Hi there, I am asking this question because I am unsure as to what love feels like, or what the redpill version of love is. More specifically I want to know how it differs from oneitis.
Now for me I can either experience oneitis or no love at all. With my current LTR Ive gone through periods of intense oneitis, but I notice the outcome is that I become more beta and also become more insecure about her past sex life (I have had troubles with retroactive jealousy with every partner I've had and I realized the route cause of it was that I was overly attached)
I want to be able to love my LTR without this clingy feeling of wanting to own her and putting her on a huge pedestal. I want to be able to love her while understanding that she is just an addition to my life, not the centre of it. I want to be able to love her for what she is, and for her shortcomings and imperfections, but how the fuck do I do this? What am I meant to feel, how am I meant to feel it?
Every time I close myself off after noticing my oneitis is coming back, my gf notices and asks why I am becoming "more distant" or tells me I am becoming "cold".
Please can someone explain to me what love is meant to feel like within an ltr, and how I am meant to provide a measured sense of affection. Thanks