I used to think I liked smart girls.

Now, don't get me wrong, I do, but what I realized I actually liked was that smart girls liked me.


If you're a thoughtful sort, TRP can really change your outlook on a lot of things. A lot of people become less interesting---where before they seemed chill, now they might seem aimless and distracted.

Whereas you, you're directed. The mission comes first!


There's a pitfall you can fall into with mission-first thinking, though---it can make you too aloof.

  • The thing is, a girl can't have sex with your job, your startup, your house, your degree, or even your PR's (and while she can have sex with your mannerbund, you don't want her to!). Don't get me wrong, all of those are good things---but you want her to have sex with you.

  • So what are you? Basically: a brain, in a body, in clothes. What is the experience of being around you? Are you lively, or lost in thought? Is the body she sees strong? Is it relaxed? Have you slept? Are you smiling?

  • My point is that focusing on a mission can compete with all of those. I was up until 2 last night working on a project, and it kind of ruined me today. Don't get me wrong, I was getting stuff done! It was worthwhile stuff! Will pay off in the future! But a girl can't have sex with your future---and even if she could, you wouldn't want her to.

  • What I'm basically looking for is: is a girl pleasant to be around? Will I get a stiffy just from walking behind her? Is she affectionate? Can I talk to her?

  • Women want the same, or the male equivalent anyway. Yes---more is required of you in the long term. But you're not trying to check off boxes, you're trying to create an experience. And you---you, in the physical world, are that experience.

  • So take care of you. Get enough sleep. Eat well. Dress well. Seek cash*.

  • You need less of a mission than you think. She can join you on your mission! So many chicks out there have no idea what to do with themselves they go to law school or whatever.

  • Lots of girls out there would be perfectly fine with "He makes money, and I cook, clean, and fuck him"---if the "He" in that sentence is cheerful, well-dressed, and has a plan. If he's withdrawn, mind on work, etc., this becomes much, much less true.

Basically, TRP has different messages for different crowds: if you're just kind of doing nothing with your life, you need to change that, not just for her, but for you. But if you are doing something, you'll get more bang for your buck by paying attention to what it's like to be around you.

Fix the stuff you're worried about. Be kind to yourself before you adopt a self-sacrificing mission (looking at you, Christians and NRX guys). Get good sleep, don't be afraid to pursue cash.

*not stock options, not education, not equity---cash.

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