Unpaid Validation

level_up_always · 2020-01-01T03:00:21+00:00

A man who doesn’t spend money on you doesn’t care about you. Compliments and words mean nothing, if not likely manipulation. I even had a homeless person today approach me saying I was the most beautiful girl he’d seen today 🙃 It’s not even a thought for a hvm which is why it’s so frustrating to someone who needs to count their pennies. I never really fell for this that much but I couldn’t believe it I had a pickmeisha friend who would entertain these people whenever she got a catcall basically it was so cringe.

Men want our feminine energy, which is receptive, enjoys being wanted, desired, romanced. To have that connection inspires that in a man. He wants to impress you, it’s why you see all these celebs cheat with nannies and such, they want to feel like the big guy the hero saving the day. Let him feel like the man that he is, it’s really helping them because they want to rise up and they don’t if someone’s always picking them up and rescuing them.

smarfette · 2020-01-01T03:40:27+00:00

There is a whole subset of men (PUA/red pill/"alpha" dating coaches) who try to find ways to lie to women about their value. Look up "demonstrate high value" or DHV on YouTube when you have the time. LVM are being taught to say anything to manipulate us. This is why a man's words mean nothing unless he backs them up in a tangible way.

globetrottinggal · 2020-01-01T13:28:01+00:00

Giving you loads of compliments when they barely know you (lovebombing). Complimenting you lot on your appearance or superficial things. Giving you "undeserved compliments" on pretty normal things. (IE: I work in a developing country, and to these idiots, I'm not just a teacher, I'm an ANGEL who is SAVING LIVES(!!!!).) Giving you compliments that seem too good to be true ("That was the best sex I've EVER had!!!!" after your first time). Any words that don't match up with his actions. (Like saying, "I missed you all week!" even though he barely texted you.)

I shut that shit down super quick now.

Whateverrr_345 · 2019-12-31T19:32:30+00:00

Look up Shera7 on YouTube and she talks about the whole unpaid validation subject

RiteWriter · 2020-01-05T07:19:39+00:00

I’ve gotten “so that’s how you’d look if I woke up next to you” morning text after a night of staying up talking and then falling asleep on the phone. Turns out it was a lie. Always actions.

Title	Unpaid Validation
Author	B_Project
Upvotes	37
Comments	7
Date	December 31, 2019 6:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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