Dear community,
this is my first proper post, so bare with me :)
Basically, I have been with this girl for 3 years now, and although its been mostly a good 3 years, after the first 2 years, things started to change... a lot.
i like to think I'm good looking, never had a problem pulling girls and taking them home with me. i have a close to 6 figure annual salary, good job, dress as well as i can and try to get back into shape. 20% body fat right now
she's beautiful, kinda mile kunis looking, lawyer, eastern european, from good family background, dresses really well, long legs, her daddy always gave her the world. basically perfect marriage material to raise a family with at a later stage...
When we first met, i was a bit of a fuckboy. i used to be on tinder a lot, would have 3-4 dates a week, bang girls left and right, be super confident, witty and i had a very athletic physique. so she knew what she was getting herself into...
Now, although I have advanced in my career, and since then doubled my salary, my mental and physical health is not how it was before... i gained belly fat that i cant seem to get rid of, i am constantly stressed, easily triggered and irritated. patience level 0 for any kind of crap, i instantly get triggered.
My gf has become more demanding and dominant, and complains more. The more shit she gives me for forgetting an item of the grocery shop i did, or coming home late from having beers with the boys, the less i want to even have sex with her. and then she adds drama and pressure cause we don't have sex.
also, every day she asks me if i worked out, in a way like thats kinda condescending. so whenever she asks me if i worked out or "are u gonna workout", i feel like not doing it, cos then it feels like I'm doing it for her.. makes sense? lol
also she watches my diet, and tells me not to eat chips whenever i open a pack. treating me as if i was obese as fuck. pisses me off.
Since quarantine eased a bit, i have encountered some of her friends for the first time in 2 months, and their reaction is all the same: "wow you look great, you lost weight, you look younger etc". but never heard a compliment from my gf.
May I add that i helped her advance in her career, if it wasn't for me getting a head of legal job with a friends company, she would still be working for the crap firm she was a slave at earning pennies..
She gave me crap in front of her friend in our flat today, cause i forgot 2 items from the grocery shop i made.
She also wanted a dog for years, we finally got one, and now she wants to travel more, and complains that i do not want to travel.. i mean, we just got a dog, and now you want to travel every 2 months? I would much rather focus on my side hustle and make money than travel every few months and spend money on stupid dinners and over priced drinks.
she also insists that i propose to her as she is already 28, and she's the last of her friends to still be without a ring.
I feel like i lost my confidence, i don't feel attractive anymore and i feel unmotivated when i wake up.
Some advice is appreciated. Thank you for listening
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