I’m naturally enthusiastic positive and a bit bubbly... (not always of course)

So when it comes to crushes I get really excited and in love really quickly.... I realize these feelings are just my focus on the good and being drunk with these positive feelings.... I realize it takes more time and experience with someone to understand who they are and if they meet my needs or desires..... but I don’t understand how to balance taking my time and not getting caught up in feelings, but still entering this new possibility with love and enthusiasm- without giving too much of myself to someone undeserving or unearned affections....

I want to be able to love and support the person I commit to but these feelings are with me when I have a new crush or find someone I really like.... so it’s like I have to hide or limit my true nature because it’s not healthy to trust or give myself away so soon to someone I don’t know and hasn’t earned my trust. I think I have it backwards to giving the benefit of the doubt that this person is good and wholesome and that’s where I go wrong in dating because often people are manipulating or undeserving and I find out later that I shouldn’t have trusted so soon....

So is the answer here to stay on guard and even if I really really like someone and the feelings are filling me up and I just want to ravage these good feelings, I must stay sane and distrust these feelings because he could be undeserving and I’ll find out with more dates or whatever....

It just feels so complicated