23T15:31:07+00:00

For all the concern for their personal security, far more men are assaulted and murdered than women. Women aren't more deserving than men; they are simply more arrogant.

Best response for smart men is to boycott pussy and let them catch all the STI's they want from the remaining men that still want them.

CastandRefused · 2018-07-23T16:07:22+00:00

Fuck their casual sex. Who cares what they want.

Ghustgan · 2018-07-23T16:18:08+00:00

OMG how do we save women's orgasms guys? This is unacceptable! She can't have amazing sex guys, did you hear this? I thought we were past this stuff, this is 2018! This is an affront to all things that society stands for!

Get a dildo machine you sex crazed cunt.

2018-07-23T16:56:25+00:00

Dating market is now a Battle Royale: Confirmed.

2018-07-23T15:59:55+00:00

I read her essay and while she's making some good points, the first thought I had after finishing it was "I just don't care...".

havelpoise · 2018-07-23T16:31:19+00:00

I also wanted to make a post on this. Glad other guys saw this stupid fucking post at the top of r/sex

Starcruiser28 · 2018-07-23T18:48:10+00:00

Not my problem. Stop fucking random Chads and find a guy that actually cares then you won't have these issues, will you. Good luck with that. So long and thanks for all the fish.

the_unseen_one · 2018-07-23T19:18:12+00:00

Holy shit. I read this yesterday and just shook my head. I obviously don't below in today's culture. I'm just speechless that women seriously think this way. They are so out of touch with men, and they don't give a fuck. Women literally cannot care less about the plight of men. They can't even fathom life from a man's perspective.

2018-07-23T19:12:59+00:00

I thought she had a point.. but I stopped and laughed at “good sex”. They just lay there and expect man to do all the work.

toolate4redpill · 2018-07-23T18:02:23+00:00

TLDR. "Just be well hung that's what we need"

Zombocom1911 · 2018-07-23T18:07:23+00:00

boo hoo life is unsatisfactory for you princess? that Disney fairytale didn't work out for you? cry me a never ending river for all your pain and suffering

2018-07-23T21:00:52+00:00

Ironically enough, if she was happy with JUST ONE man and actually communicated with him in bed, she would be getting good and frequent sex and not have to worry about being abused/assaulted. But of course, that’s not good enough, because if she were in a relationship she would just gaslight the shit out of him and then wake up one morning and decide “I’m not feeling it”.

oirectine00 · 2018-07-23T21:59:31+00:00

You still have it easier.

As someone who is not sexually experienced due to being alone throughout his 20's, I never had the chance to get "good" at sex. And I never will. But women seem to be demanding a guy who is sexually experienced and in tune with their needs.

Meaning, that's another nail in the coffin for me and another point to add on to "You're nice, but...." (see also: money).

And again, they wonder why I have opted out.

Women want you to be perfect from the get-go. After all, they always have another option.

TheOnlyThing-Sufjan · 2018-07-23T22:18:10+00:00

I always hate titles with that condecending tone, ...... need to understand. Why would i need to understand anything about you or your life or what bothers you. You can give me the information if I'm intressted in interacting with you, but honestly alot of guys do not have causal sex so why do they need to understand. I do not need to understand anything, only if I'm willing to look up said information or knowledge. Honestly just by such a title I'm already convinced the writer is a self absored idiot. Rephrase it just a little bit, for example: The common misconceptions concerning causal sex for women. But no, I have to understand something from her, and if I dont udnerstand then what? Really annoying.

T0000009 · 2018-07-23T20:34:12+00:00

Well Darling...

If you had not spent the last 20 years getting fucked and chucked by some random jackass you just met, then you would have had ONE MAN that knew exactly what you like and would actually be interested in you getting off.

HOWEVER

You would rather be a mattress back tramp which no man will ever give a dam about pleasing so quit bitching about the choices you made.

apwiseman · 2018-07-23T20:14:41+00:00

I was going to read it, but I tune out when women start to nag and complain.

lulz3r · 2018-07-23T21:40:04+00:00

I stopped reading a few lines in once it became evident that this is a needless lengthy complaint about a nonissue.

rzr_cl · 2018-07-24T00:15:17+00:00

She assumes we have a good time having sex just because we’re men.

I’m sorry but I’ve seen this movie before; most women attract men by giving them decent sex at first, sometimes it can be even funny, but shortly after she feels somewhat “safe” in the relationship, she’ll give you just a sub-standard BJ and starfish sex IF YOU’RE LUCKY, because if she’s annoyed at something you can say goodbye to getting laid, it’s almost guaranteed she will have sex with someone else. And let’s not even talk about divorce rape, false rape accusations, sperm jacking, and a very long etc.

Without being a business expert, I can certainly recognize a bad deal when I see one, so I’m out. Have fun fucking Chad while you still can, the wall will take care or you sooner than later.

AmazingAsianGuy776 · 2018-07-24T00:38:10+00:00

I'm kinda sick of how women talk about how bad men are in bed but never consider how bad they are. They think just because they have a pussy and put a dick in their mouth makes them the best bitch in bed when in reality they give terrible bjs and is a fucking starfish. Just because you open ure legs doesn't make you good in bed. Guys just make the best with what they have but girls have no power over their own fucking orgasms that they rely on men to give it to them. Plus they all think they have fucking golden magical vaginas when you could fit a fucking baseball bat in there.

TheGreatLeveler · 2018-07-23T20:04:56+00:00

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FalsePositiveRethink · 2018-07-23T22:26:51+00:00

Probably easier if we just ignore you and your friends and go our own way.

Problem solved. Have a nice life.

2018-07-24T02:04:06+00:00

Oh fuck, oh fuck, oh fuck.... MORE feminist fucking drivel.

Fuck or No fuck or Fuck off..

Simple.

OokieOOK · 2018-07-24T02:26:27+00:00

As to paragraph two, so this explains why they pick nice guys and not two-bit thugs with prison records to have sex with? Makes total sense. /s

Watermelon_Soldier · 2018-07-24T02:33:03+00:00

Right cause 10 minutes of eating pussy in return for only like 30 seconds of sucking dick just so she can say “I returned the favor” is definitely fair.

On top of that, most women will say the sex is good if the guy is attractive to make their friends jealous, and if he’s below average she’ll say he sucked in bed and “she won’t be doing that again” so her friends don’t view her as a slut with low standards.

Casual sex is a crapshoot. 95% of the time it sucks and about 5% of the time it’s worth the effort/risk.

2018-07-24T02:58:35+00:00

"Oh, you're working your ass off not to starve? Well you know, not all of this free food I keep getting offered is all that good you know"

2018-07-24T04:44:46+00:00

Is she arguing we don't have compatibility concerns as well?

2018-07-24T04:45:00+00:00

" Masturbating with you body" Yup that pretty much sums up sex for men.

MarzMonkey · 2018-07-24T06:56:22+00:00

"He knew what to say and how to behave up until that point to fool me"

Yeah, that is why we call women dumb whores, you dumb whore.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2018-07-24T09:45:54+00:00

Oh boohoo.. Guess what.. we can have unsatisfactory sex too, and most of the times, it's cause of women like you who think that starfishing is having sex.

RighteousSouljah · 2018-07-24T09:59:12+00:00

Waahhh I'm a picky whore poor me

TheMarvelousSchmuck · 2018-07-25T04:35:09+00:00

However, men seem to not realize that the harder part for women is the next stage, actually getting GOOD sex.

Aw, poor baby, getting mountains of sex and attention whenever you want it, but sometimes it isn't mind-blowingly good.

Excuse me while I go get some tissues to help me mourn for your terrible misfortune.

First, women have to determine, amongst people who are interested,who seems scary, unsafe, too forceful in their perspective etc.

Then why are thugs and criminals considered so hot by so very many women? I mean she just described a large portion of the people that women find attractive.

Oh, wait, she means the bad version of scary/unsafe, the kind where the guy is actually unattractive and daring to exist near her. If the guy were rocking a six pack and seemed scary, like he could really fuck someone up like a real alpha motherfucker, it would be, like, really hot.

Because remember, if you are a woman having sex, you have to be concerned about safety and not getting raped/murdered in a different way then men do, if at all.

The fuck do you mean "if at all"? Men have plenty to fear in terms of both rape and murder. ESPECIALLY murder. Men are far more likely to have violence committed against them. The fact that you even question whether or not we have to feel concerned for our own safety is pretty insensitive.

Regardless, you want to know how you can easily get into situations where you can learn about a guy safely and comfortably, rather than having to perform rapid evaluations to check for rapey behavior? You stop turning sex into an industrial process in which you acquire mountains of it in record time.

But shit, I'm sorry, telling you to stop going a thousand cocks-per-hour on the old carousel is oppressive, isn't it? Oh dear, look at me, talking about dating and getting to know people as if we live in a time when people of either sex weren't mega-whores trying to complete their STD collections. It's the current year, right? We should be able to fuck as many people as we can as fast as we can even if that isn't a very wise decision for anyone. Relationships are for squares, accumulating notches is all that matters.

It's the current year.

After that work to weed out scaries

Funny, trying to make it sound so difficult, as if the overwhelming majority of all the guys you meet aren't totally normal. Or are we counting those filthy scumbags who dare to be unattractive while occupying space in the same county as you among those "scaries"?

I hear this phrase repeated, that bad sex is like bad pizza, even when it's bad it's still pretty good. This really isn't true for women most of the time. Bad sex for us is sometimes painful, doesn't result in any orgasm or sometimes any sexual satisfaction, and can even feel like someone is masturbating with your body rather than really experiencing something with you.

Because men don't ever leave feeling sexually unsatisfied. Nope, we just love all sex all the time because we're horny fuck-apes who are happy as long as our penis is inside something. And I'm 100% positive that she satisfies all of her partners beyond their expectations all of the time. Really, she's just that amazing at sex.

Often times, even with all of that work, making sure you have a safe, compatible partner, you will still miss the mark and have unsatisfactory sex.

Again, you're really trying to make "taking a guy home and fucking him" sound like a hard process. You've already admitted that you can basically fuck whoever you want at the drop of a hat, you're not doing a very good job of making that seem difficult.

He knew what to say and how to behave up until that point to fool me.

So this guy was smart enough to trick you into being attracted to him (pfft), but not smart enough to follow your directions or know that he was terrible at sex? Uh-huh.

You know you can just admit that he was hot and you spread your legs without hesitation, okay?

I would say 75% of the time, I have great sex

Wait, wasn't this whole post of yours about how women have their own equal level of difficulty when it comes to getting sex? You can't say "On average, 3 out of 4 guys I fuck are good" and still claim to have it as rough as men. Most guys have to struggle to get to a point where they can even state that they fucked 4 people, let alone get to the point where they have fucked enough people that they can start figuring out an average for how often they get quality sex.

So for women, yes, we have an easier time generating prospects, but a harder time leaving with a good experience.

That's because women are vastly harder to satisfy. Again, many men would kill just to have someone say yes, while you're complaining that occasionally, of the many, many fucks you've had, some of them weren't quite as good as others.

Well boo-hoo. I feel so bad for the millionaire who sometimes finds a few gold coins in their Scrooge McDuck vault that aren't quite as shiny as the other coins in the giant gold pile.

I think women are taught to be attentive to men's needs in sex

And they say women can't be funny! No, women are taught that the man is blessed just to be in the same room as you, let alone sleeping with you. They're taught that if he wants to stick his dick in a wet hole, he has to jump through hoops like a good little ATM.

this is not to discount the many men who are very attentive or love seeing their partners get off, we love you guys

OH GOD, STOP, MY SIDES CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!

This isn't to say one is better or worse, but it is to say we need to understand what dating and sex looks like from other perspectives, and not be quick to claim one gender has it the easiest. Safety and compatibility concerns are really burdensome and I would like more men to understand that about women.

Hm, let's see, bending over backwards to please women, being regularly rejected due to things beyond our control, and being at risk of having our legal shit pushed in just for talking to women.

Vs.

Trying to figure out if myself and the person who came up to me and did all of the work are compatible.

Gee, these two things seem equal. Yep, looks like neither sex has it easier, I reckon. /S

2018-07-24T00:48:45+00:00

Womens role is to select fit patners, mens role is to get ANY partner. women will not derive pleasure from just any partner.

She literally is making a valid point backed by Science and all you babies are crying about it lmao

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