Why can’t I let go?

Moonxtal · 2020-05-25T09:55:28+00:00

Sadly its mainly going to take time and distance. Block him on all social media and try and avoid him as much as possible.

Remember, he made your brain make the feel good chemicals... So find someone/thing else (friends,family,new dates,hobbies,exercise... etc) that will also make those feel good chemicals. And over time he will fade.

You are going through withdrawal right now. Best course of action is to deal with your emotions but also divert your attention to your own life.

Happy-Muffin · 2020-05-25T07:46:28+00:00

This is a hard thing you're going through. My bff went through similar things even though her LVM at the time was physically abusing her.

I think you can treat it like grieving. He was not good for you, but he did do some good for you and really its the good things you miss. Always keep his failures/ways he hurt you in your mind to be sure you never end up with him again.

Write out your feelings, allow yourself to feel them. They are normal and understandable. But, dont wallow in them (its tempting to do so!). Allow yourself to feel sad while trying something new like painting, messing with clay, watching a movie, etc.

Another thing to do is to stop beating yourself up. There things about this man that were probably good (even if they were fake). Its totally understandable that you would miss those things. What you all could have been if he wasnt such a damn loser. But, sadly, he is a loser and thusly what you could have been (in your head) could never happen with him.

Also, remember your worth. Reiterate that to yourself. Work on BELIEVING it. Invest in your friendships, cry when you must, talk about it (even if it seems like all you talk about).

I know that you will be free of this sadness eventually. For now, we are here with you :]

kirky500 · 2020-05-25T12:12:38+00:00

Yes I have. . It is co dependency. I finally have gotten in therapy to work on it. It will make you be able to stay away from dusty men as well

throwawayitst · 2020-05-25T20:34:03+00:00

Because it gives meaning to our life, it fulfills biological purpose and love releases drug like chemicals especially in the first couple years. Don’t forget to remember the bad times

Verysoftbun · 2020-05-25T18:04:42+00:00

It's easy to want to go back to the place that hurt you to get healed.

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-05-25T20:45:27+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I haven't gone back or contacted but they are still on my mind 😢

AppropriateHoney6 · 2020-05-25T14:09:23+00:00

If I might ask, what happened?

Title	Why can’t I let go?
Author	PossumWitch
Upvotes	63
Comments	8
Date	May 25, 2020 6:59 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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