Are you frustrated with your dating life?

Do you feel like you don't know how to get her to text back?

Do your plates keep breaking?

Do women even notice you?

If I were to summarise a majority of the questions here, by my estimation the majority of posts would revolve around a version of these questions.

Many men today feel absolutely lost in the world of dating, especially online dating, but also social circle game, day game etc. They don't know what women want! They feel like they don't know how to get their attention or keep it. Here they are, nice boys, played by the rules their whole life, and by the curse of biology and puberty, they want to cum inside a woman every day or every other day, and ideally a handful of different women. They play by the rules society tells them, check all the boxes they've been told women want, nice, stable, high-income jobs, polite demeanours, of course, I'll pick up the check and not mention sex till the 3rd date. But they're a loser, pothead cousin who keeps getting fired from Best Buy is sleeping with a new 8 every week, while you're most familiar Paramore is the one you're using to hold the phone and scroll through this post.

The sad thing is, you're doing it all wrong. Hopefully, you've realised the full extent of this by now being on TRP. But you're getting there.

Now all of TRP is dedicated to Sexual Dating Strategy and Tactics. But a lot of young men get caught up in the "how" parts of dating. How to take great photos for Tinder. How to text her. How to escalate. All of these are important and useful skills you need to learn, but without performing a step before that, you're only LARPing. You'll keep getting burned. Wondering why your text game isn't working. Wondering why girls keep telling you to fuck off when you escalate.

There's a broken step in your staircase. You keep trying to rush up the stairs to the second floor of the house. But your foot keeps sinking into the broken step. This hinders your running up the stairs every time. In fact, you've hurt your foot several times now, and you limp up the stairs. Until you fix the step, it doesn't matter how fast you run, you're going to keep hurting yourself.

The step is Building Your Own World.

Let me tell you a secret about women. Women don't have a fucking clue who they are. Their existence is entirely, and I mean entirely, defined by others. Their personalities are purely reactive, constructed. They form personalities based on what society tells them. They form opinions based on what other women tell them, their mother and father tell them, their father tells them. Their hobbies and interests are dictated by whoever's world they occupy. They know this. They hate this. They know their personality is a mere construct.

Imagine that. Imagine not knowing who you really are. Imagine not being able to define your tastes or preferences without taking a survey of everyone around you, or what action to take, or what is acceptable or not acceptable. Imagine having no likes or interests of your own. It's a boring, sad life.

Women know this. They live boring, sad lives. They need men to define the world for them. They need men to give them personality, and interests, and acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. They have no world of their own, not one they like anyway. They need to live in men's worlds. They can be as sophisticated and educated in the professional world, but in the social and personal world, this is how they're defined.

Why is this?

Let me use an example from marketing. Imagine there's a product that's obviously, intuitively valuable, to everyone. It is a generic product, easily available, everyone uses it, everyone wants it, no one thinks of it. It is universally valued and desired. Like water. Water, famously, is odourless and colourless. It gets its taste and shape and smells from whatever space it occupies and whatever the environment around it says. You can't answer the question of what water is without reference to its chemical composition or physical properties. Water doesn't need to worry about selling itself or whether it's valuable. We all know it, by biology we need it, and when we do we'll drink it.

That's what women are like. Due to biology, in the social and personal world, women already have value. They are people who can make other people. To the survival of the species, that's quite valuable. That's desirable. It's universally desired. No man, if pushed, doesn't want to have sex with most women.

When you're universally desired, you get a lot of what I'll call inbound interest. And you get it from everyone. Women don't need to put in any hard work to get sexual interest. They have to just signal their availability, and thanks to the internet, a 100 guys in 24hrs will make themselves available to her. Guys with different tastes, style, approaches. Remember, when the objective is just to have sex, she is universally desired. She has to put no effort into defining herself a particular way to be attractive.

Her problem is different. It is not one of interest, it is one of the right selection. As her social and personal personality is exclusively externally defined as she never had to bother defining it, she has no real radar to use except than what she's told to use to make that right selection. That's where you come in.

Your job is to be selected. She doesn't know how to select. She's been taught some heuristics by society. Stronger is better. Selected by other women is better. A swimmer is better. If she's been in the sexual marketplace long enough, she's developed some heuristics of her own. Must be 6 feet tall. The car you drive.

She doesn't have a world, and she doesn't like the one constructed for her by society always, even though it keeps her safe from the worse risks of sex for her.

Helping her make that selection as you is your job. You have to define a world for her.

In order to define a world for her, you have to have built a world you can invite her into. When you're competing with a 100 other guys, it's having a world that is appreciably different and your own that it can't be anyone else's is how you communicate quality and strength. If you have a well defined world that she can just enter into, you take the burden off her of having to firstly tell you that you need to defined a world for her, but more importantly, to make decisions according to the rules of that world.

That world can be anything.

In marketing, we call this branding. What is the personality, voice, and outcome you put out into the world that's different from your competitors? Do you use the same brand of toothpaste every day, and buy only that one brand? Why? The other brand works for all intents and purposes just as well. But that one brand of toothpaste has convinced you that they have a different story, something special to sell. They've constructed a world where you're happier with the purchase of this toothpaste than the other and invited you into it.

How will building your world help you?

In marketing, we use buyer personas. It's a way to get specific at a granular level about who our target market is. You are a man. You are a product that needs to be constructed, advertised, and sold. A buyer persona helps you identify who will buy what you're constructing and make decisions faster. It defines you.

For example, if you sell pork sausages, you may have a very cheap opportunity to advertise the product in Saudi Arabia or a very expensive one in Canada. Which one do you take? Because you've defined your buyer persona as North Americans and not Saudi Arabians, a majority Muslim country where it is against the religion to eat pork, even though the Canadian advertising costs are more expensive, you choose to advertise in Canada.

Let's say you construct a world as a gamer. You view your identity as a gamer. You keep up with all the latest trends. All your friends are gamers. Do you have a better shot at picking up a girl at a nightclub or a gaming convention? If you don't construct and define your own world, you may spend night after night striking out at the nightclub, when you could have been slaying mad poon at the gaming convention.

You've constructed your world as one in which there is peace and quiet. You're a pondering, philosophical type who likes to read. You don't like using your phone much. Do you text your plates back immediately? Or do you wait a few hours, even a few days? The latter.

You've constructed your world as a Casanova. Do you sign up for ChristianMingle or Tinder? The latter, obviously.

It takes a lot of hard work to Define Who You Are and Construct Your World. But once you do, you'll find you may never need to ask a question on here again or worry about a girl texting you back or sleeping with her or not.