Stop arguing

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-11-14T17:47:20+00:00

Verbal intercourse is optional.

Treat your words like currency, spend them only when you must & only when the return will be equal to or greater than the investment.

redpill_llipder · 2016-11-14T21:58:52+00:00

A small, simple confirmation anecdote that I think back on now (this was before I really got into the red pill):

It was me, two female friends and a male friend, and I simply asked, "Do you guys want to go to Cookout (burger place)?" I just got a lot of noncommittal shrugs so after about three seconds I said, "OK, let me rephrase. I am going to go to Cookout. You can come if you want." Within about a minute we were all in the car.

Just one of those memories that reminds me, most people want to be led and to just do whatever you were going to do anyway and if they want they'll tag along.

_the_shape_ · 2016-11-15T01:43:27+00:00

A simple trick I'll occasionally use goes a little something like this:

She'll ask: "I'm hungry, but I can't decide between pizza or sushi. Ughh! What do we (clever girl!) do???"
Make the choice (in your head), but ask her to choose a number between 1 and 10.
She chooses "7", so you tell her: "Perfect! Sushi it is!" If she asks, tell her 6-10 was for sushi, 1-5 was for pizza, when in reality 1-10 was for sushi.

The "rigged lottery" (if I had to give it a name) helps play into her propensity for indulging fate without having to make the 'tough decision' while simultaneously making it "random" and "exciting". ~~Kids~~ Women dig that kind of shit all the time.

whatsthisgarg · 2016-11-14T18:30:30+00:00

I had a similar experience. (Made a whole post about it if you care to read.) I thought it was important to convince my wife that I had the reasons and logic and the better way to do things. Such a waste of time and energy. Now we just do things my way and everybody is happier.

Amazing, isn't it? How misguided it is to treat a woman like an equal partner. In my post I was accused of abusing and disrespecting my wife, when in fact she is much happier now.

Basically it comes down to the fact that women do not want the responsibility that comes with making decisions.

InChargeMan · 2016-11-14T19:32:01+00:00

100% agree. You have to be the leader.

Micro FR:

Today we were picking out new cell-phones for us, i.e. I was choosing between the two I had pre-selected online, and she was along to pick what color she wants. While we were looking at them, she asked "why are there only these two options?" while looking at all the other types that happen to be on display. Answer "We're getting this one, go ahead and pick your color".

We both know I'm the one qualified to select technology (or pretty much anything expensive) we buy, and we don't have to pretend like her input carries much weight beyond things like color.

BP guy would go through all the options on each phone, talk about specs (to show how knowledgeable he is), and try to DEER about what he thinks is the best after she picks a stupid one because it comes in pink. She will disagree, then a stupid ass argument would ensue (because the BP guy truly does have her best interests in mind, and is trying to help her make the right choice, like how you would guide a child). Then, some time later, he will have to deal with the headache because she picked a shitty phone.

If the BP example is your current life, it can change, but not overnight. Welcome to TRP.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2016-11-14T21:41:14+00:00

Just plain telling her what the two of you, or even she alone, is doing works wonders.

A plate was over and we were ordering food online. She picked what she wanted, but there were options - White rice, brown rice, bulgur wheat, chicken, beef, ... I realised she was having issues with choosing and just said "You'll have chicken and white rice", or something to that extent. Her response "Oh... OK." A few weeks later she confessed to really having loved me picking the food for her.

Go ahead and try it, you'll be surprised with the results.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-11-14T19:41:33+00:00

If your boss told you to do something you might make some counter argument if you really thought it was a bad idea, but would still do it if he didn't change his mind.

Since you are the boss in the relationship you have to give her permission to raise her feelings about something, but unless she says something important (or a truly better idea) you really need not be too concerned.

For women it's usually just wanting to air their feelings... then they go along.

The mistake is to take the random emotions of an underling (you being the boss) over your own judgement.

She must respect your authority... you only need respect her right to have feelings, but never are required to base actions on them.

grubek · 2016-11-15T03:47:29+00:00

Great advice, except the part about not listening to her.

You should. It does not mean you should automatically accept what she says. But remember you are the captain and you need to listen to her to know what she wants and need so you can provide it. It is impossible for you to know all that she wants and needs magically. So you listen to her, you filter her womanese to real intentions, then you decide if she has a point or not and plan accordingly.

CallMeHaseo · 2016-11-15T06:10:54+00:00

arguing with most women isnt worth it. Theyre not rational creatures.

Crimson_Capsule1232 · 2016-11-16T14:21:20+00:00

This is one thing I wish I'd learned 10 years ago, would have saved a lot of energy. Women argue regardless, but as you said, not giving a fuck is the fast track to making her chill out.

What I've learned is that there's just not a point, they'll use the most trivial, unrelated bullshit and bring up 'perspective' (which is 99% wrong) just to 'win' in their minds.

Remember, your point only needs to be proven to you, she can huff and puff all she wants.

I picked up this little trick somewhere here or the Manosphere, works well for me in controlling my temper... When your bitches, family members or even bosses shit test you, I just think to myself, "Aww, thats cute". Instantly disarms your emotions and hostility.

When my ex would shit test me, I'd think aww, thats cute. Sometimes if she was really acting like a mega bitch, I'll look at her, say that, smirk and go back to what I was doing. Worked every time.

arghx7 · 2016-11-15T00:18:35+00:00

This idea is one of the fundamentals of the classic How to Win Friends and Influence People.

MK_D · 2016-11-14T20:40:09+00:00

I love this thread lol no fucks were given that day

Title	Stop arguing
Author	Stevebond0
Upvotes	75
Comments	33
Date	November 14, 2016 5:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5cx44t/stop_arguing/
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