Anyone else miss having a girlfriend?

Gtrplyr3838 · 2020-06-02T13:21:48+00:00

Sometimes I miss being married. Then I send the alimony check and the feeling goes away.

The past always looks better than it actually was. Find someone better.

The1ndex · 2020-06-02T12:48:37+00:00

Just to be clear, TRP isn’t anti-girlfriend. TRP is a toolset for sexual dynamics, and much more.

If you want a girlfriend, go get one. Just use the tools, and understand the truth about men and women.

Thrawy126 · 2020-06-02T11:49:17+00:00

So you miss having a female friend?

How many male friends do you have?

Relaxredditrockstar · 2020-06-02T11:49:29+00:00

Not once would I rather hang out with some girl than my boys. If I’m hanging out with a girl it’s to get box. You ever try being in a committed relationship where the girl wants to see you everyday? It’s fucking soul draining. You don’t have time to grow as a person in any aspect as they’re constantly nagging your ass for time. No, I don’t miss it. After the honeymoon phase there’s no reason to stick around honestly. You’ve seen the peak.

akihonj · 2020-06-02T17:49:36+00:00

What you're doing is called rosy retrospection, it's something that's inbuilt into all humans.

You know how old people talk of the good old days, yeah well that's it and that's what you're doing now, you're doing it partly because your brain is fighting to get back to a blissful state of ingorance and partly because humans are hard wired to seek out a pairing.

What your going through is nothing new and nothing to be ashamed of so it doesn't make you a pussy, it's your brain doing that to drive you to get back onto the plantation, the more you give into it the more your brain will return to those feedback loops. You get fed good memories, so you seek a relationship, the more you seek one, emotional responses within you cause more of those gooey feelings to rise up, and you want one more, eventually you'll find one but you'll be back in the same boat you were before because your dick is ruling your head.

The most some way to counter this is to first recognise it and second mediate on it, do nothing when you notice this rising in you, do nothing, don't chase after the thought but stand back from it and watch it mentally stand away from the thought, this takes practice but can be done.

As you watch the thought from a distance you'll notice how it repeatedly plays out, the feelings it triggers you to experience and you'll also see how you behave or imagine yourself to behave and you'll also remember clearer how you did behave.

You'll also notice that with a little time the thoughts go on their own way far faster than before because you aren't chasing it, you aren't trying to stop it either just watching as it comes and goes.

The thing is here, with a little bit of time, say two to three months you'll be in a better place such that if you do meet somebody you won't be able to rush in, you won't be able to because you'll have gained some control over those thoughts that cause you to rush. You'll see her behaviour before she does because your dick won't be clouding your judgement. You'll be able to stand back and observe as an observer rather than being stuck in the middle of it.

Start to learn to meditate, as that will help you and in particular observation meditation. You'll understand what I mean. Aim to start at only 5 minutes a day for the first week, build up to 30 minutes a day or every other day after about 3 months and you'll be very different to how you are now.

Rolfenstien · 2020-06-02T11:51:27+00:00

It’s likely you miss the memories with a girl and not the girl herself. Why are you not doing these fun things by yourself and with friends? Why does there NEED to be a woman in your life you HAVE todo these things with.

Sometimes having a girl around can feel nice, and this is what leads us guys promoting a girl to an LTR with proper vetting.

You miss the feeling. Find that feeling elsewhere. Be it with friends, family or even within yourself.

red_philosopher · 2020-06-02T22:46:40+00:00

Myself and another EC are self-admitted oxytocin junkies. I really enjoy the closeness of a significant other. It feels good to sleep next to someone every night without having to schedule Everything, without having to kick her out the next day and deal with the feels drama. Anyone who says otherwise is mental.

I'm not stupid though. When the relationship runs its course it's over and on to the next. She wants to get married even though she knows I'll never do it. She says she'll wait until we're 90. Lmao. 90! Fine by then I'm ready to kick the fucking bucket anyway. Let's see IF she lasts that long.

I doubt it, but you get the idea. You run the game, she plays or quits.

Have a plate or two on backup and when shit hits the fan get your fix there.

Makes for good times.

00jppcbc00 · 2020-06-02T12:01:05+00:00

No. You don't need a girlfriend to be happy.

DoubleConversation4 · 2020-06-02T12:26:03+00:00

You miss the comfort

last time i did that it ended in heartbreak and cheating/lies / hypergammy.

Or the misery

It's the misery

You know what to do

Ign0rantBliss · 2020-06-02T18:50:37+00:00

You're being a pussy. Social media proves they never loved us they just settled for us. They can be flown state to state country to country at any given time why would they stop the show?

Title	Anyone else miss having a girlfriend?
Author	latrobe1000
Upvotes	9
Comments	54
Date	June 2, 2020 11:44 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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