Ladies! I was inspired by the wonderful response to my last post, to share my experience with lovebombing and how it’s utilised by men to trick you into giving your time/sex/emotions etc.

I dated someone in 2018 who was seemingly an amazing guy. He was very attractive, well rounded & charismatic. We went on a couple of dates and he lovebombed the SHIT out of me. Looking back I don’t know if he said a single thing that wasn’t him just layering on flattery like tiers on a wedding cake.

Nonetheless, my naive young self believed that this was a spiritual, soul mate connection and led to me allowing him to sleep over and have unprotected sex (he did the poke around ugh). I was young, insecure and relied on male validation so I was an easy target.

He eventually found a new victim and ghosted me whilst keeping occasional contact so as to not completely burn bridges. I was crushed because it was a big shock after the constant lovebombing.

SIX MONTHS later, he shows up to my community college where I was completing a certificate at the time and JOINS my class. In this time he doesn’t say a word to me or so much as look my way. I was shocked and confused. After a few weeks of this (I ignored him obviously because even negative attention is attention) and he messages me.

He basically asks me where we went wrong, and gaslights me when I bring up the fact he ghosted me. I eventually left the conversation because he was clearly a manipulative leach.

This situation devastated me for months because I was unfamiliar with these tactics that men utilise to get time, money, sex and attention from women. Of course I am responsible for my own actions but everything he did was to manipulate and confuse me for his own benefit.

He has a girlfriend now and it hurts knowing he gets off Scott free and probably tells everyone that I was the crazy one that ghosted him. I remember getting sly looks from people in our shared college class because he went around saying I broke his heart.

Thought I’d share in case anyone else has been in a similar situation, especially younger readers on here.

(Note - the ‘poke around’ as mentioned earlier is when they try to poke their dick in you without discussing or considering contraception. It’s disgusting and if you can’t have a conversation about protection you shouldn’t be havin sex)