Women, for the love of all that is holy...Please set boundaries and ENFORCE THEM. It is not enough to just set them, you need apply them.

Your boundaries may be different from the next woman’s boundaries. That’s okay. If you personally have zero tolerance for a lying man —whether it’s a white lie or he’s lying about his age—cut him off the first time. When you pick up on red flags earlier in a relationship it is easier to move on.

During the first few months of dating people are on their best behavior. If he’s lying in the first few months how do you expect him to act in 2, 4, 6 years.

If you refuse to date a man who watches excessive amounts of porn or who watch any at all, Pull the plug when you find out he does. It’s okay to give him an ultimatum but if he refuses to stop out of respect for you and the relationship or he relapses, leave. He’s not gonna change, he’s too deep in the rabbit hole.

Your boundaries are your friend. They keep you from getting hurt. They help weed out the men who want sex or a relationship for the minimum effort. Bare minimum boyfriends turn into apathetic and passive husbands which create resentful wives.

Boyfriends who are wishy-washy when it comes to showing you their affection and how much they love you aren’t all of a sudden going to become attentive adoring husbands.

Men who aren’t generous with their time and/or money aren’t going to do a 180 when you marry them. This is their personality. This is who they are.

Your boundaries and standards do not make you a bitch. For instance, there is nothing wrong with a college educated woman with a high paying career wanting a college educated man with a high paying career and refusing to settle for less. There is nothing wrong with an ambitious woman wanting an equally ambitious man and won’t settle for manchildern or lazy bums. If you do half the house work and expect your boyfriend to do half the house work too it doesn’t make you a nagger.

The man you’re in a relationship with is suppose to add something to your life. If you assess your relationship and realize your man is a liability and negatively effecting your way of life you have a problem.