Why are tattoos seen as a red flag?

Governor_Humphries · 2019-01-03T17:02:04+00:00

The simplest argument is that trashy girls get tattoos. There's a high correlation there, for whatever reason. Girls with tattoos almost all come from a culture that thinks tattoos are cool, and most cultures that think tattoos are cool produce fewer winners in life than cultures that think tattoos are gross.

If you want to get more philosophical about it, you could say that it's a sign of poor impulse control and/or inability to engage in long-term thinking. You could also argue that it represents a girl wanting to draw attention to her body without putting forth the effort of getting into shape or having a well-developed sense of style. But I buy the cultural signaling argument a lot more.

Rkingpin · 2019-01-03T20:38:48+00:00

Would you graffiti a nice new sports car?

Quality doesn't get scribbled on

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-01-03T17:31:53+00:00

Folks who get excessive tattoos and piercing (or "graffiti" and "shrapnel" as I call them) are "sharing their emotional pain" with you. They can't verbalize it or want to short-hand it, etc.

Now that's not "everybody" with a tattoo, and there are some cultures where tattoos are a societal thing, but unless you're Maori that's not you. And I never understand why white kids get Chinese symbols they can't read tattooed on them. Free country, I suppose. Oh, and if a girl has something tattooed on her wrist or forearm in cursive, no matter what the word is, it translates as "DRAMA."

So yeah, you meet enough women with tats, you understand why it's a thing. Most of them are damaged. It's a form of aposematism, like dying their hair some weird industrial color.

__uwotm8__ · 2019-01-03T18:03:25+00:00

Often people get tats because they need validation from others

Kabuki431 · 2019-01-04T01:20:51+00:00

Most women i have dated with tattoos definitely had issues. Validation was first of em and daddy issues. I am talking about extreme, as in will skip rent to get a $1000 tattoo, then complain that shes broke.

Iamuseruser · 2019-01-03T23:13:21+00:00

Most women have tattoos these days, I wouldn't say it's a red flag at all, use it as an opener if anything.

Guys on here overthink things to the absolute maximum sometimes

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-01-03T21:59:03+00:00

A tattoo is supposed to be special and meaningful. Most girls who get them get stupid crap like butterflies and dolphins.

zeuD13 · 2019-01-04T00:02:29+00:00

Greeks and Romans branded their slaves and deserters with tattoos, that's why.
If you're a Westerner.

Whisper · 2019-01-04T06:33:14+00:00

You're looking at this wrong.

You don't reach conclusions by logicking them out. You reach them by observation. We have observed that women with tats are usually damaged goods.

My limit for tattoos is one. And it has to say "Property of {Whisper's real name}".

One_time_back_when · 2019-01-03T19:03:29+00:00

I'm ok with 1-2 classy, well placed tats. Forget about it being a red flag, I don't find a bunch of tats on a girl attractive.

kelticslob · 2019-01-04T04:09:03+00:00

I’ve read some of the psychology behind tattoos and they largely are an external representation of internal pain. They wouldn’t really make sense if tattooing was painless. And this makes sense when you see so many tattoos as obituaries for close friends/family that have passed. But girls that are head to toe in meaningless tattoos are probably going through...something. Do you want to take the time to find out what that is?

pointster_VSK · 2019-01-03T20:18:50+00:00

Its not exactly about girls having tattoos but more about the amount, the placement and what kind of tattoos all says something about the girl’s character.

To each is their own, you make the decision for yourself.

I love a girl with a nice tramp stamp, but i would never LTR one.

IVIaskerade · 2019-01-04T00:53:57+00:00

Tattoos originally represented some sort of achievement. They marked various rites of passage, and you earned them. Very few women ever earn theirs.

Secondly, they don't necessarily ruin a girl, but they never make her more attractive. Given that she pays money for them, at best it's poor financial decision making and at worst she fucks up her looks.

Third, they don't age well. As wrinkles, cellulite, and sagging set in, those tattoos are going to deform and look bad. Similarly, the tattoo itself gets worse - lines blur, colours fade, and the whole thing just looks a bit crap. Again, tattoos demonstrate a staggering lack of thought about the future.

It's also a shit test. By deliberately fucking herself up she's forcing you to reveal your stance and testing your frame.

Drakonlord · 2019-01-04T02:59:11+00:00

high correlation with bad women. The Tattoo's themselves aren't bad, but women with tattoo's tend to correlate with non-feminine attributes.

popthatpill · 2019-01-05T11:07:24+00:00

Because they look trashy (duh - what a stupid question).

kcxvi · 2019-01-04T01:19:00+00:00

They’re not

Title	Why are tattoos seen as a red flag?
Author	Daniel3gs
Upvotes	19
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Date	January 3, 2019 4:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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