This is so refreshing, thoroughly explaining why he might have to cancel

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-16T16:52:22+00:00

Banned for 3 days to read the handbook. Decided to remove this mess.

Edit: pickmeisha went to another sub to badmouth us for telling her not to accept this low-effort last-minute bullshit from some random! Banned. RIP.

sstena · 2020-08-16T08:40:17+00:00

I am not sure I understand. The man doesn't know whether he will be able to grab brunch with you and he will let you know by ~~midnight the night before~~?

If this is the case, I'm sorry to say it's low value. A guy keeping you in the loop is not an excuse to forego the basics. He should reschedule at a proper time and location.

~~Telling a man you'll be glad to wait till midnight for him to cancel or not on your date the following day is a terrible precedent to set.~~

Edit: 12pm is noon not midnight. Me dumb. I still don't like it a lot but this changes it a lot for the better.

ItsYesMaam2u · 2020-08-16T11:06:07+00:00

If it's such a long story, couldn't he explain it via a phone call? Or voice message?

The whole test thing seems like an unlikely scenario (but not impossible I guess).. and I just want to say, make sure you're not giving him the benefit of the doubt. I recently did a poll here about whether or not to block a guy who cancelled because of 'work reasons' and the results were overwhelmingly block.. because it shows he is not in charge of his own time and may be a nightmare to date.

I'd respect a definite date scheduled in a few weeks more than a maybe date tomorrow. Then again, you set your own boundary of noon, so fair enough I guess. Let us know how it turns out :)

BasieSkanks · 2020-08-16T08:02:06+00:00

Whilst this is good of him, this is bare minimum behaviour. It’s decency to let someone know well ahead of time if you might need to move things around/cancel plans. Plus, it sounds like he’s keeping you as a back-up plan which is...eh. The better thing to do would be for him to plan a lunch date on a day he knows he will be free.

Struggleis4real · 2020-08-16T11:58:43+00:00

Aside from his fishy test time, if he lives out of town that’s like easy code for wanting a casual hookup! And then he knows you’ll be around for his next casual encounter by breadcrumbing you til then. It’s awfully difficult to form a relationship with someone who isn’t even around.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-16T16:46:17+00:00

No.

You should postpone until he can make a definite date and time 3 days in advance. Never let a guy make you something that just hangs around waiting for him.

2020-08-16T16:47:45+00:00

This is a big fat no and you're being way too accommodating. Asking him if your cutoff time is acceptable? Please don't do that to yourself.

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Title	This is so refreshing, thoroughly explaining why he might have to cancel
Author	FDSthrowaway123
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Comments	33
Date	August 16, 2020 7:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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