What I mean isn't like I can't get over "liking him". In my case, I can't get over what he did to me and how methodically he must have planned it out...or maybe did to another woman before (just a suspicion)

It's not severe like rape or anything "illegal"(or at least I think) and I've been trying to process it for about 3 months now and I still can't get over it. I can't post the whole story because of the one rule here and I don't wanna give any make lurkers any ideas or a handbook to do it to other women.

I haven't had any interaction with him since we parted but I can't help but think of any future intimacy with another man without viewing it in a negative light. Like, that is how damaging it was. I'm very monogamous in my own mind meaning I can only think of one person and he's been on my mind ever since, mainly because I feel wronged. Any one like to share any helpful tips on getting over a previous lvm?

It would be appreciated. Feels like I'm stuck here and I can't envision myself getting close to another male because I'm projecting him on any potential guy.

Edit: i would like to thank all the ladies for your advice and thank you for taking the time me to respond.