Female Orgasms: Do they matter?

I do not care about a woman’s sexual pleasure. I do not care how she likes it. I will give it to her the way I want to. I expect a girl to give me head willingly, but do not find it necessary to reciprocate. I will go down on her when I feel like it, and that is not often.

You may think this approach gets me nowhere with women, but it actually makes it better. Sit tight and I will explain.

A few years ago I read in a magazine that 70% of women do not orgasm during sex. I was surprised about this.

I did not initially accept this statistic because my pride was at stake.

What if I was not getting these girls off? What kind of a guy does that make me?

It is funny how much ego can fuck with a man.

Despite my initial rejection, I paid more attention, and started noticing certain things.

I was with a girl in my younger years who told me it was very hard for her to get off. I cared at this point in my life, so I pulled out all stops to make it happen. In the end, she did not get off, and I felt like less of a man. But all was not lost. This girl still liked having sex, and loved giving blowjobs. In fact, her preference was blowjobs. It was almost as if her pleasure really did not matter to her.

I started contemplating female orgasms on a macro scale.

There was another girl I met a couple years later, and it was the same thing as before. She loved sex and sucking dick, but never got off during sex. We had a falling out, and did not fuck for about two years. When we started fooling around again, she was having orgasms regularly. You would think that since I was getting her off, something that she did have the luxury off prior too, it would work out even better for me. More/better sex, more/better blowjobs, more love, more care, etc... But the exact opposite happened.

First off, I did not enjoy the sex as much. I had to fuck her a specific way in order for her to orgasm. I was so concentrated on making her cum it started feeling like work. It was also much harder to get her in the mood, which led to less frequent sex. She started being much more of a bitch, and the blowjobs went out the fucking window.

I was not red pill at this point. I was not a beta bitch either, but I did not have the conscious knowledge I have now. Most of what I knew about women was primal. But I still thought about it on a conscious, rational level, and it made zero fucking sense. How was it that her pleasure increased, and mine decreased? Is not the ability to make a female orgasm the end all be all?

Here is what I learned from all this.

The female orgasm is extremely mental.

Nothing about this girls physical makeup changed. It was not as if her clit became more sensitive, or her vagina changed into a more satisfying shape. Nothing about me changed either. The only change I could sense was her state of mind.

I have noticed similar traits with other girls I have been with. They can orgasm, but it takes a tremendous amount of work. They also have to be fucked in a specific way, and those specifics vary from girl to girl.

The man becomes a sort of tool for them. A tool that has to be used in a certain way, or it will not serve its purpose. That is why they have to be fucked in such a precise way in order to orgasm. If they are not fucked in that way, they will not think they will be able to orgasm. But it has nothing to do with the mechanics. Their inability to orgasm comes from the mental block they set for themselves.

"I am not being fucked the way I want to get fucked."

That thought is what prevents them from getting off. It is all in their head.

There are some girls I have been with who will never orgasm, and they are generally uptight and insecure. They spend too much time about being naked. It makes them tense. How the fuck is anyone supposed to enjoy anything with that type of mental state?

The girls I have been with who orgasm easily are just the opposite. They are very comfortable with themselves, and go with the flow of life. I can fuck these girls any which way, and they will get off.

What really solidified this for me was some girls I would put it to would get off in ways they "never got off like that before." Usually it is doggy style, which is zero clitoral stimulation, supposedly the most common way.

Making them orgasm does not help you at all.

There have been with girls I would routinely get off, and they would decide one day they did not want to bang anymore.

The girl I mentioned earlier is an isolated example, but our interaction sucked the second time around, though she was getting off. Getting her off did me no favors.

I had one girl literally thank me out loud over a dozen times, trembling in my arms because I got her off that good. A week later she said she was getting back together with her ex on the other side of the country...

The occurrence of orgasms never seems to have much of an impact on my satisfaction in the relationship, or the longevity of it.

Sometimes making them cum can fuck sex up for you.

I have had girls get off, dry the fuck up, then give me a look of forced apologies. Sometimes, I get a grudging blowjob, or a handjob that makes my dick a bit sad as a half-assed thank you. This does not happen a lot, but it is another check in the box for why I do not give a fuck about their climax.

I don't think they actually care that much about it either.

Every time, and I mean every single fucking time I bring this up around women, they get all huffy about it. My friend sometimes tells his plates what I think about their orgasms, and the always say something along the lines of, "Well, I would never tolerate that. Blah, blah, blah!"

But as we all know, women absolutely love to say one thing, and do another. You would think after all this time of me fucking, and not ever giving two shits about their orgasms, their would be some sort of ramifications. Yet here I am plowing away with no regard to their satisfaction, and they still want to be with me. Shocking.

I have lost count of the amount of times a girl has said, "I did not get off." To which I reply, "So?" And they still fuck me. If they cared, why stick around?

I had this one bitch find my blog. One of my posts pissed her off, and she left this LONG ass comment. One little part of the comment was her calling me out for how I only made her orgasm once. And? This girl still talks to me, and I know if I wanted to, I could get her to fly 3000 miles to just spend a weekend with me. Oh, and this girl loved getting fucked in the ass, which I know was just pain for her. Did she really care about her orgasms?

There was one time I thought particularly fascinating. I was at a girl's house for Thanksgiving. After some good boozing, and a bit of cliche' social interactions, we made it to her bedroom. I was in a pretty good mood at this point. We were nice and buzzed, laughing, fooling around, and the sex started off pretty fun.

Out of no where she starts bossing me around, and I told her to stop. She did it again, and I said that is her last warning. She did it yet again, and followed it up with, "I want to get mine too." I don't take orders from bitches, and her mouth spoiled my mood. So I got up off her, took off my condom, and rolled over. This was in backwoods NY, so a cab was out of the question. I was drunk, so driving was out of the equation as well. I was forced to stay the night.

I do not remember much of the conversation, but I told her that I did not really care if she got off or not, as it was not biologically important. I also said that her bossiness was disgusting. She replied, but I did not really listen. Thankfully I am immune to female horseshit, and I was soon sleeping soundly.

She woke me up a few minutes into my slumber and said I had to go. I told her sternly no. Then she said I had to sleep on the floor, to which I said no again. I told her I was going to stay right there until morning, and leave first thing. She got all huffy, but eventually she settled down, and I continued sleeping until the morning.

You would think after all this, she would hate me. But for shits and giggles, I got her all riled up in the morning, fucked her, and made sure to finish as quick as I could. She was wet as fuck too. I think if I would have kept going another minute, she would have gotten off, but she did not. I left, and I never fucked around with her again, though I probably could have if I wanted to. All because deep down, she did not care if she got off. All she wanted was me.

Female orgasms are not biologically important.

They do not need to happen in order for our species to reproduce. A common female response to this statement is, “well, you are not having sex with the intent to reproduce.” True, but the fact still stands that there are millions of years of evolutionary biology dictating that men have to bust a nut, and women do not.

In conclusion.

I do not care about making women orgasm because:

The female orgasm is extremely mental: As much as I would like to think I can control a bitch's mind, I cannot, so why bother?

Sometimes making them cum can fuck sex up for you: Maybe some of the girls I got off would have stuck around if I had that carrot(orgasm) dangling for them.

Female orgasms are not biologically important: Not much more I need to say about that.

I don't think they actually care that much about it either: So why should I?

If a girl likes you, she will keep fucking you, regardless of if you get her off or not.

There is not much more to it than that.

Disclaimer.

I do not even know what it takes to make women orgasm regularly.

Maybe it is easy. Maybe it yields rewards.

But that has not been my experience. It may behoove you to make it a priority. Maybe it will separate you from other guys she has been with. Maybe that will be where you build your value.

This is only what I have experienced, and what I decided to do based off my experiences. You decide how you want to move forward. If I am right, and women’s orgasms are not worth your time and energy, you are not losing much. If I am wrong, you have everything to gain.

Either way, do not beat yourself up.

I think most people are lying about orgasms all together. A lot of men say their women get off constantly, and a lot of the girls I had been with said they get off as well. I am not that lucky to only bang the 30% that do, neither could the other guys be either. If that 70% statistic I brought up earlier is true, the numbers did not add up. So do not think you are an outcast if you cannot get a girl off.