How do you flirt?

FleetingWish · 2018-03-15T22:40:14+00:00

This is not a post by me, original post here. I made some edits, keep in mind that there are different levels of intensity here depending on how you know the person. Don't start a tickle fight with someone you don't know.

Touch:

Touching anywhere can be actually construed as flirting -- the more unnecessary, the flirtier it is. Touching is usually far more flirty than your words or body language. More notable and obvious examples:

Any sort of playful horse play -- punching/pushing shoulder, etc.
Touching leg when displaying interest in the conversation
Touching arm is the same but less intensified
Legs accidentally touching under table, then not moving. Usually this escalates till it's pretty clear it's no longer an accident and is comfortable.
Putting hand on guy's chest when listening, or in photos, almost like petting.
Sitting on lap
Tickling fights
Leaning in on each other
Pressing breasts against the guy when the opportunity arises (e.g. doorways/comparing height/hugs)
Comparing hand size, but touch
Not withdrawing from the guy's touch. (Close distance in general)

Body language:

Eyes

Eye Contact -- eye contact which definitely isn't accidental. Best from a distance which is too far to speak over.
Alternatively, getting caught looking and looking away quickly / getting flustered / trying to hide it.
Intense eye contact during conversation
Intermittently looking at lips
Increased blink rate (a general indication of some sort of mental pressure) [FW: This one is more of an involuntary IoI. You don't want to start looking like a bug flew in your eye]

General

Positioning yourself near the guy you're into (to hopefully induce a conversation -- guys will notice if they're into you too)
Direction your body is facing. The more direct, the better.
Laughing a lot and seeming happy/excited during conversation. [FW: And don't forget smiling in general]
Nervousness
Twirling hair.
Scratching hand/wrist.
Cocking head, which displays interest (in general).
Mirroring behaviour
Wetting lips (anticipation of kissing)
Making petulant back-and-forth faces against each other (e.g. sticking out tongue)
Becoming flushed (relatively hard to fake)
When sitting down, rubbing inside of thighs (Quite forward...)
Rubbing thighs together (Even more forward. You want to fuck right now -- girls sometimes do this when they're turned on because it apparently feels good. I'm sure most can imagine why.)
Allow yourself to be talking together in relative isolation (i.e. no friends in your conversation).
Putting hand over breast/chest while talking
Touching neck
Exposing neck
Smiling suggestively, like in an inside joke in a conversation
Encouraging sharing of drinks [FW: Or Food]
Exchanging items which will need to be recovered later/ensure future meeting, e.g. borrowing a lighter, or owing drinks.

Verbal

Teasing in general. Challenging naturally allows you to assess each other's character. [FW: Low level shit testing is okay]
Pet names
General flattery -- flattery of physical aspects is usually more flirty.
General interest [FW: Ask him questions about himself]
Exchanging contact details.
Asking what you're doing later
Asking where you live
Assuming he has a girlfriend
Asking relationship status
If the conversation dies, you try to reinitiate
Offering to buy or asking for drinks.
Double entendres (you don't need to be James Bond, or even make your own -- you can misconstrue the other's words and call the guy out as if it were deliberate, or it can just be subtext, e.g. talking about sleeping can hint things).
Talking about sex and relationships
Creating a 'we' relationship, e.g. we should get shots
Doing favours.
Kisses in text messages

There's seriously room for creativity. Basically, touching and eye contact are excellent.

MissNietzsche · 2018-03-15T18:45:16+00:00

I don't.

But if I were to: eye contact, smiling, laughing at their jokes, breaking the physical contact barrier, positioning my body toward them, and making them feel masculine would probably be the most important.

EDIT: Didn't read the situation, oops. I've never approached a guy and probably never will. I'm attracted to dominance, so if he doesn't make the first move, I probably wouldn't like him anyway. That said, looking available is definitely something I could/would do.

LateralThinker13 · 2018-03-15T20:06:46+00:00

Look at him. Smile at him. That's all it takes for a self-confident man.

PhaedrusHunt · 2018-03-15T16:14:34+00:00

Give him a little wave and a smile

DresdenAnachronism · 2018-03-15T21:42:02+00:00

I'd go over and give him a chance to swoop in and say something.

Whisper · 2018-03-15T21:53:28+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7ad6eb/approaching_men_the_art_of_the_bad_excuse/

aussiedollface · 2018-03-21T02:45:37+00:00

I’ve never been a fan of overt flirting to attract a high quality man. Also not a particular fan of finding “excuses” to talk to men. In my experience, if they’re interested they will approach you. Our job is to make them interested, which is achieved by your own special brand of femininity, charm, and demeanour xo

Title	How do you flirt?
Author	hermedicine
Upvotes	14
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Date	March 15, 2018 4:08 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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