GF has old friend that wants to hang out with her alone. How do I approach this?

Fabulous-Craft · 2020-04-13T16:19:06+00:00

You failed to set boundaries.

Clearly not LTR material. Demote to plate, withdraw attention.

bumbuff · 2020-04-13T16:30:13+00:00

She's already tried withholding the truth about being fuck buddies with this guy. She's already not marriage material. Keep her around to fuck until you find something better.

There are young women that are still impressionable, so maybe have a conversation and see how it goes. But it's already on incredibly thin ice.

chadtrx · 2020-04-13T16:27:43+00:00

If your “GF” is aspiring the hang out with a dude alone. You should rethink whether she is actually relationship material or not. That would be disrespectful. One shouldn’t be in a committed relationship with another person who doesn’t respect them. If I were you I would demote her to friends with benefits & date other chicks. Let her hang out with this other dude(She’ll do what she wants anyways). You need to create the mentality that you are better than this dude. That she is settling for less hanging with him rather than you. When she hangs with him be unfazed hold frame & she will chase you harder than ever before.

legitniga · 2020-04-13T17:42:43+00:00

She’s basically telling you that she’s going to cheat on you. What do you think 2 people that “used” to fuck are going to do when they hang out alone, read poetry and reminisce on the old days? You’ve lost her, just get it over with and break up.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-04-13T16:31:12+00:00

and she used to be friends with this guy.

Translation: Used to suck his dick (regardless of her insistence otherwise).

I got trickle truth out of her that they used to fuck, and now he wants to hang out with her, but without me there.

See? That wasn't difficult to figure out. He wants her there, but specifically not you. He wants to fuck her. He will fuck her. She knows this. If she gives you any shit for it, it's because she wants it also.

This is the 2nd time he’s cancelled because I’ve been around.

When you have a fuck buddy of any kind, the key ingredient is fucking. Of course he doesn't want you there.

I’ve been a career beta since this relationship started

Which means they've been fucking this whole time, no matter how many times you or she deny that.

but I’m already starting to realize she may branch swing.

Less of branch swinging and just using his animalistic abilities to fuck to get what she needs physically. Beta qualities usually translate into the bedroom also. You might have sex with her lovingly; he'll fuck her face and choke her. Guess which one she wants.

This is over. How do I know? She entertains him.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-13T17:08:00+00:00

This is the 2nd time he’s cancelled because I’ve been around.

This isn’t your problem. There shouldn’t be anything for him to “cancel”.

Regardless of what she “thinks”, that he is “just a friend”, this guy is clearly trying to fuck. This whole “I can’t be around when your boyfriend is around” is bullshit. She needs to cut him out of her life.

WIA20XX · 2020-04-13T17:23:13+00:00

She realized you were beta, now she is leaving. She is too pussy to break up with you without a dick to fall on.

There isn't anything here to fix.

You should just break up with her.

Don't put yourself into this position of weakness again.

The weakness isn't the girl looking for new cock - that is her nature.

The weakness here is you needing to keep her

SeasonedRP · 2020-04-13T18:29:43+00:00

Time to make her your ex-GF. Don't try to plate her. You're way too hung up on her to pull that off. Also, she wouldn't even consider trying this if she had any respect for you, and you aren't going to change how she views you, hence the only option is to make her an ex. If you aren't talking to other girls, you need to start doing so right away.

DonJuan_69 · 2020-04-13T16:54:13+00:00

She is going to cheat. Im sorry man but get a new girl

fannyfire · 2020-04-13T20:39:31+00:00

A loyal girlfriend would not doing what yours is doing. You need to next her. I wouldn’t even plate her because she doesn’t deserve your dick.

red_philosopher · 2020-04-13T21:59:21+00:00

Shrug it off, then kick her out when she does go and bang him. Start looking for new plates, etc. Typical advice.

redhawkes · 2020-04-13T16:43:25+00:00

It's easy to tell by your post that she already has your balls, hence the branch swing.

Demote to plate, or straight dump her, up to you. Not ltr material at all. Hit the sidebar and weights hard.

Another thing, never mateguard, let her mateguard herself, you'll instantly get the answer.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-04-13T18:56:19+00:00

she thinks she can do better than you.

if she respected you and feared losing you, there's no chance she'd be doing this.

so your SMV is either too low or you've acted too beta already.

act like an EC to get results like an EC. these are not the behaviors of someone with abundance and Frame.

Greaterbird · 2020-04-14T09:32:01+00:00

From everything I'm reading here, it's clear you're in a festering zombie relationship with a girl who doesn't respect you and wants to fuck this other guy more. There is nothing you can do to salvage it.

It's time to tell her that you're unhappy in the relationship and that it's time to go your separate ways. You probably should have done that months ago.

AxP3 · 2020-04-13T22:50:27+00:00

At this point, she’s already convinced she’ll be hanging out with him, so she has crossed the deadline. If you confront her, you’ll be acting from a position of weakness, because she holds the cards to make the ultimate decision. Meet up with some of your old friends, and don’t give her any explanation. You should already mentally check out of this relationship.

Lord_Kevin764 · 2020-04-13T17:18:39+00:00

I was just on the same boat man, and it’s a hard pill to swallow but she’s not wifey material. You’re gonna have to cut it off because she’s disrespecting you. I had to learn the hard way but my advice is to end it or keep her as a fuck buddy.

MattyAnon · 2020-04-14T05:04:35+00:00

Any help? Best regards

Sure. The relationship is already over.

Sorry.

TheBlockedUser · 2020-04-13T19:41:19+00:00

Career beta? Nah, you are wholesome beta. Especially considering your last removed post.

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-04-13T20:45:49+00:00

Get out asap you'll regret it

RPOpenUp · 2020-04-13T21:13:16+00:00

There's not much you can do. You allready fucked up in the past. Best to exit with a bang, like "Sure go ahead, I'll ask Susie to keep me company later"

beingamannotadayjob · 2020-04-13T21:32:48+00:00

It’s over.

____Weabooo_V2 · 2020-04-13T23:48:10+00:00

Immediatly demote her to plate and move on bro

Tambamwham · 2020-04-14T01:58:06+00:00

You have to let go and not be scared. You have to address this once. Not just that you’re not ok with them hanging out but that you’re not even OM with them talking. But that you won’t stop her. Then pull back, treat her like a fuck Buffy, and consider yourself free to pursue other women until she sends him on his way.

SteveSan82 · 2020-04-14T11:17:24+00:00

why do you have a girlfriend who disrespects you and wants to hangout with other men? Dump her slutty ass and go monk mode to clear your head and read up more

HurricaneHugues · 2020-04-14T17:10:04+00:00

" I got trickle truth out of her that they used to fuck, and now he wants to hang out with her, but without me there. This is the 2nd time he’s cancelled because I’ve been around."

First she lied, then ahe agrees to meet with him. Even with you there it's still very disrespectful. You're an idiot. Girl is trash and should never have been anything more than a fuck buddy.

You're not gonna become a stud while in this relationship. You need to eject and go workon yourself. This girl is not relationship material.

Rjdj789 · 2020-04-14T20:08:49+00:00

Leave? Wtf? By your posts you’re allowing her to walk all over you. He’s already packed her and was probably packing while you were dating her. Just walk away and go ghost. Don’t make this mistake next time.

Title	GF has old friend that wants to hang out with her alone. How do I approach this?
Author	MRPhercules
Upvotes	32
Comments	43
Date	April 13, 2020 4:14 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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" I got trickle truth out of her that they used to fuck, and now he wants to hang out with her, but without me there. This is the 2nd time he’s cancelled because I’ve been around."