I always crush on guys who are out of my league

rad_daphne · 2019-10-26T14:41:23+00:00

I'm mentioning this because I haven't seen anyone else do it, but I'm going to recommend that you get manicure, pedicure, facial, or getting your hair styled for the day for fun. If you can't afford any of those things find a beauty school nearby where you can. Some of those services cost as little as 5$ or $10. This will give you a confidence boost and change how you carry yourself which will attract more people.

rad_daphne · 2019-10-26T11:51:14+00:00

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understatedalways · 2019-10-26T11:28:10+00:00

Don’t think of any man as out of your league. Flirt. Smile. Have interesting hobbies that spark conversation. The main thing though is that men are visual creatures so if you can work on your looks even more, it will always help with the attention aspect.

katiedarling37 · 2019-10-26T12:17:15+00:00

For the life of me, I will never understand this 1-10 rating system. It is not designed as a rubric for you to follow for success, but a way to allow others to downgrade you with caustic arbitration. There is no book and nothing out there besides superficial standards to measure with.

Men are trash. For them to decide you are a 6/10 or for you to agree to it? What power or authority do they actually have? You’re a 10 because men are trash and any effort you put out for yourself will be more than most of them ever will.

nutshit · 2019-10-26T14:50:00+00:00

A lot of the times I’m finding stuff about myself I can improve. Just when you think you’re pretty, there’s more leveling up to do! 🤣 are your makeup skills up to par? I find that I can always improve here and I’ve gotten so good. Are your clothes up to par? It’s easy to build a fashionable closet with simple colors/basics that you can pair together to look more put together. Watch styling videos on YouTube!! Is your hair great? Do you smell and look clean all the time? Do you paint your nails? It always helps to look girly. I loved my cute tomboy style but it helped me to dress girlier most times.

PoorPlainObscure · 2019-10-27T05:30:51+00:00

So girls, what should I do to attract a good partner?

A good start would be to stop rating your own value on a one dimensional numeric scale. You don't want to see yourself through the lens of an immature incel. I know it is very popular, but I can't help thinking that it is self defeating to adopt other people's standards. Make your own standard. What do you think constitute a good person? What are your own values, who do you want to be? A good partner for you will have the same values as you and will be attracted when you are true to yourself.

barbietraphouse · 2019-10-26T19:39:53+00:00

Out of your league in what sense? What kind of man do you find appealing? This really differs from person to person.

You mentioned that you received more attention from men when you improved your looks. So just do that some more and then you'll probably get what you're looking for. Personally I've always gotten more attention from men when I look prettier and other stuff hasn't mattered as much. Improving your looks also improves your confidence more than anything else does imo.

Other than that you also have to put yourself out there more. Be more social, make more friends, put yourself in places where the types of guys you are attracted to hang out, join dating apps if you're into that, etc.

iasminag · 2019-10-26T22:29:29+00:00

Be confident. Also, take care of all aspect of yourself. We are women and our image is EXTREMELLY important! Make sure your hair and skin look healthy. A bonus (IMO, I love smells) would be to have some bomb perfumes. Not cherry spray or deodoranth, I’m talking amazing perfumes! (Anyone DM me if you want any suggestions, I can recommend a couple, you cam get testers and see which you like; current fav: Amouage Love Blossom).

Why am I saying perfume? I’m a 7 out of 10. I am overweight but my passion for perfumes aided me immensely. In my experience, some men get interested if you blow them away.

I am planning on seeing an old crush/ mate soon who is SO OUT OF MY LEAGUE and I plan on looking pretty and smelling bomb to test the waters. Fingers crossed for you!!

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