Don’t do what I did. Throughout college, I didn’t love myself or see my worth at all and this was reflected in my “dating strategy.” My goal was to date as far down as far as possible while making sure I was working to my maximum potential to enhance myself. Basically, I was dating guys with no life goals who were absolutely comfortable being at the bottom of the socioeconomic ladder while I was working to finish my degree and keep myself as physically fit and attractive as I could. I thought if I did this, I would land a guy who adored and appreciated me because he scored a girl out of his league. Looking back I was the ultimate “pick me.” Long story short, each one of these guys treated me like pure garbage. They treated me in ways you wouldn’t even imagine and I didn’t think I deserved better. I’m telling you this to say don’t ever fucking do this. Even if you don’t think you’re attractive or worthy, don’t EVER fucking date down. It will do you no favors. You may as well stay single and work on yourself until you realize what you truly deserve. This isn’t some bullshit toxic positivity I’m feeding you but real life 100% factual advice. If you date up and the guy turns out to be an asshole, you can say you got something out of it, whether it be nice dates, fun trips or strategic social connections. If you date down and you end up getting heartbroken and nothing else.

I’m sure some version of this has already been said on this subreddit but it can’t be stressed enough, especially to the younger ladies. So I’m saying it again.

Good luck, love yourselves and have fun!!